Natural chemical pregnancy 8/2013 Clomid #1 and #2: BFN IVF 1 :0 to use IVF 2:4 great embryos after PGS testing. FET 1: BFP EDD 6/20/15 Chemical Pregnancy FET 2: BFP EDD 11/14/2015 MMC 9.5 weeks twins IVF #3: 2 fair embryos after PGS testing Surprise BFP during break cycle and DD born 4/2016
DS (our little Clomid miracle) born Sept. 25, 2012 Baby #2 lost at 8w3d on March 4, 2015 (EDD Oct. 11, 2015) Baby #3 lost at 5w2d on April 16, 2015 (EDD Dec. 15, 2015) Baby #4 lost at 4w1d on May 20, 2015 (EDD Jan. 25, 2016) DS2 (our little rainbow miracle) born May 25, 2016
We DTD 1x and it was fine (not horrible like it was after DS1) but it is hard to find a time when both kids are asleep, DH is home and we aren't exhausted.
I'm glad to hear I'm not alone on the super infrequent sex life.
TMI alert: Y'all- I walked in on DH last night in the bathroom taking care of his own business. He thought I was asleep. I was mortified! He was embarrassed too. Now I'm feeling all sorts of awkward and bad about myself. :/
Natural chemical pregnancy 8/2013 Clomid #1 and #2: BFN IVF 1 :0 to use IVF 2:4 great embryos after PGS testing. FET 1: BFP EDD 6/20/15 Chemical Pregnancy FET 2: BFP EDD 11/14/2015 MMC 9.5 weeks twins IVF #3: 2 fair embryos after PGS testing Surprise BFP during break cycle and DD born 4/2016
Post by tincupchalice on Aug 8, 2016 14:16:25 GMT -5
Every other weekish. Would be more if DH would get to bed instead of playing computer games. Also he thinks naptime is cool for that stuff but I don't, that's my time to get stuff done.
I'm an SS. I haven't had sex PP. my H is dying to get laid...... But I haven't felt like putting out. ::::shrugs::::
+1 There is more than one reason why. Sometimes I feel bad about it and sometimes I don't. There's an on going thing with H and I not agreeing on something and it puts a big I don't give a f*ck chip on my shoulder
I put weekly but that's optimistic. It's probably averaging to 3 times/ month. I've had very little drive and have to force myself to do it. I try but DH can tell and I know it bothers him. I'm so ready to be done with pregnancy and BFing hormones!
Me: 30 DH: 29; Married: September, 2010 TTC #1: April 2013 Benched: May 2013 Cancer(DH) Off the Bench: September 2014 July 2015 ER low sperm count and motility(radiation side effect). FET September 1,2015. BFP 9/9/15.- 3 on the way.
My super-catholic husband insists on NFP/ charting only for both TTC and TTA. That's fine, but my unreliable sleep schedule doesn't allow for super consistent temping right now. And I cannot deal with another pregnancy right now. So no sexy-time unless I'm absolutely sure it's safe time.
Post by twocents6708 on Aug 8, 2016 21:40:17 GMT -5
It's rare around here. TMI - we tried my fav position tonight and it hurt I just keep reminding myself that our sex life improved after DD and it will get back there again this time as well.
I hurt until I stopped BFing with Aiden. It was all about the hormones for me- wasn't actually physical damage causing the issues so it would most likely have been that way without tearing too.
Had sex weekly since about 7 weeks PP. So about 3 times. To be honest it really sucks. Both MH and I admit that to each other. Well we say it feels "different" ...which basically means it sucks! I can't even feel him (sorry if that's TMI). Hoping it gets better but I've heard from some mom friends who said it never did get better for thrm. Makes me sad to think about! We were having great sex through most of my 2nd and 3rd trimesters even.
Uterine fibroids (removed by robotic myomectomy 11/14) and past removal of L ovary/tube d/t ovarian torsion (4/99). New diagnosis of endometriosis (5/15)
I'm glad to hear I'm not alone on the super infrequent sex life.
TMI alert: Y'all- I walked in on DH last night in the bathroom taking care of his own business. He thought I was asleep. I was mortified! He was embarrassed too. Now I'm feeling all sorts of awkward and bad about myself. :/
Aww, I'm sorry that made you feel bad about yourself. Fwiw, I don't think it should! MH and I don't have time for much sex (or the baby crying kinda ruins some potential moments). I know for a fact he "takes care of himself " more recently. His sex drive is higher than mine too (especially lately) so I definitely think he's had to do that more often since L was born.
Uterine fibroids (removed by robotic myomectomy 11/14) and past removal of L ovary/tube d/t ovarian torsion (4/99). New diagnosis of endometriosis (5/15)
I'm glad to hear I'm not alone on the super infrequent sex life.
TMI alert: Y'all- I walked in on DH last night in the bathroom taking care of his own business. He thought I was asleep. I was mortified! He was embarrassed too. Now I'm feeling all sorts of awkward and bad about myself. :/
Aww, I'm sorry that made you feel bad about yourself. Fwiw, I don't think it should! MH and I don't have time for much sex (or the baby crying kinda ruins some potential moments). I know for a fact he "takes care of himself " more recently. His sex drive is higher than mine too (especially lately) so I definitely think he's had to do that more often since L was born.
westiemom, don't feel bad about yourself!! I am 100% certain DH takes care of himself often and I'm glad he does! It takes the pressure off me for a little while. Breastfeeding makes sex NOT so fun. It's getting better, but I want him to be happy too!
Sex is well... An important part of our relationship as far as my husband is concerned so I try very hard to keep that in mind, just like quality time is big for me.
I don't have too much of a drive right now but I try to "offer" a couple times a week. We are doing in a few times a week on average.
I will say some positions still hurt. I guess even though I didn't have a vagunal birth the fact that I got so close to one Is the issue?
But it's also gotten less painful each time. I'd say we are like 75% back to normal (with the help of lube which we never needed in the past lol).
I don't think I articulated myself well, I guess what I was trying to say is that in sorry it's bee hard on all of us and we jsut need to cut ourselves some slack.
This poll has just made me feel 100% better about my pretty much non existent sex life. I'm not freaked out but I think my husband is concerned about his own lack. He said he can't stop thinking of "our sons food" when he thinks about touching my breasts. Hah. I'm right there with him. Hoping this gets better at some point.
Natural chemical pregnancy 8/2013 Clomid #1 and #2: BFN IVF 1 :0 to use IVF 2:4 great embryos after PGS testing. FET 1: BFP EDD 6/20/15 Chemical Pregnancy FET 2: BFP EDD 11/14/2015 MMC 9.5 weeks twins IVF #3: 2 fair embryos after PGS testing Surprise BFP during break cycle and DD born 4/2016
oreille, if temping isn't working right now you could try ovulation tests. You can get a ton on Amazon for cheap. That's how we got pregnant the first time, so I bet they would work well for preventing too.
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