TTMA Hitting

[pghtruelove]

What is everyone doing about hitting? Is your LO hitting a lot? J is constantly hitting us in the face or hitting our pets, which is our biggest problem. We try to tell her "No" and redirect her to petting or hugging but she just turns around and does it again. We can deal with it when she hits us but we feel so bad when she hits out pets.

[jessila]

We're working on it too. We take O's hand and say 'Gentle' then pet/stroke the dog.
Of course, as I type this he's smacking the dog with a wooden spoon. So, it's going well.

[pghtruelove]

Aug 6, 2016 8:07:09 GMT -5 jessila said:

We're working on it too. We take O's hand and say 'Gentle' then pet/stroke the dog.
Of course, as I type this he's smacking the dog with a wooden spoon. So, it's going well.

J has basically turned into a sour patch kid. She hits the dogs and then hugs them.

[baytosa2013]

We are having issues with hitting and scratching too. She will reach up all cute and softly touch my face and then reach again and wham slap me or scratch me. She's good with the cats though. If I'm holding her I immediately set her down and say we don't hit, that's not nice. She gets upset and I say please tell mommy you are sorry and she lays her head down on me. But then she does it 5 mins later lol. She has pinched me bad a few times and I've smacked the top of her hand. It didn't do much but make her laugh so I don't do that anymore. I'm hoping it will go away as words come.

[mrsmonogrammed]

We are dealing with pinching-__- we just keep telling her "we don't pinch" but honestly I'm about ready to start "pinching" her back- I don't know that she realizes she's actually hurting us:( it's been good motivation to keep up with cutting her nails though;)

[tjanca22]

E has hit us a few times. Most of them have been when he's overtired or hungry. A few times have been with a toy or a book, which then he gets the toy taken away. I've found holding his arms at his side and sternly saying, "no we do not hit, that hurts Mommy" then I'll take his hand and show him what a nice touch looks like. So far it has worked for the time being and he won't do it for a few days. There's been times that he's hit us after we tell him no, but then we jut try again with the no, it hurts and show him what a nice touch is until he stops.
Good luck!

[hannahl201477]

Mal is a hitter for sure. So far it's just been playing never when he is mad. But I'm sure the day is coming where it becomes a "mean" hit. We try to redirect him and tell him it's not nice.

[shahoi]

O hits me in the face, scratches me, and pulls my hair all while I'm holding and rocking her to sleep. Her arms go wild when she gets tired. She likes to run her fingers through my hair, which turns to pulling out 1 or 2 hairs at a time, which hurts! All the more motivation to start putting her down drowsy but awake. I also tell her "No, we don't hit" or "be gentle with mommy's hair". Her feelings get hurt sometimes and she cries after I tell her no.

[Bluedaisy]

LO also hits and scratches, we say "ouch!" and put him down.

[tiffbot]

DD is a hitter and loud squealer. I know that a lot of it is that she understands so much of what we say and can't communicate back, it's always when she's frustrated. DS was a biter in this stage.

[mcp6286]

shahoi H has very sensitive little feelings too. She also cries when she gets reprimanded sometimes. Most of her hitting is playful but lately she's dealt out some angry ones. She also pulls hair and bites when she's playing. When it's playful, we just tell her it hurts and redirect her. When it's angry, I hold both her hands and sternly tell her "NO, we don't _______ when we're mad." It's 50/50 on the effectiveness scale.

[heartofglass]

Luckily A is great with the dogs in general now. In the beginning he would hit and grab handfuls of hair, but now he just rubs. It took months to get to this point. We would take him away from the dog or say 'gentle' and get him to mimic our strokes.

We are in the hitting, biting, hair pulling and sometimes pinching club. The hitting is really just when he's overtired and we've been doing a firm no along with either holding his arms still or I put him down and stop interacting with him. 'Gentle' does not work with my hair and thankfully the pinching isn't very often.

My biggest problem is kicking during diaper changes right now....

[periwinkledaydreams]

J pinches, pulls dogs hair, pulls my hair, etc. Just an EC perspective, at this age a firm "no" and remove/redirect is great. Something like "no hitting" "no pinching" etc. the word/action being emphasized verbally is the one youre actually trying to stop them from doing. So while they still don't have a firm grasp on the meaning of "no", in my experience its actually best to leave the second word out altogether. Am I making sense? So like J is scratching her cousin and I give a firm "No" then say "T likes gentle touches. Maybe she want a hug?" etc. "We don't scratch" and all she hears is the word scratch.

[periwinkledaydreams]

I think the biggest part is that right now every single thing they do is an experiment, they're not possibly "mean" hitting at this point, they just want to see what happens next. There are absolutely definitely some kids who get a good cheeky bit of glee out of the result (mines one of them, hardcore) but its still just action/reaction experiment. No such thing as a mean one year old IMO

[maddielynn321]

Aug 6, 2016 22:05:11 GMT -5 periwinkledaydreams said:

I think the biggest part is that right now every single thing they do is an experiment, they're not possibly "mean" hitting at this point, they just want to see what happens next. There are absolutely definitely some kids who get a good cheeky bit of glee out of the result (mines one of them, hardcore) but its still just action/reaction experiment. No such thing as a mean one year old IMO

Even though this thread is days old, I needed to read that tonight! This was my daughter tonight at bedtime. I was having a really difficult time because I was so exhausted and frazzled from packing. She continued to smack me after redirection and finally I had to set her in her crib and walk away for a few minutes. I was getting so upset wondering why she was behaving this way. Thank you!