Private Sub-Board?

[gratefulgirl]

Now that babies are arriving, did we have interest in a private sub-board? It's a password protected place where members might feel a little more comfortable with things like baby pictures. Usually the mod is appointed password keeper and the password rules are things like over 100 posts on the board (ish).

[ameliabird]

I'd be alright with it

[joy]

I will post the same on a private sub-board as I do on the main board. But, I'm hyper-vigilant about internet privacy and won't be posting any pictures of my kid anywhere.

Just remember - posters can turn a bit nutty even after being seemingly normal for a long time. There were quite long posts about this on Parenting and GKU recently. I would not feel "safer" on a private board, but I am just one voice.

[youdontsay]

I would be okay with it as long as anything wasn't searchable via Google (if that makes sense).

[countrycotton]

I'm team joy

[pbandjelly]

Jul 28, 2016 11:52:29 GMT -5 youdontsay said:

I would be okay with it as long as anything wasn't searchable via Google (if that makes sense).

I second this.

[gratefulgirl]

Jul 28, 2016 11:34:02 GMT -5 joy said:

I will post the same on a private sub-board as I do on the main board. But, I'm hyper-vigilant about internet privacy and won't be posting any pictures of my kid anywhere.

Just remember - posters can turn a bit nutty even after being seemingly normal for a long time. There were quite long posts about this on Parenting and GKU recently. I would not feel "safer" on a private board, but I am just one voice.

Well those were fun rabbit holes to fall down .

[elm1214]

I think it sounds like a good idea.

[steph]

I'm in. We have one for O12 and I'm a fan!

[Rama]

I've heard pros and cons to both. Ultimately, I think it causes more headache than anything else (people feeling left out/qualifications for getting the pw, rats/spies, people sharing the pw without mod knowledge, "safe" space that generates catfish fodder for a closet crazy, etc), so I'd vote with a grand shoulder shrug. I'd participate either way.

[steph]

Rama, I can see where you're coming from. I think part of the reason it works for O12 is because there's only like 10 of us.

[Rama]

Jul 28, 2016 13:33:48 GMT -5 steph said:

Rama, I can see where you're coming from. I think part of the reason it works for O12 is because there's only like 10 of us.

I also want to give props where deserved: we're seriously one of the chillest BMBs. I don't necessarily think any of that drama would follow us to a private board, but I'd hesitate to invite it, too.

I like us like this. :)

[frodabaggins]

Jul 28, 2016 12:11:44 GMT -5 gratefulgirl said:

Jul 28, 2016 11:34:02 GMT -5 joy said:

I will post the same on a private sub-board as I do on the main board. But, I'm hyper-vigilant about internet privacy and won't be posting any pictures of my kid anywhere.

Just remember - posters can turn a bit nutty even after being seemingly normal for a long time. There were quite long posts about this on Parenting and GKU recently. I would not feel "safer" on a private board, but I am just one voice.

Well those were fun rabbit holes to fall down .

I can't find 'em, will you link me? I want to fall down those rabbit holes!

[frodabaggins]

Jul 28, 2016 11:34:02 GMT -5 joy said:

I will post the same on a private sub-board as I do on the main board. But, I'm hyper-vigilant about internet privacy and won't be posting any pictures of my kid anywhere.

Just remember - posters can turn a bit nutty even after being seemingly normal for a long time. There were quite long posts about this on Parenting and GKU recently. I would not feel "safer" on a private board, but I am just one voice.

Will you be keeping pics 100% off Instagram/FB? putting them on a password-protected photo site like Photobucket? or just emailing/texting them to the people you want to see them. 

[kam3100]

I'm not sure how I feel about a private board. I guess I'd be okay with it if I was invited lol. But idk. I would be nervous that it'd kill this bmb.

[gratefulgirl]

I'm glad people have expressed opinions on all sides of the issue. I started the thread because it seemed like most 2016 BMBs ahead of us had them and my A14 BMB has one that people have used. However I am uncomfortable with the idea of anyone feeling left out, and it sounds like that's going to be at least possible.

Also I'm in the club of people that likely won't post pictures. The closest I've ever gone is hands/feet.

[gratefulgirl]

Jul 28, 2016 13:45:28 GMT -5 frodabaggins said:

Jul 28, 2016 12:11:44 GMT -5 gratefulgirl said:

Well those were fun rabbit holes to fall down .

I can't find 'em, will you link me? I want to fall down those rabbit holes!

The Parenting one has the title Family Court (I think, assuming I found the right thread).

I didn't read the GKU one as long, but it looked like it was "Where Are They Now?"

[Rama]

Jul 28, 2016 14:18:20 GMT -5 gratefulgirl said:

Jul 28, 2016 13:45:28 GMT -5 frodabaggins said:

I can't find 'em, will you link me? I want to fall down those rabbit holes!

The Parenting one has the title Family Court (I think, assuming I found the right thread).

I didn't read the GKU one as long, but it looked like it was "Where Are They Now?"

Yep. We're reminiscing about people who have gone missing on GKU. Both good and bad. I think it's around 30 pages atm?

[hummingbird125]

I think I'm okay with having one to just share photos on - and I guess to set up any GTG's, but I would hope that 99% of convos would still be happening on the main board? I do most of my posting via mobile and it's already a pain to have to re-log-in constantly, that I don't forsee myself using the private board too much as that would require a second pw, if that makes sense.

[meagpt22]

I'm part of a private board on O14 but it was only started a year after the babies came. Bc some people increased participation after babies and some disappeared. As of right now I probably wouldn't qualify based on how many posts I do. I love tit but don't post regularly. But wanted to offer my option on when my board went to password protected.

[blueinred]

I would be fine with a private board. I still am reluctant to post pictures.
Question: If there were a private board, would that mean our postings are not accessible to anyone but the members? Would it be available to TCF moderators? PM me if anyone wants to know why I'm asking.

Now that we're all close to delivering, or already have and have become a cohesive group, I must confess that initially I was very hesitant to post and be among 'normal pregnant woman.' I'm so glad I decided to go ahead because you are the coolest, chilliest group of women around, far more caring, considerate and respectful than another board that was previously home base.

[steph]

Jul 28, 2016 13:45:19 GMT -5 Rama said:

Jul 28, 2016 13:33:48 GMT -5 steph said:

Rama, I can see where you're coming from. I think part of the reason it works for O12 is because there's only like 10 of us.

I also want to give props where deserved: we're seriously one of the chillest BMBs. I don't necessarily think any of that drama would follow us to a private board, but I'd hesitate to invite it, too.

I like us like this.

Some of the O12 moms who've had babies since then have mentioned that their other BMBs were brutal. I was super nervous when I jumped onto this one- but then so pleasantly surprised.

[joy]

Jul 28, 2016 13:47:10 GMT -5 frodabaggins said:

Jul 28, 2016 11:34:02 GMT -5 joy said:

I will post the same on a private sub-board as I do on the main board. But, I'm hyper-vigilant about internet privacy and won't be posting any pictures of my kid anywhere.

Just remember - posters can turn a bit nutty even after being seemingly normal for a long time. There were quite long posts about this on Parenting and GKU recently. I would not feel "safer" on a private board, but I am just one voice.

Will you be keeping pics 100% off Instagram/FB? putting them on a password-protected photo site like Photobucket? or just emailing/texting them to the people you want to see them. 

Pics will be eeeeeextremely limited on Facebook. My husband doesn't even have it and is uncomfortable with pictures of himself on it. I know he won't like pics of the kid up there too much.

[frodabaggins]

blueinred, amen!

My A14 board was great too, but there is something special here!

[hashbrownnofilter]

joy I am not as limited with photos, but close. H doesn't have Facebook either and is also convinced that the infrequent photos I post of DS are too much (one every 6 months or so). We're teachers and he's working toward building admin/superintendency, so it's understandable - people go crazy over anything they can find about educators online, even if it's innocuous.

That said, I have no preference either way. But I am super thankful that you all are kind, reasonable, and normal!!

[bocaburger]

I'm fine either way. I like you all and think it's unlikely that you're all closet crazies who have just been waiting for a private board to let your true colors shine. I would be more likely to post baby pics on a private board but I am also fine not posting many pics, or posting and poofing. I definitely don't want people to feel left out.

[esquette]

I'd like one, but I won't be upset either way!