Letting LO CIO/Fuss

[sunshineshades]

How long do you let LO cry or fuss when trying to get them to sleep before you go to them? Assume they are not hysterical

[jewel441]

Depends on the level but maybe 5 min. If she is really crying we give her a min to calm down and then go in. A lot of times she cycles through, like crying then finds her thumb and is ok, then cries more but a little less intense, the finds her thumb, etc. I feel like I can tell from the cry after like a minute if she is gonna go down or not. So I will just go in if I feel like it's not gonna happen.

[JoeLies]

It really depends. If he's awake and calm, but chatty, we leave him and he'll often fall back asleep. If he's fussing, just a minute or two, because I don't want him to escalate and wake DS1. If he's really worked up, I go immediately.

ETA: We'll allow him more time when he's 6+ months

[Deleted]

I'll give him a couple of minutes if he's just fussing, but go right away if he's really crying.

[cinnamonsmiles]

Aug 8, 2016 19:49:47 GMT -5 JoeLies said:

It really depends. If he's awake and calm, but chatty, we leave him and he'll often fall back asleep. If he's fussing, just a minute or two, because I don't want him to escalate and wake DS1. If he's really worked up, I go immediately.

ETA: We'll allow him more time when he's 6+ months

+1 at getting her sooner MOTN to keep her from waking DS. Naptime I will usually let it get closer to the 10min side to see if she will go back to sleep (she doesn't, but maybe one day...).

[sctiger]

There are times where she has a hard time settling to sleep with my help and needs/wants to do it on her own. I know after a minute if she will escalate or if she's going to settle. As long as she's showing sign of settling I will let her cry. She'll do it for 10-15 minutes.

[roseinbloom]

I sleep with the crib pushed up against the bed, so help is pretty much always at hand unless I'm cleaning. Bud only cries or fusses if he's hungry, in pain, or at an uncomfortable temperature--I don't consider wakefulness or settling down shuffling to be fussing, and he doesn't really cry then.

Maybe that's flameable (being always at hand) but I don't really care.

During the day, fussiness related to boredom or frustration probably gets more like a 5 or 10 minute delay.

[SheilaTheTank]

If its in the middle or towards the beginning of their nap, then sooner rather than later. I dont want it to escalate to hysterics because then ill never get her back down. If its towards the end, ill let her whine and fuss while I finish up what im doing

[peachesncream]

We have both been so exhausted at night that it isn't unusual for us to let her cry and fuss for 5-10 minutes just because that is how long it takes for us to come to our senses and realize wtf is happening.

[kendraj426]

If she's hysterical, I'll go in right away, but if it's just a whiney cry, then there's nothing wrong, and I'll let her cry for 5 - 10 mins, go in calm her down, give paci, rinse and repeat.

[michelleca]

I will let her complain for a few minutes (only when I put her down at night), I'll usually brush my teeth right after putting her down. I will pick her up and nurse her for a minute and then she's usually good to go.

[Missy0483]

Not long anymore. He never settles back down and I'm also worried he'll wake up his sister and then we'll have 2 to deal with at once. My baby isn't a huge fan of sleep lately so it's all a huge challenge.