I do think we as a board go less hard on posters when they are already very obviously upset with themselves and show great understanding for the depth of their actions. Like the chick who went for cigs while her baby napped, as an example. Eventually some flamed but still it would have been a whole different story if she dropped it like a bomb instead of like an actual remorseful confession.
And my final thought is that a personal flaming from HE is probably going to cover any and everything and it doesn't need to be done again.
I agree with your first paragraph. There's been plenty of instances where a poster laid their shit on the table and got support. But, then they came back and were still fucking up.
It's also true that some posters get an easier ride with this shit. That's just a fact.
Fwiw, I don't condone the bullshit.
But she's already doing everything I would suggest had she'd asked me personally for advice.
If she came in here trying to justify her shit that'd be different.
I do think we as a board go less hard on posters when they are already very obviously upset with themselves and show great understanding for the depth of their actions. Like the chick who went for cigs while her baby napped, as an example. Eventually some flamed but still it would have been a whole different story if she dropped it like a bomb instead of like an actual remorseful confession.
And my final thought is that a personal flaming from HE is probably going to cover any and everything and it doesn't need to be done again.
Post by easilyunamused on Aug 11, 2016 22:01:10 GMT -5
Well that was fucking unnecessary. Sticking up for one posters indiscretions by throwing another posters previous issues in their face is fucked up. What in the actual fuck is going on here lately?
Post by bunnyfungo on Aug 11, 2016 22:01:24 GMT -5
God damnit, guys. What is happening here?! Why are we all yelling at each other? I'm so tired. So so tired. I just want my friends to come back and nobody else to leave.
Ohmigod are you serious?? It was a stark example of how you don't want to judge a situation from the jump. Like you are also a beloved poster around here and so instead of everyone being like "FUCK YH" they listened and were supportive and never told you you were wrong or naive.
I didn't really think it was that different of an example, honestly. Or a secret because you did talk about it on the board.
God damnit, guys. What is happening here?! Why are we all yelling at each other? I'm so tired. So so tired. I just want my friends to come back and nobody else to leave.
I'm blaming it all on August.
But maybe it's actually just hot summer overall making hot tempers and lack of patience all around.
I don't agree with HE's approach or example but I seem to recall Brux dragging my shit up on the board somewhat recently. So I don't necessarily see how this is so different.
Yes but wasn't the consensus then that it wasn't ok?
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I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
This is what I plan to do. I'm taking the rest of the day off and am going to attempt to get my shit together.
I've never had to advocate for myself in such a manner so this will be fun.
you got this. It's scary to be vocal and stand up for yourself, but do it. If you need help crafting your comeback, there are plenty of awesome people who can help.
I can promise you there is literally zero #breezy feelings involved here. It is deep and intense and messy and requires support from friends for the person involved even if it absolutely does not require support of the actions.
I agree it warrants support however it also warrants the truth from friends.
So I can't throw my hands up and say love is love.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
So if you feel the need to pour salt in this wound, go ahead. She did open herself up to any and all responses by posting it here.
Or you could skip over the obvious disaster that is the situation and talk about other things involved.
Up to you.
I was with you on your post until this part. I'm going to sound like Cherhorowitz, but I don't think you're being fair here. If this were any number of other posters I don't think this would be anywhere near your response and I can see how pobre's confession and the resulting responses could be hurtful to quite a few people here.
Please don't tag me into this.
But since I'm here, Brux is allowed to have an opinion contrary to popular view. She's been really open about her history and she said it wasn't an attack on Pobre, she is her friend. It was about what she was feeling in that moment. She said she was shaking. Obviously the post opened up some feelings for her. Telling her she's wrong for feeling that way and throwing her history in her face wasn't cool.
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