Waiting To Do Something - 8/15

[PepperPottsJ]

This is the Waiting to do Something thread posted once a week (usually on Mondays - sometimes not) for those of us that experience long, extended cycles. Whether it's medicated cycles, long (45ish + days) cycles, postpartum/breastfeeding, TTA, on the bench, or something else, this is the place we gather throughout the week to discuss and vent about our slightly unique situation.

Numbers:

Circumstances:

RRNFNSQ:

GTKY: What is your favorite Olympics gif/meme so far?

[PepperPottsJ]

Just gonna post the meme here and come back for the rest later

[TheEleventhHour]

Numbers: Currently not keeping track.

Circumstances: TTA.

RRNFNSQ: My periods are awful. AWFUL. I am on day 3 of really heavy flow. I felt so lightheaded and weak earlier. I need this IUD out. I cannot wait to finally have my appointment with my new OB. And I already told DH I am not doing anything else for contraceptives. He doesn't want to start TTC until at least next spring but is fine with no birth control since he knows how miserable I have been trying to find something that works. I am just over it and want nothing in my body anymore.

GTKY: What is your favorite Olympics gif/meme so far?

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Numbers:CD 22

Circumstances:TTA

RRNFNSQ:Not a lot going on. Been feeling weird since I started dieting and then being really sick over the weekend. I kinda feel like I don't know my body anymore sort of. Aside from that, DH is starting back to school next Monday.

GTKY: What is your favorite Olympics gif/meme so far?
I haven't seen any actually.

[sammysam]

Numbers: NA

Circumstances : Considering TFAS

RRNFNSQ : Same as always. I'm still having a really hard time being ok with TTC. I keep using the strategy of not bringing it up and hoping SO just forgets about it...but he doesn't. He brings it up all the time. Yet won't make a decision.

GTKY: I'm on an isand with no TV, no WiFi and limited data. This is the most media exposture I get.

[pearlvirus]

Numbers: dunno

Circumstances: TTA, maybe TTC #3 in the spring

RRNFNSQ: I wish I was more sure how many kids is the right number for my family. I (pre first baby's birth) wanted 4, but this is way harder then I thought it would be. But I think maybe I am just not a baby person and if I stopped now I'd be sad when they are a little older. I don't know. Maybe I don't need the chaos of I big family....

GTKY: What is your favorite Olympics gif/meme so far? No idea. I have watched zero olympics and am terrible at memes

[icedtea]

Numbers: Cycle 13, just came off a 43-day cycle

Circumstances: TTC, irregular periods, seeing RE soon

RRNFNSQ: I basically feel like I'm in a holding pattern until my appointment next week, and then my understanding is that there's a bunch more waiting...?

GTKY: What is your favorite Olympics gif/meme so far? I haven't seen a ton, but Simone's flippy thing was awesome. And I love that possessed swimmer one PepperPottsJ lol

[icedtea]

TheEleventhHour, good luck! I hope it's out soon and you feel better. I loved my IUD until I didn't anymore they can be rough.

[sammysam]

pearlvirus I completely understand your feelings. I love being OAD and am having a hard time coming to terms with expanding our family but part of me worries that if we don't I'll regret it in the future. That being said I spent the day with my best friend yesterday. She has 4. Her oldest 10 and youngest 4. She is also not a baby person but always wanted 4. Her kids are awesome and LOVE eachother. It almost makes me feel like I could maybe do it again. Maybe. Or just use her kids as surrogate siblings for my one.

[pearlvirus]

sammysam my 2 are just starting to be really adorable together. I am extremely grateful for myself and for them that they have each other, but justifying more is a little trickier... I'm trying to just leave it alone for now and maybe by spring it will feel obvious one way or the other, but I suck at that and am always on here reading about other people TTC, lol.

[sammysam]

pearlvirus I do exactly the same thing. I suck at making decisions. That's why I've pushed the decision into SO's lap. I hope he has some sort of clarity one way or another in the not too distant future.

The nice thing is that I don't think there is a wrong decision. Families can be any size. But I'm sure I'll continue to question my decision no matter which route we choose.

How old are you little ones? How was the transition from 1 to 2?

[pearlvirus]

sammysam DD1 is almost 2.5 and DD2 is 9 months. I would say the transition was hard, but not as hard as I found 0 to 1. But some things that influences that are: they are are only 19 months apart, DD1 is super high needs but DD2 is more mellow, I hired a nanny so I can get out on my own a couple hours each week. I think if DD2 was like DD1 I would be definitive about being done, lol. How old is yours?

[sammysam]

pearlvirus DD is 2.5. She is happy being an only so far and is attached to me 24/7 when I am not at work. I'm a teacher so she has the entire summer with me. I sleep with her at night too. SO has a very demanding and time consuming job so her time with him is limited...all of which are reasons I'm worried about bringing another into the mix. I feel like if we were going to do it maybe we should have tried sooner so she didn't get so used to being an only. She is starting montessori in January so even if we do have a second she would be in school full time during the day.

Everyone tells me the transition from 1 to 2 is the hardest.

I wish there was a magic crystal ball that could let us see exactly what the future would look like in all cases so we knew the best route to choose. Bah.

[pearlvirus]

sammysam my older did pt Montessori last winter and loved it! She is super excited to move into the primary room this year! We decided it would be good for her to have her own thing while I was distracted by a newborn. And also for me and said newborn to have some quiet time just the 2 of us. It worked out really well except that DD1 brought home a lot of colds that both I and DD2 also got, so that sucked. June is a great time to be born... Having done 2u2 I think 3 years apart sounds really smart, lol. She'd be old enough to be a helper and to be left alone for short periods of time while you put #2 to nap or whatever. I had A LOT of grandma help when DD2 was small and I would have lost my mind without it because DD1 still wanted to be a baby and wasn't safe on her own at all ever. For some reason I think 2 to 3 would be easier then either of the first two. Maybe naivety?

[sammysam]

pearlvirus It's so nice to hear an honest perspective on it! I can see what you mean about a 3+ age gap likely being easier. DD is able to play on her own and do her own thing while I clean, cook etc. I am sure most of the downsides that I see are simply in my own mind. Probably because the older DD gets the more attached to her I feel and I'm so afraid that changing the family dynamic we have now will really upset her. Like I said, probably mostly in my own head!

I'm also glad to hear that you've had such a good experience with montessori. I can't wait for her to start in the Casa class in January. It looks amazing and friends and family swear by it. I'm just worried how she will be to be on her own without either myself or my mom for the first time ever. How was your DD when she started? Was it hard for her or did she take right to it? Did she start in full days right off the bat? I'm worried there will be tears. Most of them will probably be mine.

[gabride2010]

I hope your periods get better soon TheEleventhHour!

@veritas Feel better soon!

sammysam That's tough! Hugs!

pearlvirus Hugs! Good luck with making your decision.

icedtea I hope your RE appointment goes well and that you get a game plan!

AFM...
Numbers: Cycle 5, Month 8, CD 28

Circumstances: TTC #1

RRNFNSQ: H and I are prepping for a big move in the next few months, and I will be starting a new job. I don't want to stop TTC, but I'm a bit worried about starting a new job pregnant or getting pregnant very soon after starting. I'm not worried enough to stop TTC though. My new boss seems awesome, and I know the doc I'm going to work with would understand. I'm not sure I articulated myself well there, but it's early.

GTKY - I don't know how to meme/gif on mobile.

[pearlvirus]

sammysam she might surprise you. Most of the big sisters I know (including my DD1) are very attach to and protective of their littles. Yes, there can be some jealousy but I personally think it's good for kids to feel some uncomfortable emotions when they are young so they can learn how to deal with them. Same goes for school. Yes, there was some crying at first. The teachers recommend, give them a kiss, say goodbye and leave. Drawing it out actually makes it harder for your kid. For probably close to 6 weeks she was difficult to leave behind. However, the teachers said after I was gone she was fine and happy the rest of the time. And after the adjustment, she loved going. This will totally be harder on you than her. Also, yours will be way older then my was, she's probably ready! Mine doesn't do full days though. Since I SAH, we did the minimum: 3 hours, 4 days a week. We'll do the same this year and probably keep with half days until full is required when she starts first grade.