Is there such a thing as a weirdo baby who doesn't like being nursed to sleep?
So, DS would fall asleep while nursing until the past week or so, and while I know it's probably a good thing for the long run, I hate it at the moment. He'll be wide awake and really to play after a MOTN feeding, and it took an HOUR after he was done nursing to get him back to sleep last night.
joy I actually feel I bonded more with DD during feeding (bottle) bc I had to use both hands and not play on my phone. With DS I can play on my phone since I can do it one handed. I never felt the way I fed my kids is how I bond. I also feel sad that DH misses out on the one on one time with DS.
And do not feel like you aren't doing the most. You are doing the most..you are feeding your child while staying sane. That being said it took me until recently to not feel guilt for not BF longer with DD. I just couldn't go beyond 3 weeks and I was starting to resent her so I switched to FF.
Then you made the right decision, too! Solidarity. :-)
And yes to the bonding with the bottle! It's just a different kind of bonding than breastfeeding and that's cool. I love that she stares at me. I love that she holds my fingers while she's eating. I love that my husband gets to experience that, too.
So much support, ladies. Fed is best. Period.
I feel a bit sheepish about how BF is going for us and feel myself leaning towards just not mentioning it because so many ladies are having difficulties.
I had a really weird experience the other day, at Rosh Hashana dinner. It was at MH's aunt and uncle's house, and there were quite a few guests. One woman I had met a few times before, but I would consider an acquaintance. This is the first time that group (not the aunt and uncle, of course) were meeting the baby. This woman comes up to us and asks, with a suspicious tone, "breastfed?" Like, no "oh, he's so cute" or "mazal tov" or "how are you doing?" All of which I would expect as normal responses and greetings to meeting a new baby. And then she goes on about breastfeeding, and how I must have fatty milk because the baby was so sleepy (?) and all about her own breastfeeding (and her kids are in their 20s). It was so weird.
So very weird. Total side eye to chatty BF AW acquaintance there.
Then you made the right decision, too! Solidarity. :-)
And yes to the bonding with the bottle! It's just a different kind of bonding than breastfeeding and that's cool. I love that she stares at me. I love that she holds my fingers while she's eating. I love that my husband gets to experience that, too.
So much support, ladies. Fed is best. Period.
I feel a bit sheepish about how BF is going for us and feel myself leaning towards just not mentioning it because so many ladies are having difficulties.
No! Celebrate if it's going well!! I'm happy for you :-)
I feel a bit sheepish about how BF is going for us and feel myself leaning towards just not mentioning it because so many ladies are having difficulties.
No! Celebrate if it's going well!! I'm happy for you :-)
Thank you joy I am thrilled for sure but I sure don't want to seem braggy, you know? It's a crapshoot of so many factors, so I know I'm lucky in this respect.
Post by remylove1011 on Oct 6, 2016 22:03:59 GMT -5
Ugh. So I think I have a clogged duct or something. My left breast is really sore. It doesn't feel like engorgement and I c and really find a lump or anything. Its just sore/painful all along the bottom right side. I'm currently nursing DD and then I'll pump to try to ensure that I've emptied what I can. I'm also trying massaging while she's nursing. Is there a way to know if it's worse than a duct? I feel fine other than a sore boob, but I know that mastitis is a risk.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
I have had people ask me if I am BFing and then say something along the lines if, "Good." Thank you? It just seems so inappropriate
Multiple people have said this to me. My brother did with DS. He even asked if I was pumping at work. When I told him I stopped at 7 months he said "At least you did it that long."
OH. Thanks for your permission you person with no uterus.
Ugh. So I think I have a clogged duct or something. My left breast is really sore. It doesn't feel like engorgement and I c and really find a lump or anything. Its just sore/painful all along the bottom right side. I'm currently nursing DD and then I'll pump to try to ensure that I've emptied what I can. I'm also trying massaging while she's nursing. Is there a way to know if it's worse than a duct? I feel fine other than a sore boob, but I know that mastitis is a risk.
Try holding a warm rice sock on the area as much as possible, especially while nursing.
Ugh. So I think I have a clogged duct or something. My left breast is really sore. It doesn't feel like engorgement and I c and really find a lump or anything. Its just sore/painful all along the bottom right side. I'm currently nursing DD and then I'll pump to try to ensure that I've emptied what I can. I'm also trying massaging while she's nursing. Is there a way to know if it's worse than a duct? I feel fine other than a sore boob, but I know that mastitis is a risk.
Try holding a warm rice sock on the area as much as possible, especially while nursing.
Also start nursing with the clogged duct until it's gone. Point baby's chin toward the clog if you can because her suction is strongest that way. If you can stand it pump with your pump on the strongest suction if baby isn't clearing the clog. Warm showers help the pain too.
No! Celebrate if it's going well!! I'm happy for you :-)
Thank you joy I am thrilled for sure but I sure don't want to seem braggy, you know? It's a crapshoot of so many factors, so I know I'm lucky in this respect.
Oh, I get it. I've been incredibly lucky in other aspects of this pregnancy/baby thing. I don't mention because I don't want to seem braggy either.
Thank you joy I am thrilled for sure but I sure don't want to seem braggy, you know? It's a crapshoot of so many factors, so I know I'm lucky in this respect.
Oh, I get it. I've been incredibly lucky in other aspects of this pregnancy/baby thing. I don't mention because I don't want to seem braggy either.
Here's to the ways we're winning!
I say everyone should share both the good and the bad!!! We all have our own hardships but we've been in this together from the beginning and it makes me so happy to see you all doing well. Brag away. :-)
Ugh. So I think I have a clogged duct or something. My left breast is really sore. It doesn't feel like engorgement and I c and really find a lump or anything. Its just sore/painful all along the bottom right side. I'm currently nursing DD and then I'll pump to try to ensure that I've emptied what I can. I'm also trying massaging while she's nursing. Is there a way to know if it's worse than a duct? I feel fine other than a sore boob, but I know that mastitis is a risk.
This happened to me over a week ago. At first I thought it was a clogged duct but I couldn't get it to go away. Once I started shivering constantly even while taking a hot shower I realized I had a fever. Pretty soon after I felt like I had the flu. That is when I knew I had mastitis. I am at the end of my antibiotics now
Post by hummingbird125 on Oct 7, 2016 11:33:10 GMT -5
Soo, I was hoping to check in with you guys to see if what DS and I are doing, schedule-wise, is okay, or if we're wa off the mark.
I nursed on demand for about the first 5.5 weeks, until his pedi told me that it was totally ok to try to stretch the feedings further apart. Starting then, I made it a point to try to space his feedings at least 2 hours apart. We try to get him down for a nap 1.5 hours after he wakes up, so with that timing we can sometimes stretch the feedings even further apart, if he's napping (or if we're out and he's sleeping in the carseat).
I've been trying to make sure he takes one bottle a day, so that he's used to it for when I start working again. We usually do 3-3.5oz bottles, but lately all I get when I pump is 3 oz (both boobs). I'm concerned that when I go back to work I won't be able to pump enough milk to take care of the next day. I guess maybe I'll be able to if he starts going longer between feedings during the next 4 weeks?
Anyways, I guess my questions are: 1) Is 2 hours between feedings (during the day, we go a little longer at night) too often at this point (8 weeks)? 2) Is it reasonable to expect that he'll be able to stretch out his feedings/eat more at a time by the time he's 12 weeks? I just don't forsee being able to pump 4x a day at work.
hummingbird125 no prior experience with BF except LO. But I try to stretch him to 2.5-3 hr between feeds. It doesn't always work, sometimes at night he'll only do 2 hours. By 12 weeks DD (who was FF) increased her intake during the day as she dropped the night time feeds. Hopefully some of that helps. And some of the better BF experts can add more.
hummingbird125, my kid has naturally fallen into a schedule of 8 feedings in 24 hours. Some are 2 hours apart and some are 4 hours apart. I tracked her for a few days and realized they were happening roughly the same time every day so I just wrote down the times and aim for that pattern every day. I bottle feed so I know exactly how much she's getting (~ 3.5 ounces per feed).
My child is 4 weeks younger than yours so I want to say that yes, it's absolutely reasonable to expect the feeds to be stretched out. But, I'm not nursing (I give her pumped milk) so it's tough to say for sure since I'm not sure how much your kid is taking in at each feed.
Soo, I was hoping to check in with you guys to see if what DS and I are doing, schedule-wise, is okay, or if we're wa off the mark.
I nursed on demand for about the first 5.5 weeks, until his pedi told me that it was totally ok to try to stretch the feedings further apart. Starting then, I made it a point to try to space his feedings at least 2 hours apart. We try to get him down for a nap 1.5 hours after he wakes up, so with that timing we can sometimes stretch the feedings even further apart, if he's napping (or if we're out and he's sleeping in the carseat).
I've been trying to make sure he takes one bottle a day, so that he's used to it for when I start working again. We usually do 3-3.5oz bottles, but lately all I get when I pump is 3 oz (both boobs). I'm concerned that when I go back to work I won't be able to pump enough milk to take care of the next day. I guess maybe I'll be able to if he starts going longer between feedings during the next 4 weeks?
Anyways, I guess my questions are: 1) Is 2 hours between feedings (during the day, we go a little longer at night) too often at this point (8 weeks)? 2) Is it reasonable to expect that he'll be able to stretch out his feedings/eat more at a time by the time he's 12 weeks? I just don't forsee being able to pump 4x a day at work.
It really varies based on your body storage capacity, your kids' milk transfer abilities, the fat content of your milk, etc. My DD1 ate every 2 hours until 8 mo. because she ate a ton but had poor milk transfer. DD2 put herself on a 3 hour schedule from birth. DD3 is still on demand-ish (anywhere between 2 & 3 hours) and will be until I solidify naps, but you have more solid naps so I can see moving to a more fixed routine now. Another friends' son won't STTN at 7 mo. unless she feeds every 2 hours during the day. But her older kid did not STTN until she stretched feedings further apart. It just really varies. I think playing with your options is the best bet.
ETA: my every 2 hour eater only took 2-3 oz. bottles. If he takes bigger bottles he can probably space it more. But I do find my kids eat more than "they" say a BF baby should. I make huge babies.
Post by spicysalmonroll on Oct 8, 2016 7:19:24 GMT -5
hummingbird125 our sons always sound so similar!! So mine is 12 weeks and basically exactly the same as yours. I make him wait two hours and he's always freaking out starving by the two hour mark, unless his nap goes a little long but that's rare.
I'm going back to work next week and I'm also concerned with pumping enough. The times that we've given him a bottle, he's only taken 2oz though. All my freezer bags are 3oz. So I'm hoping that once he starts daycare he can learn to fill up a little more. When he nurses he just kind of snacks and quits so I'm hoping he learns to actually meal when I'm not around.
So I dunno, yours could maybe start stretching it out in the next 4 weeks or he could be like mine and just keep acting starving at an hour and 45 minutes. Lol good luck!!
For those worried about pumping enough - I couldn't keep up at work, but I added in a pump at about 9pm to make up what I needed for the next day. I would do that even on weekend nights to have extra ounces on days I came up short.
Eventually when I really couldn't keep up, she got one bottle of formula a day. It can work out!
For those worried about pumping enough - I couldn't keep up at work, but I added in a pump at about 9pm to make up what I needed for the next day. I would do that even on weekend nights to have extra ounces on days I came up short.
Eventually when I really couldn't keep up, she got one bottle of formula a day. It can work out!
Thanks for that tip. I know from breast DS gets enough, but pumping (extra or in place of a session) doesn't give enough. I'll have to try the extra pump session, or I'm not against formula to supplement.
Post by remylove1011 on Oct 10, 2016 22:31:47 GMT -5
Ok ladies. How does your baby do with breast milk out of a bottle? We'd given bottles in the beginning when we supplemented and she did great. Now we give the occasional pumped bottle when MH feeds her and it does not go well. She has a really hard time regulating how fast it's flowing and gulps it down. Our pedi suggested sitting her up more and holding the bottle horizontally. That helps some but she still chokes. Tonight she scares the shot out of me with how bad she was coughing and sputtering. What else can I do to help her with this? We have tom.me.e tipp.ee bottles and are using the slow flow nipples. We've got about 5 weeks until I go back to work so she needs to be able to take a bottle.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
hummingbird125spicysalmonroll R is 9 weeks old and goes about 2 hours in between feedings around the clock. It is a rare treat to get 2 1/2 hours. I'm glad I'm not the only one going through this...I really thought he would have spaced feeds out more by now.
Ok ladies. How does your baby do with breast milk out of a bottle? We'd given bottles in the beginning when we supplemented and she did great. Now we give the occasional pumped bottle when MH feeds her and it does not go well. She has a really hard time regulating how fast it's flowing and gulps it down. Our pedi suggested sitting her up more and holding the bottle horizontally. That helps some but she still chokes. Tonight she scares the shot out of me with how bad she was coughing and sputtering. What else can I do to help her with this? We have tom.me.e tipp.ee bottles and are using the slow flow nipples. We've got about 5 weeks until I go back to work so she needs to be able to take a bottle.
You can buy preemie nipples (size 0 instead of size 1) for slower flow. YouTube paced bottle feeding for breastfed babies. That's helped us!
Ok ladies. How does your baby do with breast milk out of a bottle? We'd given bottles in the beginning when we supplemented and she did great. Now we give the occasional pumped bottle when MH feeds her and it does not go well. She has a really hard time regulating how fast it's flowing and gulps it down. Our pedi suggested sitting her up more and holding the bottle horizontally. That helps some but she still chokes. Tonight she scares the shot out of me with how bad she was coughing and sputtering. What else can I do to help her with this? We have tom.me.e tipp.ee bottles and are using the slow flow nipples. We've got about 5 weeks until I go back to work so she needs to be able to take a bottle.
Edit... sorry for all the typos. So tired.
DD3 did this at first too. By 8 weeks she could handle the level 1 flow.
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