Post by NellieOleson on Aug 4, 2016 10:45:57 GMT -5
H's cousin lives in town, and it's his only family that lives near here - everyone else is in the Midwest. They were close growing up, I get along with his wife well enough, and they have two small kids (3.5 yo dd and 3 month old ds), so that is nice, too. However, I can't stand the 3 year old and it makes me feel like such a jerk! She is just so whiny, pouty, and is terrible at sharing. Being around her stresses me out because my dd1 is running around having a great time, and the other little girl is constantly complaining about her. Example: dd1 will shriek in delight at something they are playing and the other girl will go tell her mom "Her screamed. Her is not my family. Her can't play with me." Then sit on the couch pouting with her arms crossed and a sullen look on her face while my dd1 runs around trying to get her to play again.
I'm taking the kids over there to play this afternoon and I'm totally feeling anxious about it! Ugh. I want to spend time with them occasionally so my girls get to know that side of their family better, but right now I really hate it. I keep hoping she'll grow out of it, but she's been this way since before she was 2. :/
The last time I felt rested was probably high school. But I've had insomnia since I was a teenager, so...
I think my BFF is coming over today. And later the kids and I are going to my mom's house. I just switched M to a faster flow nipple, and lo and behold, suddenly she's finishing bottles instead of just drinking one or two ounces at a time. It also means she slept better last night.
NellieOleson - ugh - just, ugh. I hope that the little girl snaps out of it - she is way too young to have such a short fuse! Sorry that what should be a lovely family playdate is so anxiety-inducing :/
Lollipop - maybe I should change the nipple size we are giving to my LO - did you go from a 2 to a 3? She is eating much less at each feeding and it may be because of frustration - that thought had never before entered my mind ...
OMG NellieOleson, that would stress me out too! What does her Mom do when she acts this way?
Most of the time she does nothing, but last time they were over here - about a month ago - I could tell she was getting a little exasperated and embarrassed about it. I just don't understand why she would let her daughter bring toys over to our house if she is going to act like a huge brat if dd1 even looks at them. I get that she's still a toddler and can't be expected to be the best at social skills and manners, but her attitude is soooo lame.
We are headed over there as soon as dd2 wakes up from her nap. Wish us luck!
Me:24 DH:27 Married: 12/15/12 BFP May 2014 from IUI #2 after 8 months TTC B/G/G triplets born on 10/22/2015 at 25w5d After a total of 140 days in the NICU all three of my miracles came home!
snd1231 I am with you. So done. We survive the children's museum, but I've never parked on the 10th level of the parking ramp and today I did. So many people. Now we are home and the kids are crazy bc they missed naptime. It's still rainy and ridiculously humid. I hate this weather. Did I mention I have nothing planned for dinner?
dizzycooks don't feel bad I haven't started even thinking about dinner either. I think dh can have cereal or cook himself. Yeah right. At least you survived the museum!
Me:24 DH:27 Married: 12/15/12 BFP May 2014 from IUI #2 after 8 months TTC B/G/G triplets born on 10/22/2015 at 25w5d After a total of 140 days in the NICU all three of my miracles came home!
I'm sorry about the sucky experience kcrkcs. I've been reading a lot about Narcisistic families (assigned reading from our counsellor). The adult children that grew up in these families can experience even small critisisms as a major hit on their self worth. I don't really have immediate suggestions other than being sensitive to it if this might be the case.
Both of my babies are teething. It is the worst. They were losing it yesterday and all DS wanted to do was go to the mall. I took them and we wandered around for a bit and had an ice cream. I got lots of complements on my kids My anxiety has been under pretty good control for everyday stuff now and a big part of that has been me letting go of stuff - like trying to accomplish multiple things with two kids in tow when one is determined to walk on his own.
MH is home his afternoon and evening to look after them because I got my IUD today. I'm taking it easy and feeling very peaceful about the idea that we won't be adding to our family unintentionally any time soon.
kcrkcs, sorry about the situation with your H. Building off of what Nellie said, I also think sometimes people have to try things and maybe screw them up to really learn how to do it. Easier said than done when you have to hear your baby fussing of course.
NellieOleson, I'm stressed just hearing about that girl. I hope her behavior changes soon. And I hope your playdate went ok.
I can't remember the last time I felt well-rested. I will say that for the first probably two months I was going to bed when the baby went to bed around 9 or 10 and I was getting enough sleep then. I wouldn't say I was rested because it was broken sleep but more than I used to get (and more than I get now)!
I've been following the blinds thread too, but I can never get caught up. I just read it while nursing. I gave up on the first one and just jumped over to the second one, but I'm falling in the hole on that one too.
H is coming to visit again this weekend! We're planning to try solid foods (avocado) for the first time and maybe try out a swing.
H's birthday is at the end of the month, and our anniversary is in two weeks and I have bought no gifts. I really hope he's not expecting anything this weekend
Wahhh traveling again. All tucked into our hotel. Baby is knocked out. Totally splayed out in bed. One hand holding my arm. Update on the hubs situation. He gave me an opportunity to bring it up. The conversation didn't get very far because he doesn't like to talk about feelings but at least we started the conversation. Thanks all for reading my very long whine/rant and your thoughts.
If I got H a "real" anniversary card I think it would read; dear H, you begged for our marriage and brought yourself back from the abyss. I'm glad you're here and hopeful for our future.
Maybe I'll write that anyway.
What do I get him with that? Chocolates?
LOL I don't know what that marriage challenge thingy is but I'm pretty sure it's a good thing no one has tagged me.
Someone explain the blinds thread! I don't get it...
Basically there is a website that this guy runs and he supposedly has a ton of dirt on celebrities. He posts "blind items" daily but he doesn't reveal who he is talking about. Sometimes you can figure it out from the clues he gives. Twice a year he reveals who some of the blind items are about. The thread started when the blind item reveal happened on July 4th and someone posted the blind items there as he posted them in his website. Then every one talks about them and the conversation has spiraled from there.
If I got H a "real" anniversary card I think it would read; dear H, you begged for our marriage and brought yourself back from the abyss. I'm glad you're here and hopeful for our future.
Maybe I'll write that anyway.
What do I get him with that? Chocolates?
LOL I don't know what that marriage challenge thingy is but I'm pretty sure it's a good thing no one has tagged me.
I've actually been meaning to ask you how things were going but also didn't want to pry. So it sounds like he is trying? I think that is worth celebrating but I totally get how hard it is to find a card when things aren't exactly all hunky dory.
If I got H a "real" anniversary card I think it would read; dear H, you begged for our marriage and brought yourself back from the abyss. I'm glad you're here and hopeful for our future.
Maybe I'll write that anyway.
What do I get him with that? Chocolates?
LOL I don't know what that marriage challenge thingy is but I'm pretty sure it's a good thing no one has tagged me.
I've actually been meaning to ask you how things were going but also didn't want to pry. So it sounds like he is trying? I think that is worth celebrating but I totally get how hard it is to find a card when things aren't exactly all hunky dory.
Things are okay. It's a real mindf*ck actually; it's like my H is back but he has no idea who was here or what they were doing the last couple years.
On the day-to-day we're doing all right and even connecting on a husband & wife level. There's still a whole lot of history that we're not ready (according to our counsellor, and I agree) to deal with though. We've got side-projects to help us get there.
It's really painful and confusing for me to look at the big picture. On the small scale, I'm okay with where we are given where we've been and I'm happy with the direction we're headed.
NellieOleson - ugh - just, ugh. I hope that the little girl snaps out of it - she is way too young to have such a short fuse! Sorry that what should be a lovely family playdate is so anxiety-inducing :/
Lollipop - maybe I should change the nipple size we are giving to my LO - did you go from a 2 to a 3? She is eating much less at each feeding and it may be because of frustration - that thought had never before entered my mind ...
We went from Playtex slow flow to fast flow. The upside is she's eating better, the downside is that she's started spitting up more again. Not the end of the world tthough
Post by scorpioscuba on Aug 4, 2016 23:26:20 GMT -5
valie, I'm glad to hear things are moving forward in a positive direction even if it's slow. It's super hard work but it sounds like you are both putting in the effort. I can imagine there is lots of healing that needs to take place as well. I hope that happens for you when you the time is right!
Post by NellieOleson on Aug 5, 2016 7:53:31 GMT -5
Blaaaaaahhhh. Up at 4:45 today.
I wish there was a way to change a baby's poop schedule. This early wake up call is not cool. Neither is dealing with an overflowing blowout before the freaking sun is even up. It happened at 5:30 yesterday, but this is ridiculous.
On the plus side, she is squealing with delight at what seems to be the simple fact that she's alive, so if I have to wake up this early to something, I'm glad it's her.
snd1231 - helloo there hot mama! I am sending you all the biggest thoughts and hugs! Our house is cray-cray and we are both so tired with a six month old and a three year old. You are Super Woman for doing it with triplets!
We are a sick house - we all have the same colds. DD got diagnosed with an ear infection last night and woke up once every hour. I am a zombie. And today I have to pack up three bags for vacation while DD needs to jump from 9 mo to 12 mo clothes. Fun times at my house! Everyone is invited! LOL!
Now to go start drinking from my gallon jug of coffee ...
Post by scorpioscuba on Aug 5, 2016 9:41:41 GMT -5
TGIF!! Sending high octane coffee to those that need it. ☕️☕️☕️DD woke up earlier than normal as well. Is there a full moon or something? 🌑 What's going on with these kiddos?
14joa31 bummer about the sickies. I hope you all recover fast especially since you are going on vacation. Anywhere fun?
Post by NellieOleson on Aug 5, 2016 15:48:23 GMT -5
14joa31 - And say what!?? You've been squeezing all 21 lbs of that girl into 9 month clothes still? What's your secret? I can barely get mine into most 12 month things these days -- we are full on 18 mo up in here.
Some dad at the park today said, "Whoa. That's a big six month old," when I told him how old she was. She was sprawled out asleep in the stroller and looked like a toddler. My big, squishy girl.
Post by NellieOleson on Aug 5, 2016 15:50:51 GMT -5
Anyone else's baby having severe stranger danger lately? It started here about a month ago and is only getting worse. Her whole face will crumple and she'll break down into the saddest cry ever if anyone even stands too close while I'm holding her. Forget anyone else beside me or daddy picking her up -- not even grandma is allowed. Dd1 was never like this, so it's uncharted territory for me. There is something kind of endearing about it, but dang I hope it's a short phase. I like handing my baby off when I get a chance!
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