I am so over the same argument with my husband. So much over it I've been thinking of ending it. Permanently. Ugh. I shouldn't have to repeat this over and over. And he's 10 yrs older. Get.yo.shit.together.already.
That really sucks @janetheconquerer. Is it still him acting like he'd rather be doing other things and not helping? Have you guys had a chance to really talk just the two of you? Would he go to therapy with you? Hugs and a good hoppy beer.
hiimjamie L turned one on Saturday and no walking over here either
packmomma that would've annoyed me. Like who cares?
ampaints haha sometimes! Or sometimes a fall down a parenting celebrity rabbit hole or shopping thread and then my ads are soooo weird after.
I have a bug bite (unknown bug) that has swollen throughout the day and is blistering everywhere and turning deep purple the size of a golf ball around the bite. It's so weird but now I think I have to go to the dr to make sure it's not something like Lyme. I'm pretty sure all the ticks are gone by now but wtf haha. I have weird luck.
There was recently a post on parenting about a bite. I think Cher posted it. Does your symptoms match those?
Post by tuscanlatte on Aug 8, 2016 20:45:06 GMT -5
@janetheconquerer I'm sorry
Omg RandomName that sounds like exactly what I have. I'm not feeling well. It's hot, getting worse, and has spread from my foot to above my ankle. I need to get it looked at based on that Google. Hopefully it's still nothing.
ampaints, it's a mix of not helping and drinking. When he drinks during the day he completely fucks up our nightly routine and is no help. A fell asleep 20 mins ago in panties (he got her ready for bed)...I had to wake her up to change her.....and that was just 20 mins ago.. Theres an entire list of what he's screwed up since I got home at 5:30, starting with dinner.
It pisses me off. Go have a drink, but know your limit and come home and help parent for crying out loud.
And he will snore loud enough to wake the neighbors tonight and won't wake up to help with kid duty. So I'll be up for that then won't be able to go back to sleep due to snoring. Then when I'm pissy about it he will say to me, "when did you get so bitter", where I will grind my teeth and seethe, I'm not bitter, I'm fuckin pissed.
I'm just over this same fight. I drink too. But my 1-2 a night doesn't leave me incapable of handling an emergency if it came up. He just doesn't get it. And I don't think he ever will. He's freaking 47 for fucks sake. He's not a child. #overit.
@janetheconquerer sorry about YH. I totally understand you're having a rough night, but sounds like this is a real problem and sounds maybe beyond some time together. Have you considered reaching out to al anon? Drinking is definitely an issue if it is impacting his ability to manage day to day tasks safely. Take care of you and your babies. Hugs to you. Sorry you're dealing with this.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Omg RandomName that sounds like exactly what I have. I'm not feeling well. It's hot, getting worse, and has spread from my foot to above my ankle. I need to get it looked at based on that Google. Hopefully it's still nothing.
Is there a local hospital that you could have it looked at tonight just to be safe? So scary. FX that it's not what you have.
ampaints and @janetheconquerer Bluesfest was pretty fun! I only went Saturday for the afternoon and we went back for a little bit Sunday. DH went Friday and Saturday night and said it was a blast. To be honest it is really well done. They bring lots of great blues acts, a number of them from deep south apparently (DH likes to know all this crazy trivia, I smile and nod). The weather was great and M was grooving a bit to the music! Thanks for asking
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
tuscanlatte that doesn't sound good. I second having you have it looked at. I can't remember what province you are in, do you have access to telehealth? I would definitely put a call in to see if you need to get it checked immediately or can wait for tomorrow. FX it's nothing. But better safe than sorry.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Omg RandomName that sounds like exactly what I have. I'm not feeling well. It's hot, getting worse, and has spread from my foot to above my ankle. I need to get it looked at based on that Google. Hopefully it's still nothing.
Is there a local hospital that you could have it looked at tonight just to be safe? So scary. FX that it's not what you have.
I hope so too. There's nothing open here tonight, we don't have an ER! I drew borders around the 2 areas with a pen and I'm going to take my temperature. If it moves beyond the borders or I get a fever I'll drive to the city.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
packmomma she is definitely out of line. Like really what's it to her? I wonder what she would say about how much I share adoption related information?? I would just respond with 'why do you ask?'....just STFU biatch...either response would be fine. Lol (jk)
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
carabassa I'm actually very excited about the career I'm going to school for currently. I'm studying to be a school psychologist. I just have a little bit before that. packmomma gave me an idea to look into that I feel sort of silly for not thinking of. So I have another area to look into. Thank you for asking though.
I hate your job for you! So being nosey, what is this other area to consider?
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Tomorrow I'm going to see my BFF's new house. I found out its only 2 hour away not 2.5...seems so much closer! Lol! My mom is coming with me to watch M while I paint for her (I love painting walls! Like it's ridiculous, but I really enjoy it!). My friend has totally F'd her back while preparing and moving. She is a single mom of a very intelligent but VERY busy boy. I feel so bad for her. She is the kind of woman who doesn't ask for help and is super independent, so this has been super humbling for her to have to slow down and ask for help. I'm super excited to check out her new pad, and so proud of her making such a big move all on her own! Can't wait!
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Sorry, not trying to leave anyone hanging, just trying to get these kids to bed, lol! Preschool was so great for everyone today. The kids were super excited and had lots of fun. They separated easily at dropoff (this has been a challenge in the past) and DD wanted to stay when I picked them up.
It was weird to come back to the house this morning with just Abigail. She seemed confused about where her siblings were and was crawling around looking for them. I think she even attempted to say Isaac's name for the first time. We got some good play time in, and then when she went down for nap, my house was quiet. Gloriously quiet. For the first time in a couple years, haha. It was amazing. I can't wait for them to go back tomorrow morning.
tuscanlatte You're scaring me. If your leg is hot and painful and it's spreading, it sounds like an emergency. If you have a fever please go get checked out, even if it means having to drive a long way in the middle of the night.
@janetheconquerer I'm sorry things are so rough right now. Have you told your H that you think he has a drinking problem? If his drinking has become problematic, he might need help stopping. Could you go see a therapist together, or would he be willing to go on his own? Even if he's not willing to go it might help you to go so you can sort through how you want to handle this. Sending hugs your way.
Post by runningmommy519 on Aug 8, 2016 22:06:52 GMT -5
aydee E can say his brother's name, Isaac, too. It started out as being "that sounds like Isaac". Now when he says it you know that's what he's saying.
@janetheconquerer I'm sorry you're dealing with the drinking situation with your H. I would definitely recommend AL anon in getting support from people going through the same thing. Sometimes when people are called on their drinking/problems they get defensive and lash out (the bitter comment) I know it's hard but try not to take it personally. Those comments are about him not you. Big hugs sent your way. Take care of yourself and your kids.
aydee E can say his brother's name, Isaac, too. It started out as being "that sounds like Isaac". Now when he says it you know that's what he's saying.
We swear M says his brothers name too (Everett) , but are always like 'no that's not possible ' lol.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
aydee E can say his brother's name, Isaac, too. It started out as being "that sounds like Isaac". Now when he says it you know that's what he's saying.
We swear M says his brothers name too (Everett) , but are always like 'no that's not possible ' lol.
I thought that at first but there's no doubt in my mind now.
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