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[ellesea]

Well I guess I'm not the only still in pain. It wasn't bad last time but it hurts me to even remove my diva cup, so I'm obviously still healing. The pain is more on the inside, not by the tear which surprised me.

[helloerrbody]

Aug 10, 2016 12:50:19 GMT -5 ellesea said:

Well I guess I'm not the only still in pain. It wasn't bad last time but it hurts me to even remove my diva cup, so I'm obviously still healing. The pain is more on the inside, not by the tear which surprised me.

I had no tearing whatsoever and it hurts me.  Which sucks because I thought I was in the clear since I stayed intact.  I think the inner canal just gets stretched and torn regardless.

[wanderingheart]

We did it once and it hurt, but nothing terrible like I built it up in my mind. We haven't done it since, ha. I have zero sex drive right now.

[Sammich_Cat]

Aug 9, 2016 18:28:57 GMT -5 aaemommy said:

Aug 9, 2016 18:10:14 GMT -5 snoris said:

hurts still that's okay? I didn't even tear!

I hurt until I stopped BFing with Aiden. It was all about the hormones for me- wasn't actually physical damage causing the issues so it would most likely have been that way without tearing too.

Me too. Worse this time around. We tried recently, but it just didn't work. It hurt too much for me. I know we'll get back to it just like we did after DS1, but I feel pretty bad for H.
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[KirstenAlecia]

Im in the once a week camp and thats just to attempt to keep H from feeling unwanted. He has already made comments. Im just not feeling "sexy" with the whole life with a newborn schedule that leaves it hard for me to even shower. Nothing makes you feel sexier than not showering for 3 days let me tell you! That and even though Ive lost all the baby weight I feel gross as the tummy hasn't tightened back up.

[Ruca]

Probably once a week. I could go for more but our schedules only leaves the weekends.

[mrssqueegy]

Today at my pelvic floor physio she told me my homework was to have intercourse. Ugh.

[ellesea]

Aug 11, 2016 15:37:08 GMT -5 mrssqueegy said:

Today at my pelvic floor physio she told me my homework was to have intercourse. Ugh.

Is it actually helpful? I guess if she is having you do it, it is!

[k3am]

DH has definitely been taking care of things. I don't care really.. If I had more of a sex drive, I'd be taking care of things in my free time. No shame.

[mrssqueegy]

Aug 11, 2016 16:25:32 GMT -5 ellesea said:

Aug 11, 2016 15:37:08 GMT -5 mrssqueegy said:

Today at my pelvic floor physio she told me my homework was to have intercourse. Ugh.

Is it actually helpful? I guess if she is having you do it, it is!

Yes, it's like an internal scar massage.

[jbeans27]

Aug 9, 2016 18:10:14 GMT -5 snoris said:

hurts still that's okay? I didn't even tear!

I am certainly not an expert but it took almost a year after DS for things to feel even okay. I prepared for the worst this time and was super surprised when it actually wasn't bad! I tore pretty much exactly the same but for some reason it's been much better.

[PAruby525]

+1 for it still hurts. We DTD for the first time since Valentines and it was far from great. / lame

[babycaps]

We DTD this past weekend and it was great! I hope it continues that way but I expect ebs and flows.

[twocents6708]

We had some great sex finally. I told DH that it would would be fun (if we didn't have jobs and two small children) to play hookie from work tomorrow and stay in bed. He informed me very practically that we have bills to pay and sleep to have. Good point but still....

[ellesea]

Aug 11, 2016 18:27:28 GMT -5 mrssqueegy said:

Aug 11, 2016 16:25:32 GMT -5 ellesea said:

Is it actually helpful? I guess if she is having you do it, it is!

Yes, it's like an internal scar massage.

I will not be telling my H this. Lol

Sex is still crappy here. We are using condoms, which sucks. I absolutely cannot be getting pregnant in the next year, but our sex life is going to die if we have to use condoms. I didn't want to go on birth control but I think I'll have to.

[mrssqueegy]

We finally did it today. It didn't hurt at all. I was surprised. We used a condom too. Hmmm, I was pleasantly surprised.