Post by NellieOleson on Aug 19, 2016 15:03:35 GMT -5
I was just checking out Zillow and found the perfect house in the perfect location. Too bad we are no where near ready to go forward with buying and/or moving.
It's been on there for 1 day and already saved by 37 people. I'm afraid it's going to haunt me forever now. Dammit!
kcrkcs - How are your property negotiations going?
Jumping in for a quick update. G has double ear infection. They think the throwing up was caused by the mucus draining. So hopefully meds will help get him healthy again. I just can't take it with ear infections every other week. And he's always so happy that it's hard to assume that's what it is and feel like I'm over reacting thinking it's ears every time he starts fussing.
Blah, Blah, Blah. At least our babysitter is AWESOME! She brought him to the dr., dropped off his meds and picked them up from the pharmacy then brought them to daycare so they could give him the first dose so he could maybe start feeling some relief. I LOVE HER!
Also, I get rslh's blog emails and I know she's having a hard time, I can't say I understand, but I can say I won't try to understand or think she should ever be over what they went through,...but I am so overly excited for her and this pregnancy! I pray for them daily and I feel like I'm on pins and needles now during her pregnancy, I can't imagine how she feels!!! I truly hope she gets to bring this sweet baby girl home!
Post by dizzycooks on Aug 19, 2016 17:02:10 GMT -5
newmomma8 that is incredible! That must make things so much easier when life gets tricky! I am ready for bedtime. I've got a toddler with a high fever and a teething baby who is now biting while nursing. I also have a clogged duct so she's frustrated while nursing so that doesn't help. Obviously I'm in pain. I got the pt job I applied for and now I'm filling in my schedule with all the training and certifications I need. Oy September is looking crazy.
Post by crimsonandclover on Aug 19, 2016 20:25:12 GMT -5
dizzycooks, congratulations!! How many hours a week will you work?
We're getting up at 3:30 am tomorrow and will get home at about 3am Central Time on Sunday, so almost exactly 24 hours. Wish us luck... and patience... and sleep on the transatlantic flight!
dizzycooks, congratulations!! How many hours a week will you work?
We're getting up at 3:30 am tomorrow and will get home at about 3am Central Time on Sunday, so almost exactly 24 hours. Wish us luck... and patience... and sleep on the transatlantic flight!
My actual work hours will be no more than 4 per week. The training is around 40 hours and needs to be done in 30 days so that's a little tricky given I don't have, and won't have, child care. Eta: they offered me a training week next week, but I'd have to put the kids in childcare 5 days and then Dh would have to pick up and do bedtime 5 days. I think it'd be bad for my supply (no breaks) and unnecessary stress for dd3. I'm opting to do my shadow training over the course of the fall. I'm nervous and a little sad that I'm choosing to work at all during my leave of absence, probably the one time in my life I'll never "Have" to work, but it's only 4 hours. I realize I sound like a brat.
NellieOleson looking at properties is such a teaser!! Maybe those 37 people are also just window shopping Regarding our deal we had our first real meeting. I have their initial numbers/info and am working out whether I think it's fair or if I need to counter. The house that comes with the farm is way more than I remember like double the size. I mean we live in 1/10 the size apt. Now. It's more house than I want... But it is an incredibly funky cool space because it's a converted barn. Pretty freaking cool I am sure I could figure out how to find the time to clean that enormous thing. As far as the business side I think the only thing holding me back apart from finalizing a deal is my emotional attachment to the current farm and my hatred of change. Hoping it all becomes clear soon.
We have always said we won't buy another house in an association. Then we fell in love with a house in an association AND the house price is right, low even. So would a new build, amazing location, and right price make it worth paying an association fee for life? We plan on being there until we move to our retirement home post kids. The fee pays to maintain walking trails, a summer pool and various landscaping around the area. If that were the only compromise, would you do it? I'm struggling bc a physical compromise I can change (add a bathroom, finish a basement, etc) but I can get rid of the association of I hate it.
Post by NellieOleson on Aug 20, 2016 10:02:18 GMT -5
dizzycooks - I guess it depends on how much the fee is and how much I truly loved that neighborhood? Personally, it would also make me feel better about it if I thought we'd get a lot of use out of the HOA benefits. However, if you think it will be a nagging thorn in your side for years to come then I'd say keep looking.
My mom and sister are taking the kids for awhile today. My sister is babysitting S's best buddy, and they decided that the boys need a playdate. M is going along, because my mom feels guilty about leaving her out. I think I'm going to talk H into going to a movie while they're gone. We have a gift certificate for a date night thing from the theatre.
I'm so sick of all of these things saying that kids need to go to bed early. The length of time that they're asleep is more important than when they go to bed. IF I put my kids to bed at the recommended time, they'd be up before 5, and would only see H on the weekends. Neither of those is an acceptable scenario for me.
Post by sjames2015 on Aug 20, 2016 17:46:49 GMT -5
My opinion on HOA's is a love hate relationship. I love that they can help keep the neighborhood from turning into a ghetto with cars and trash covering the yards but they are a huge thorn in our side. If we have a few weeds in our rock area we get a letter. The last letter I received from them I had 5 small weeds, I'm talking no bigger in total size than my hand. Plus they said we needed to trim our tree. Our tree was just put in 2 months ago, it doesn't need trimmed. They took a picture and included it in the letter. It was of my neighbors trees. When I called they said they don't know property lines so they guessed it was ours. Which would be an ok response if there wasn't cement edging and a fence between properties. Hit post too early. I would make sure what you are truly paying for. If it says snow removal check to see what exact areas they will be removing it from. Usually just park areas. If they say landscaping, probably just park areas.
scorpioscuba, holy shit! Y'all I missed you so much. Seriously. There has not been one day over the last 3+ months that I haven't thought about you guys. I am finally home. It feels AMAZING. I got such an overwhelming amount of support once I left and when I came home a few days ago. I feel like the luckiest person alive. The kids were very well taken care of and I am just thrilled beyond belief to be home taking care of them again. Nothing makes my heart happier. I definitely plan on being around much more these days with y'all as well!
MH is returning back to work and will be traveling quite a bit due to the elections coming up. I am getting help from my mommy and some friends near by. Elle and Arthur are the sweetest, most joyful little munchkins. Elle did awesome at summer camp and her teachers are pleased that she is starting preschool at the beginning of September. Arthur is teething like crazy and pretty miserable with a fever and runny nose. I've been going to yoga and volunteering at a foster home for kids, and am looking into bible studies.
I hope y'all are doing well and I really have to catch up on all the recent threads. I don't have as much time as I would like, but I'll do my best to keep up to speed with y'all. Love you guys so much. XOXO. -Monica
Post by tinydancer on Aug 20, 2016 21:22:52 GMT -5
Welcome back icequeen! I'm glad that you got such great support and that you're home with your kiddos.
NellieOleson, I browse Redfin ALL THE TIME. I love house shopping even though we're definitely not buying another house anytime soon. dizzycooks, I'm pretty anti-association, but if the fee is low the pool sounds like a nice amenity.
I've been reading but it's hard finding time to post. So just saying hi.
Very hard evening tonight - not sure if anyone else in Canada or the US watched the Tragically Hip concert (pretty sure Canada shut down for 3 hours tonight..) but it was very very hard to watch their final show. Lots of emotions flowing over here...
Dying over here. I cannot do no sleep. I also want to call my mom crying because she had kind of been guilt-tripping me about not planning to come back for 2 years. I want her to know (even though she already does mentally) how freaking hard it is - at least for us - to travel overseas with 3 kids. And compared to previous trips we've had, this one was pretty easy, but even though DDs 1+2 couldn't keep their eyes open in the airport, as soon as we got home they got their second wind and wanted to play with all the toys. I figured they would crash before long. It's now 6 hours later (took me about 2 minutes to do that math...) and they're still going strong. I, on the other hand, am dying of sleep deprivation.
Post by scorpioscuba on Aug 21, 2016 8:58:39 GMT -5
Yay!!! Welcome back icequeen!!! I'm so glad you have an amazing support system. 😍
dizzycooks, I'd prefer a house without an HOA if at all possible. But I think you have to weigh all the pros and cons. I like @kelltothekells suggestion to talk with some neighbors. Some hoa's aren't as bad as others.
Glad you made it home crimsonandclover but so sorry you are so exhausted. I hope you get rest soon!
Post by scorpioscuba on Aug 21, 2016 9:00:51 GMT -5
DD has been waking up super early and the temps are finally cool enough here to go for a walk. DD is loving it and so is my dog!
I'm getting a massage later this morning and then we are going to a friends house. We got all our house work and laundry done yesterday so today is truly Sunday Funday! 😜
Very hard evening tonight - not sure if anyone else in Canada or the US watched the Tragically Hip concert (pretty sure Canada shut down for 3 hours tonight..) but it was very very hard to watch their final show. Lots of emotions flowing over here...
I don't even know what Tragically Hip is. Maybe it's a Canadian thing?
Very hard evening tonight - not sure if anyone else in Canada or the US watched the Tragically Hip concert (pretty sure Canada shut down for 3 hours tonight..) but it was very very hard to watch their final show. Lots of emotions flowing over here...
I don't even know what Tragically Hip is. Maybe it's a Canadian thing?
*Off to Google...*
They're a Canadian band. Their lead singer is dying, so last night was their last concert ever
H and I went to see Ben-Hur yesterday, and when he texted my mom to ket her know, in case she decided to drop the kids off early, she said she was keeping them for the night. Surprise night off! So we came home, played MTG for awhile, watched Band of Brothers, and slept in this morning.
Now the kids are home, and our friends are coming over to play games in awhile. Happy Sunday!
Very hard evening tonight - not sure if anyone else in Canada or the US watched the Tragically Hip concert (pretty sure Canada shut down for 3 hours tonight..) but it was very very hard to watch their final show. Lots of emotions flowing over here...
I don't even know what Tragically Hip is. Maybe it's a Canadian thing?
*Off to Google...*
NellieOleson like Lollipop said.. The Hip are an iconic Canadian band. Been around since the 80s. The lead singer Gord Downie is dying of a very rare brain cancer (diagnosed early this year) it's a very sad situation. Gord decided that the hip should tour one last time because performing is his and the bands passion. It really is remarkable that he has been able to get through the performances given his singing and stage antics (very weird but super entertaining) His oncologist has been on tour with him as a precaution. It was very emotional watching last night because you can see how gutted he and the band and of course the fans. It was a very big deal here. CBC (Canadian broadcasting) had it on commercial free last night. Even prime minister dreamy was in attendance.
Long story short, it was very tough to watch a talented dude basically perform his own wake
Tell me I'm not wrong?! I am 31 years old, never done anything to upset my Mom. She and I are very close, talk daily and usually twice a day. So I decided to finally break down and get a tattoo. Small, on my wrist and it's an infinity symbol with our wedding date incorporated. She literally told me she didn't want to talk about it and then said she would let me go (we were on the phone cause we live 1.5 hours apart) and that she didn't have anything to say.
Am I wrong for doing this? It's something I've wanted and finally figured out something I could live with permanently and now she is basically not talking to me. I haven't tried to call her back since I know she was mad.
Tell me I'm not wrong?! I am 31 years old, never done anything to upset my Mom. She and I are very close, talk daily and usually twice a day. So I decided to finally break down and get a tattoo. Small, on my wrist and it's an infinity symbol with our wedding date incorporated. She literally told me she didn't want to talk about it and then said she would let me go (we were on the phone cause we live 1.5 hours apart) and that she didn't have anything to say.
Am I wrong for doing this? It's something I've wanted and finally figured out something I could live with permanently and now she is basically not talking to me. I haven't tried to call her back since I know she was mad.
You're not wrong. She's being ridiculous. It's a small, tasteful tattoo you can probably cover if you ever needed to. I think it's safe to assume you haven't ruined you work potential or started a new ink trend in your family if they are conservative. Fwiw my mom would be the same way. I'm sorry
Post by dizzycooks on Aug 21, 2016 19:57:25 GMT -5
Doing laundry and drinking wine here. I see much wine in my future. Dhs mom just told him they will not move closer until after his dad dies (he's not actively dying more than you or I are...), but that she is uncomfortable driving and feels unsafe even driving around their small town. Film doesn't drive. They are a freaking accident waiting to happen. Literally. And there's not a darn thing we can do to help.
newmomma8, your mom is being ridiculous. You're 31 years old, and last time I checked that was more than old enough to make you own decisions about what you do with your body.
That sounds harsh, but I suck at wording things nicely.
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