Randoms AUGUST 1st!!

[jewel441]

LO. Cooperated beautifully by taking a 2+ hr nap so I could read all of the new HP. Yay, yay, yay!!!

[blackbird]

Aug 1, 2016 15:52:02 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

LO. Cooperated beautifully by taking a 2+ hr nap so I could read all of the new HP. Yay, yay, yay!!!

Ok so yay or nay? I'm on the fence to order it.

[jewel441]

Aug 1, 2016 16:07:02 GMT -5 blackbird said:

Aug 1, 2016 15:52:02 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

LO. Cooperated beautifully by taking a 2+ hr nap so I could read all of the new HP. Yay, yay, yay!!!

Ok so yay or nay? I'm on the fence to order it.

Yay! I mean I wish it were a book, or a few books actually, it definitely could have been drawn out into a series of books... There is a lot that happens very quickly and it jumps through like 4 years of time. But the story is good and so very Harry Potterish

[paloslee]

Aug 1, 2016 15:18:25 GMT -5 @pennycandy said:

4 month appointment went well. J only cried for a couple of seconds with his shots. I'm hoping he sleeps all afternoon.

I know I keep going back and forth, but I'm weaning from the pump. I started cutting down my pumping time today. I will pick up formula on Wednesday when I had to Target. I'm planning to just send him with formula when he starts daycare.

DH failed to get me anything to eat for lunch this week when he went to the store yesterday so I'll have to go back. I'm slightly annoyed, but mostly just glad he did the majority of the grocery shopping.

If you do purchase formula from target.  they have buy three get a $10 gift card deal going on right now.  and you can use your formula checks too.

[halfahippy]

Aug 1, 2016 16:24:27 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

Aug 1, 2016 16:07:02 GMT -5 blackbird said:

Ok so yay or nay? I'm on the fence to order it.

Yay! I mean I wish it were a book, or a few books actually, it definitely could have been drawn out into a series of books... There is a lot that happens very quickly and it jumps through like 4 years of time. But the story is good and so very Harry Potterish

I started it last night, but only made it through the first act. I agree that it would have made a great novel/series. I would love to actually see the play. I want to know how they are pulling off some of the special effects that are described.

[megrae12]

When you are getting a migraine and H can't seem to console the crying baby

[jewel441]

Aug 1, 2016 17:07:59 GMT -5 halfahippy said:

Aug 1, 2016 16:24:27 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

Yay! I mean I wish it were a book, or a few books actually, it definitely could have been drawn out into a series of books... There is a lot that happens very quickly and it jumps through like 4 years of time. But the story is good and so very Harry Potterish

I started it last night, but only made it through the first act. I agree that it would have made a great novel/series. I would love to actually see the play. I want to know how they are pulling off some of the special effects that are described.

Ya, same. I'm sure it will be a movie eventually too. Lol.

[xxkimmy8xx]

Lo is so cranky by 630. That last 1.5 hours till bed is the worsttttt

[sctiger]

Aug 1, 2016 13:52:56 GMT -5 lindy04aggie said:

The twins are 5 months old today. FIVE! What the what??

Our kids have the same birthday! I can't believe it's been 5 months!

[xxkimmy8xx]

To the 15 year old selling discount coupons for the high school football team at 845pm who woke up my sleeping child by ringing the doorbell, you must now come inside and put him back to bed.

[sunshineshades]

Aug 1, 2016 18:32:37 GMT -5 xxkimmy8xx said:

Lo is so cranky by 630. That last 1.5 hours till bed is the worsttttt

Is there a reason you don't put him to bed at 6:30? E's bedtime is 6. It sucks sometimes but any later and bedtime is a meltdown.
Hopefully in a month or so I can push her closer to 7 when her sister goes to bed.
She sleeps until 6:30-7:00 am... with feedings in there.

[xxkimmy8xx]

Aug 1, 2016 20:04:01 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Aug 1, 2016 18:32:37 GMT -5 xxkimmy8xx said:

Lo is so cranky by 630. That last 1.5 hours till bed is the worsttttt

Is there a reason you don't put him to bed at 6:30? E's bedtime is 6. It sucks sometimes but any later and bedtime is a meltdown.
Hopefully in a month or so I can push her closer to 7 when her sister goes to bed.
She sleeps until 6:30-7:00 am... with feedings in there.

I never understood the early bed time BC right now he is up for the day around 8... Which makes his total wake time 12 hours. Isn't that the same if I push his bed time up to 630? Hell still be up at 630 which makes wake time the name. At least this way I can sleep till 8. Lmk if I'm missing something!

[sunshineshades]

Aug 1, 2016 21:02:06 GMT -5 xxkimmy8xx said:

Aug 1, 2016 20:04:01 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Is there a reason you don't put him to bed at 6:30? E's bedtime is 6. It sucks sometimes but any later and bedtime is a meltdown.
Hopefully in a month or so I can push her closer to 7 when her sister goes to bed.
She sleeps until 6:30-7:00 am... with feedings in there.

I never understood the early bed time BC right now he is up for the day around 8... Which makes his total wake time 12 hours. Isn't that the same if I push his bed time up to 630? Hell still be up at 630 which makes wake time the name. At least this way I can sleep till 8. Lmk if I'm missing something!

I don't think it has to do with wake time. It's about circadian rhythm. Like their biological clock. That link I posted in the sleep thread explains it I believe. I don't really get it haha but both my kids do better with early bedtimes.
Whatever works for you. I just figured it the last 1.5 hours is brutal moving it up might help. I get wanting to sleep in longer though lol.

[xxkimmy8xx]

Aug 1, 2016 21:21:39 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Aug 1, 2016 21:02:06 GMT -5 xxkimmy8xx said:

I never understood the early bed time BC right now he is up for the day around 8... Which makes his total wake time 12 hours. Isn't that the same if I push his bed time up to 630? Hell still be up at 630 which makes wake time the name. At least this way I can sleep till 8. Lmk if I'm missing something!

I don't think it has to do with wake time. It's about circadian rhythm. Like their biological clock. That link I posted in the sleep thread explains it I believe. I don't really get it haha but both my kids do better with early bedtimes.
Whatever works for you. I just figured it the last 1.5 hours is brutal moving it up might help. I get wanting to sleep in longer though lol.

Interesting!! I'll check it out. Thank you!

[carissa325]

Aug 1, 2016 21:21:39 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Aug 1, 2016 21:02:06 GMT -5 xxkimmy8xx said:

I never understood the early bed time BC right now he is up for the day around 8... Which makes his total wake time 12 hours. Isn't that the same if I push his bed time up to 630? Hell still be up at 630 which makes wake time the name. At least this way I can sleep till 8. Lmk if I'm missing something!

I don't think it has to do with wake time. It's about circadian rhythm. Like their biological clock. That link I posted in the sleep thread explains it I believe. I don't really get it haha but both my kids do better with early bedtimes.
Whatever works for you. I just figured it the last 1.5 hours is brutal moving it up might help. I get wanting to sleep in longer though lol.

DS definitely slept worse before we moved him to an early bedtime.

[paloslee]

Aug 1, 2016 21:02:06 GMT -5 xxkimmy8xx said:

Aug 1, 2016 20:04:01 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Is there a reason you don't put him to bed at 6:30? E's bedtime is 6. It sucks sometimes but any later and bedtime is a meltdown.
Hopefully in a month or so I can push her closer to 7 when her sister goes to bed.
She sleeps until 6:30-7:00 am... with feedings in there.

I never understood the early bed time BC right now he is up for the day around 8... Which makes his total wake time 12 hours. Isn't that the same if I push his bed time up to 630? Hell still be up at 630 which makes wake time the name. At least this way I can sleep till 8. Lmk if I'm missing something!

I put LO down by 730. If he goes down any later he's a hot mess. And if he goes to sleep later he is restless at nite and will fuss. He wakes up at 630 either way.

ETA: I'd like to move bedtime to 7 eventually.

[paloslee]

So happy. I made two dinners for the week. I'll have to come up with two other meals or maybe leftovers.

[roseinbloom]

Aug 1, 2016 12:47:49 GMT -5 paloslee said:

Wednesday is our 3 year anniversary. I hate buying gifts. I have no idea what to get H. We'll be going out for dinner and drinks on Sat. I want to get him a small gift but feeling lost...any suggestions? TIA

I just made two efforts to offer some suggestions and...nope. Nothing. Well, actually, I guess tHe least silly thing I could come up with for you would be movie theater tickets with a promise to see whatever he picks (or for him to go with a friend).

Helpful, right? Sorry.

[roseinbloom]

Not to be a downer in this thread, but I am so depressed. So depressed. Process in therapy is slow, medication only does so much. H has been supportive, but he's naturally reached a state of desensitivity to it. I don't want to burden others with my pain and dark thoughts and I'd just end up scaring or making people who care about me really uncomfortable. Journal writing turns my internal spiralling into concrete words I can look at and reinforce later.

I just feel so alone and so hurt and so powerless and so tired of it and ashamed for being like this even though I know that it's nothing to do with how grateful or not I am for my so perfect or not life.

Maybe if I just offer my sadness and hurt to the Internet, it will dissipate for now. I hope.

PDQ. I might poof. I'm not looking for advice or hair pats. I just...I want to release it and I hope this might help.

[xxkimmy8xx]

Aug 1, 2016 21:21:39 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Aug 1, 2016 21:02:06 GMT -5 xxkimmy8xx said:

I never understood the early bed time BC right now he is up for the day around 8... Which makes his total wake time 12 hours. Isn't that the same if I push his bed time up to 630? Hell still be up at 630 which makes wake time the name. At least this way I can sleep till 8. Lmk if I'm missing something!

I don't think it has to do with wake time. It's about circadian rhythm. Like their biological clock. That link I posted in the sleep thread explains it I believe. I don't really get it haha but both my kids do better with early bedtimes.
Whatever works for you. I just figured it the last 1.5 hours is brutal moving it up might help. I get wanting to sleep in longer though lol.

And he was up at 630. Early bedtime tonight it is!

[mom2boxers]

Hugs roseinbloom. Feel free to vent here. Whatever works for you to conquer the darkness. Is there another person besides your counselor you would trust at a low point just to sit with you/be with you if you feel the need?

[SheilaTheTank]

roseinbloom first of all *hugs*

2nd, if it does help to get it all down, but you dont want it really public, I would male a thread on the private board. Im not trying to banish this stuff there or anything but that board is a safe space where you can get it all out.

Can you increase your therapy sessions? Can they adjust or increase your meds? Would it be possible to bring yh to a therapy session so he can see how hard this is for you. I brought mh once and it helped immensely. It was like couples therapy light.

Please don't feel you need to hide your thoughts or that you are bringing the board down. Let me know if you ever want to talk.

[SheilaTheTank]

K goes to bed between 7:30 and 8pm and is awake and alert before 6am. Im afraid of what time she'd be up in the morning if she had an earlier bedtime.

[cinnamonsmiles]

Aug 1, 2016 14:55:25 GMT -5 xxkimmy8xx said:

Aug 1, 2016 13:47:04 GMT -5 peachesncream said:

I think apples actually cause constipation - it's why they recommend the BRAT diet for diarrhea, right?  FX she feels better soon!  Have you tried a rectal thermometer, bicycle legs, etc.?

I think the brat foods are just really bland foods, as to not upset the stomach.

BRAT foods are low in fiber so that they don't slow the exit of foods from the body. If someone has diarrhea, they will continue to have it until the bacteria/virus/irritant is flushed, so the quicker that person can get cleared out the better.

[Missy0483]

@shakeyjakey I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you're able to figure things out, whatever is best for you and LO.

[Missy0483]

If you guys could think about us today. Brady has had this weird spot on his upper back near his neck for about 2 months. The beginning of July, his pedi mentioned eczema, I didn't think that's what it was, but we tried hydrocortisone cream anyway. Didn't work. Fast forward to last night, I noticed it had changed. Not sure when exactly since it's on his back and not visible with clothes on. My friend works at an ENT and she was able to get us in with the doctor there today so I'll be leaving soon to head there. Here is a pic as of yesterday.

His hair though!!! I had to sweep it to the side, otherwise it was covering the spot completely lol.

[xxkimmy8xx]

Aug 2, 2016 9:01:27 GMT -5 Missy0483 said:

If you guys could think about us today. Brady has had this weird spot on his upper back near his neck for about 2 months. The beginning of July, his pedi mentioned eczema, I didn't think that's what it was, but we tried hydrocortisone cream anyway. Didn't work. Fast forward to last night, I noticed it had changed. Not sure when exactly since it's on his back and not visible with clothes on. My friend works at an ENT and she was able to get us in with the doctor there today so I'll be leaving soon to head there. Here is a pic as of yesterday.

His hair though!!! I had to sweep it to the side, otherwise it was covering the spot completely lol.

Glad you guys are getting it checked out to be on the safe side. Thinking of you guys. Keep us updated!

[xxkimmy8xx]

Aug 2, 2016 8:30:33 GMT -5 cinnamonsmiles said:

Aug 1, 2016 14:55:25 GMT -5 xxkimmy8xx said:

I think the brat foods are just really bland foods, as to not upset the stomach.

BRAT foods are low in fiber so that they don't slow the exit of foods from the body. If someone has diarrhea, they will continue to have it until the bacteria/virus/irritant is flushed, so the quicker that person can get cleared out the better.

Ah! You'd think I'd know that given the ridiculous amount of issues I've had in that department. Haha

[JoeLies]

So many hugs, roseinbloom. I had pretty awful PPD/PPA with DS1 and it took a long time before I could even consider having a second. Hell, I couldn't even believe that I hadn't basically ruined my life and I was convinced my poor baby had an awful Mom. It sucked. But talking a lot, getting fresh air, and lots of time really did help. I'm here if you need to vent.

[sunshineshades]

@shakeyjakey I am so sorry you are having such a hard time. I think all of the women on Parenting had a lot of great advice for you. I really don't know what to add other than even if you go back for the month to see how things go I would work on getting all your ducks in a row if you decide to leave again. I can't remember if you said anything about SO's thoughts on all this? Can you sit down and talk with him and see if he is willing to try harder?

On the topic of separated parents, mine separated when I was almost 17, and honestly a lot of times I wonder how things would be different if they had stayed separated when my mum first left him when I was 5. Like if my relationship with my dad would be better, if my dad wouldn't still be such an ass to my mom now because they would have had to co-parent more (quite possibly no, or even worse, who knows!). I am just saying, staying together for your kids is not always the best. Seeing happy parents and potentially a new loving relationship is much more important IMO.

Big hugs to you, just take it a day at a time