Why? If someone groped you, would you maybe feel all gross about it and want to talk to your spouse for a bit of comfort and reassurance? Cause if it's ok for a woman it's ok for a man to feel I my about being groped and want to call and talk about it right away.
My SO would not feel the need to call me in the middle of the night to tell me. Maybe that means that he is not uncomfortable with women groping him and we have bigger problems, but it would probably would have been a ha ha guess what happened tonight when he crawled in bed or I talked to him the next day.
Yah we just kinda expect the guy to blow it off and Laugh about it as a big joke. But maybe it's not always like that and we need to put ourselves in their shoes and imagine that people grabbing their junk might just be bothersome and they might wanna talk about it. Why would this be something to make you side eye him? That you think he may have enjoyed it and must be feeling guilty about it?
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Why? If someone groped you, would you maybe feel all gross about it and want to talk to your spouse for a bit of comfort and reassurance? Cause if it's ok for a woman it's ok for a man to feel Ickie about being groped and want to call and talk about it right away.
I think there are two sides. The fact that he called immediately seems weird to me, in my personal relationship with my husband. MH is awful about using the phone and keeping in touch, so for him to specifically reach out at a really random hour and tell me some story that a drunk woman grabbed his dick would be really odd. Like I would immediately be like, "this is a really weird thing to call me and tell me and I feel like I'm missing details".
Right. Even if the groping made him uncomfortable I don't think he would call me right away. He would have talked to his friends he was with about it I am sure, but I would not have known about it until he came home.
I feel some people should put more of an effort in their child's appearance. You only have a small window to instill hygiene habits and grooming skills. Use it.
You've mentioned this before and it's definitely the reason my kid gets a bath every night, his clothes aren't wrinkled (don't want to be ther wrinkly family), and we've started brushing his teeth (under a year old). I don't want to have to fight him about this stuff when he's older/don't want him to be the gross kid.
My SO would not feel the need to call me in the middle of the night to tell me. Maybe that means that he is not uncomfortable with women groping him and we have bigger problems, but it would probably would have been a ha ha guess what happened tonight when he crawled in bed or I talked to him the next day.
Yah we just kinda expect the guy to blow it off and Laugh about it as a big joke. But maybe it's not always like that and we need to put ourselves in their shoes and imagine that people grabbing their junk might just be bothersome and they might wanna talk about it. Why would this be something to make you side eye him? That you think he may have enjoyed it and must be feeling guilty about it?
No where did I say that I thought he enjoyed it or that he shouldn't feel uncomfortable I am saying that there is no way that my SO would have called me in the middle of the night to tell me that and if he did I would automatically assume I was missing details and that he was telling me right away before someone else did.
I also said that I would not call him in the middle of the night to tell him so
I have typed and deleted many things but yeah, I would really think it's weird for a SO to call and tell that story because the story, as told, is not something that any reasonable wife would get upset about.
So he would be calling only to make sure you are not upset about it? Really. The call is only for your reassurance and couldn't be about him needing to talk about it to not feel so icky?
Sometimes I publicly support things that I know are good even when I secretly don't like it.
Such as...
Breastfeeding in public made me think of it. I will defend any woman in a public setting loudly and sign whatever petitions or whatever...I will make someone feel comfortable and do my best to normalize it for my son, but I am secretly so relieved when someone busts out a cover in a nice restaurant.
Also...dressing super provocatively. I guess my real confession is I am secretly a super prude.
Post by mightythorgi on Aug 10, 2016 8:12:21 GMT -5
I had a marathon road trip to the greater Minnesconsin area for a funeral Monday morning. (Sorry Brux, if your skin suit alarms went off).
On the way back, just outside Madison I saw signs for a cow chip throwing contest. I thought, that might be a fun activity with my boys, and looked online to see when.
Labor Day weekend, free to spectate, $3 to throw.
TL;DR: would pay $3 plus travel (2 hours) to throw cow poop
I made my own and every time I needed to replenish I was all "GROAN GROAN GROAN". But then I did it and remembered that it was pretty easy. Mostly because I could, for example, throw a mixture in the crockpot and I had food for a month.
Thankfully that stage was over quickly because even though it was "Easy" it was still kind of a PITA when you ran out and needed to make more.
Why did I never think to cook things in the crock pot to puree? You just made my freaking day!
I hold a different standard for H compared to myself on what I feel like needs to be reported for contact with the opposite sex. There are things that I've kept from him that I would be livid to find out about if the roles were reversed. I'm a jealous bitch, though.
I apologize if this came off as offensive. I did not intend it to be.
I know you didn't. And I understand the thinking behind it - you think if it were you, you'd never be able to be able to handle it with such grace or perseverance or dignity or bravery or whatever - but the truth is, all of that stuff is either in you irrespective of your disability or it's not.
This is true and I never thought of it this way. I thank you for bringing it to my attention.
I still really really really wish they broadcasted the Paralympics or even gave it half the attention they gave the regular Olympics
If my SO was uncomfortable by the groping he would stop hanging out where he was and come home and then tell me. I am not saying that her husband is lying I am just saying that I would wonder what I am missing.
Also if the lady is that drunk that he is helping her to the car and she fell I would not assume that she knew what she was grabbing and my So other probably wouldn't either.
I need to know the context of the conversation to really have a say.
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I don't really get the maggot situation because I have one designated cup that allows milk (and it is clear so you can clearly see what is inside) and it literally is given only at mealtimes. It's not spill-proof so I would never even let either one of them walk around with it.
Every other time they are drinking from sippy cups, they have water in them. Always. So the moral of this story is designate a milk sippy and never let it out of your sight.
.... This is the most anal retentive thing I've ever heard. I mean, I'm Low key impressed. The enforcement of this seems like it would be a cross to bear.
Really? I don't have a designated cups but "no milk away from the table" is not hard to enforce. They don't pour their own milk, after all.
To you, yes, maybe. But in the national conversation it's a REALLY thin line and often those most passionate about breastfeeding are really not at all compassionate to those who don't/can't.
Yes. When I stopped BFing, I had several people harass me with long strings of questions. "Did you try this? What about this? Okay, but this. No? Then try this. You don't have to quit!"
It made me feel very defensive. I never asked them for advice. I never even brought up breastfeeding, they did. These people only found out because they were around me/baby and saw me give a bottle of formula, sparking "hey I thought you were breastfeeding?"
I finally snapped the fourth or fifth time I got the same string of questions and the response was, "I was just trying to help you so you could continue." I didn't want to continue. That was never a question they asked.
I'm super aware of this because I had the opposite problem. Anytime I ran into a problem everyone said you should just quit and give formula. So now when I talk to mom's that are struggling my first question is "what do you want to do?". Because I have a lot of information on getting through the hurdles but I also have a lot of wonderful mom's who have great knowledge on the best formulas. Most of all mom's just need to know that a happy mom is the absolute most important thing.
UO: Based on what I read here and have witnessed in real like I feel that some give their kids to much power in the house.
I love to give my kid independence and the right to choices so don't get me wrong. I do not rule like my parents because I think that kids can make choices, but I am still the parent and there will still be rules to follow.
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