If baby had been a boy we would not have. We have no religious reason to, Dh isn't, and the pediatric association isn't really pro-circumcision. I'd say the biggest thing for a few friends who have boys was did they want their son to "match" their husband/partner.
I hadn't thought much of it. But once we had DS I decided against it. My DH isn't and has never had any issues (cleaniness or infections). I couldn't see a good reason to cut any part of his body off.
I was against it, but ultimately left the decision up to H who was for it. I figured since he was in charge of the daily care and maintenance of penis, and I wasn't, then he was better qualified to make the final call.
I was against it, but ultimately left the decision up to H who was for it. I figured since he was in charge of the daily care and maintenance of penis, and I wasn't, then he was better qualified to make the final call.
Congrats! We found out we're having a boy yesterday too. Before we found out our first was a girl, FI and I had this discussion. I left the decision up to him, and he is for it. He is also circumcized.
I have two DS's and they both are. I never really thought about it too much with either of them as I was wasn't strongly for or against it.
In my experience, the OB on call from my practice came by a day or two after DS was born and a nurse took baby to have it done. With DS1, I remember them specifically telling me that he was so good and didn't cry. I don't remember if they said anything with DS2. I do remember they both seemed perfectly ok when they came back. I think I was more sad than they were.
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Post by fikafairy67 on Aug 6, 2016 20:19:52 GMT -5
We had it done so DS would "match" DH. Since obviously neither one of us had experience with maintenance/cleaning of uncircumcised, we went with what we were most comfortable with.
Post by legalbeagle on Aug 7, 2016 11:24:40 GMT -5
I really didn't want to do it with DS -- it just seems so needless and we're not religious though DH is circumcised -- but did some research and I swear I read somewhere that condom usage was higher (or maybe easier?) for those with circumcised penises. I'm sure there are a million conflicting studies but I felt like if it might make a difference then we'd circumcise.
I am also glad we are having a girl for this reason. I personally feel like there is zero medical reason for making this kind of change to a baby's body at birth. Also, the rate of circumcision is going way down in the U.S. and it's no longer a situation where if you don't circumcise your kid he will be in the vast minority. I feel like this is a practice that is definitely on its way out.
I really didn't want to do it with DS -- it just seems so needless and we're not religious though DH is circumcised -- but did some research and I swear I read somewhere that condom usage was higher (or maybe easier?) for those with circumcised penises. I'm sure there are a million conflicting studies but I felt like if it might make a difference then we'd circumcise.
As someone who has slept with men of both foreskin statuses, there is no difference between putting a condom on a circumsized vs an uncircumsized penis. They look the same when, um, in the state in which using a condom is necessary
I really didn't want to do it with DS -- it just seems so needless and we're not religious though DH is circumcised -- but did some research and I swear I read somewhere that condom usage was higher (or maybe easier?) for those with circumcised penises. I'm sure there are a million conflicting studies but I felt like if it might make a difference then we'd circumcise.
As someone who has slept with men of both foreskin statuses, there is no difference between putting a condom on a circumsized vs an uncircumsized penis. They look the same when, um, in the state in which using a condom is necessary
Oh yeah sorry my post seemed to imply that was true. Just something I read when I was researching. I also read that men who don't get circumcised have better orgasms or something so that pushed me into the circumcision camp for a while. I don't think it is a big deal either way but it just didn't really seem like a necessary medical procedure. I'm sure my husband feeling strongly that we should do it was more of a factor than anything I read online. Though of course that didn't prevent me from hours of Googling!
DS isn't. Not because I'm a big believer one way or another, but because of complications at birth (the cord was wrapped around his body) and blood sugar issues, they weren't able to do it at the hospital. For them to do it later, they would have had to put him under anesthesia, and I wasn't comfortable doing that to a six month old. DH was a preemie when he was born, so he isn't circumcised either, so the urologist advised that I don't circumcise DS so he and DH "have a matching set." I shit you not, he actually said that.
If we have anymore boys, we will not be circumcising simply so that everyone "matches" and there's no questions about why someone's penis is different than anothers.
HOWEVER, I will say that keeping an uncircumcised penis clean is not an easy feat. You have to pull the skin back to clean it, which isn't exactly a walk in the park when you have a toddler screaming, "Nooooooooo Mama! Mama OW!" And pee gets everywhere. FML.
kaydee0402, that is one thing I found perplexing. Our pedi told us (at whatever # months) to clean it. While my both my sister's pedi's did not. And one nephew is only a couple yrs older than DS. I only clean it once in a while when DS cooperates. He hasn't said ow when I do it though.
littlelion, I'm positive I'm not hurting him. He just enjoys being dramatic these days. He also screams ow when I do everything from kiss him to when I put a plate of food in front of him. New words are fun.
However, I do clean it once a night (I'm paranoid of infections...DS also gets a bath every night even though I know it's not necessary) and he's at that age where he can scream, fight me and try to run away. Asserting your independence is fun.
I was against it, but ultimately left the decision up to H who was for it. I figured since he was in charge of the daily care and maintenance of penis, and I wasn't, then he was better qualified to make the final call.
+1 I told DH it was up to him, he said yes.
This is where I am. I deferred to the penis-carrying member of our relationship.
However, I will say that there really isn't a "right" answer to this since everyone's families, situations, etc are all so very different. You do what's right for your family and that's the right answer for you.
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This is where I am. I deferred to the penis-carrying member of our relationship.
However, I will say that there really isn't a "right" answer to this since everyone's families, situations, etc are all so very different. You do what's right for your family and that's the right answer for you.
Post by WineNChocolate on Aug 8, 2016 11:49:42 GMT -5
This in the past has started up roars on boards...LOL. I am glad to see everyone keeping it together.
I left might up to my DH and we have decided no to circumcise him. I don't think there is really a medical reason to do it. My husband thinks its abrasive and not needed. So he has one I don't so I let him call it.
WineNChocolate, right? When I saw this as a topic when I first logged in this morning, my first thought was, "Fuuuuuck, it's way to early for this!" I'm happy it's stayed civil
I've been MIA for a few days so catching up on all the fun things! This is an interesting topic and I agree with a few of you that it's nice to see everyone having gotten along so well when it could have turned heated.
I agree that there's no perfect answer and you just have to do what's right for you. I hadn't ever thought about it (as we had a girl) until DH cousin mentioned to me that she had to go with her friend to have her son circumcised who had just been born bc her husband wasn't able to be there. She said they had actually let them watch (I'm surprised this is allowed?) him be circumcised and she said it was the worst thing in the world to see. After having heard that, I told DH that I wouldn't want to if we had a boy, however he's circumcised so he would want our son to be too (if we have a boy).... it's a tough call. The only problem that I have with it really is causing pain to our newborn that may not be "needed".... sad.
Whatever you decide will be right for your family!!
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