Also next time you want to call someone out. I would suggest a thread. It is much more effective and orderly. It also doesn't look cool to be talking about someone and not tagging them in and just talking about them.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Am I going to be a fake ass bitch and tell you what you want to hear and that everything is great and cool. No. If you ask for my opinion, I will give you what I think. I don't like being lied on. Period.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
AND I think people with terrible MILs make excellent MILs. I have a small sample but so far my theory holds.
I agree based on my own sample as well. Both my mother and my MIL had very strained relationships with their own MILs and as a result they've both been super diligent about being great in-laws themselves. Successfully.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
That is fascinating It's like all the hairstyles and beard mustache styles of my Dh thru the 32 years we've been together. Except maybe the spiked hairdo and the shaved sides. The end one would need a fatter face when he sticks his thumb in his mouth to blow and make his hair fuller. And the end one needs less hair up top and way more white in the beard. Lol
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Welp I got my offer letter for the job I interviewed for and it is......substantially less than I would have imagined. It's a $140/pay increase before taxes. I'm pissed and already cried at my desk and am going to ask my boss to take a half day. I'm more upset than maybe I should be.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Welp I got my offer letter for the job I interviewed for and it is......substantially less than I would have imagined. It's a $140/pay increase before taxes. I'm pissed and already cried at my desk and am going to ask my boss to take a half day. I'm more upset than maybe I should be.
ugh, really? That's so frustrating. I'm sorry.
Is there negotiating room? Did they know your true actual current salary?
Y'all must have an off board meeting place. A little FB group? That explains why the other day all these people that don't post was on the board.
Baby, I am putting this shit together. The more I do, the funnier it is.
Um all the people posting that you didn't recognize were cause it was announced board wide and pulled people on from everywhere not just from parenting. They aren't having secret meetings about shit
It's also not a boss move for you to delete and deactivate cause reasons - let's say you don't want to be here and don't want to engage - but then you send your friends to come and like just aggressively post comments to the person I guess you don't like cause that will show her?!
I think you all are watching too much "Awkward" or something.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Is there negotiating room? Did they know your true actual current salary?
They do. And they put "commensurate with experience" and like......I just. FUCK.
The original posting before they took it down was a $14,563 raise. This is $3,360...I am so irritated. I would not have expected a $11K drop.
Well it's still a slight raise. But yeah, that's super discouraging.
Is a job you want to do? Is it a better path in the long term? A raise is still a raise in that instance. If you want the job, I would come back with a counter offer.
Y'all must have an off board meeting place. A little FB group? That explains why the other day all these people that don't post was on the board.
Baby, I am putting this shit together. The more I do, the funnier it is.
Um all the people posting that you didn't recognize were cause it was announced board wide and pulled people on from everywhere not just from parenting. They aren't having secret meetings about shit
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Um all the people posting that you didn't recognize were cause it was announced board wide and pulled people on from everywhere not just from parenting. They aren't having secret meetings about shit
I'm pretty sure she's talking about in the blinds thread.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Now do I hate anyone here? No. I have no reason to. This is an online message board FFS. I want everyone to be happy in their lives. I am getting a snapshot into what they choose to share online. I only have what is posted for all to read. Yes, over time I have come to trust more than others and be closer to others more than some.
I don't agree with someone just cause they are my friend. I don't disagree with someone based on them not being my friend. I don't have the time for that. In reality I like the board to be my get away and my happy place but some days shit doesn't go that route - cool.
But while you say you release stuff and let it go, you also mention you do screen shots, have sticky notes, spreadsheets and keep accounting of who love tit posts for or against you. and taking note of that shit clouds your impressions of people's posts a bit. It has to.
So maybe someone else doing similar due to how their friends were treated is just par for the course eh? All of our interactions have consequences. Some people hold grudges and that isn't necessarily a bad thing.
Sometimes you have to keep people at arms length or categorized in your head a bit so when they poke you or talk to you "too honestly" that it doesn't hurt. Or it gets to you and you have to pull back to safer places (like the planner thread of safety).
Nooooooo. Do not take the job where they are blatantly underpaying for the same work.
If they posted at the higher salary, they likely have the Budget, or did, and that's the true market rate, and they don't have it anymore, so hoping to get someone to do the same job for cheaper.
NOPE.
MA just passed a law preventing companies from asking for prior salaries, and I am all about that life.
Um all the people posting that you didn't recognize were cause it was announced board wide and pulled people on from everywhere not just from parenting. They aren't having secret meetings about shit
That's not what I am talking about.
Kinda hard to keep track of what you are talking about when its vague posting eh?
I spent close to $100 on crafting supplies to make my own autumn/Halloween decorations and realized afterwards that I didn't even really save any money by doing this. Plus now I have to actually spend time making the decorations. lol
Trolling Beyonce is my fave because she could shit on the floor like that Flavor of Love girl and people would WK her. "That floor should be honored Queen Bey shit on it. I wish she would shit on me." - @arielmermaid
Nooooooo. Do not take the job where they are blatantly underpaying for the same work.
If they posted at the higher salary, they likely have the Budget, or did, and that's the true market rate, and they don't have it anymore, so hoping to get someone to do the same job for cheaper.
NOPE.
this is a good point.
But experience is worth something, and I can understand paying someone with less experience less money, no matter the position.
For example, a football head coach with a 20 year winning record will get paid more than a guy who never had head coaching experience. No matter that the job and workload of being a head coach is exactly the same no matter the background of the employee.
I wish all companies over a certain size had to state pay ranges and disclose average pay for male vs. female employees. It would be so amazing.
Pay ranges on job posting should be a requirement. Like I don't want to waste my time applying and interviewing and getting hopes up to find out it's a lower paying job than I'm doing now. It's unfair.
Even like at $20k range. Very bottom and very top willing to pay. Experience can fit somewhere in that range.
Nooooooo. Do not take the job where they are blatantly underpaying for the same work.
If they posted at the higher salary, they likely have the Budget, or did, and that's the true market rate, and they don't have it anymore, so hoping to get someone to do the same job for cheaper.
NOPE.
this is a good point.
But experience is worth something, and I can understand paying someone with less experience less money, no matter the position.
For example, a football head coach with a 20 year winning record will get paid more than a guy who never had head coaching experience. No matter that the job and workload of being a head coach is exactly the same no matter the background of the employee.
But if they advertised the head coaching job as $X, wouldn't it be shitty to turn around and say, jk, we'll only give you $Y? Shouldn't they pay more than advertised for more experience?
But experience is worth something, and I can understand paying someone with less experience less money, no matter the position.
For example, a football head coach with a 20 year winning record will get paid more than a guy who never had head coaching experience. No matter that the job and workload of being a head coach is exactly the same no matter the background of the employee.
Well, obviously yes. Doesn't mean the new coach shouldn't push for a better deal than the initial offer.
right. I agree. That's what I said to ftwr.
I was just disagreeing that everyone should be paid the max just because a company is willing. Maybe roguelily wasn't really saying that.
Post by seadragon2013 on Aug 11, 2016 11:28:33 GMT -5
I'm sorry@ftwr. That seems like a shitty move on their part. I would try to negotiate it up and if they didn't move close to the original posted salary, I would walk.
I assume that when they post a salary and then also say salary will be commensurate with experience, they are talking about adjusting up to attract higher quality candidates.
Now do I hate anyone here? No. I have no reason to. This is an online message board FFS. I want everyone to be happy in their lives. I am getting a snapshot into what they choose to share online. I only have what is posted for all to read. Yes, over time I have come to trust more than others and be closer to others more than some.
I don't agree with someone just cause they are my friend. I don't disagree with someone based on them not being my friend. I don't have the time for that. In reality I like the board to be my get away and my happy place but some days shit doesn't go that route - cool.
But while you say you release stuff and let it go, you also mention you do screen shots, have sticky notes, spreadsheets and keep accounting of who love tit posts for or against you. and taking note of that shit clouds your impressions of people's posts a bit. It has to.
So maybe someone else doing similar due to how their friends were treated is just par for the course eh? All of our interactions have consequences. Some people hold grudges and that isn't necessarily a bad thing.
Sometimes you have to keep people at arms length or categorized in your head a bit so when they poke you or talk to you "too honestly" that it doesn't hurt. Or it gets to you and you have to pull back to safer places (like the planner thread of safety).
Yes, Amy G. This is why I posted that in that thread. It was my confession that I was holding onto some shit. I called myself pettyAF. I admitted to being salty about some shit.
I said screenshots and lists - I never said spreadsheets or sticky notes - I said it as a joke. As several people here before me have said.
What's funny is since you brought it up - the reason why I commented about the people who love tit posts against me cause I found it odd like where did these people come from? They were not people who were "in the thread" that day there seemed to be a common theme. A couple of names familiar but do not interact and only seem to come around for these kind of special events. So it stood out to me. But now I know.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
@ftwr take a minute to be upset, and then compose yourself and go back to them and ask for more money. Do not accept any insinuations that you are not deserving of it. Tell them you will not make a lateral move and they are underpaying.
This is what I plan to do. I'm taking the rest of the day off and am going to attempt to get my shit together.
I've never had to advocate for myself in such a manner so this will be fun.
you got this. It's scary to be vocal and stand up for yourself, but do it. If you need help crafting your comeback, there are plenty of awesome people who can help.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
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