How long did it take LO to adjust to new care provider

[jewel441]

How long did it take for your LO to adjust to a new care provider/day care?

Our very first day with the nanny was great, but after that LO freaks out with her, hysterical pretty much all day unless I am also in the room. Sometimes she won't even let the Nanny hold her even if I am right there. Idk if it's worse bc I'm home or not. This week we have been doing a lot of play in my office while I work, which is fine but obviously when I have calls this isn't going to work. It's only the 4th day (2nd week) so I'm sure this is still normal, but please tell me it gets better!!!

[mom2boxers]

Not long, but that might be because we started at 12 weeks and she didn't have as much awareness of separation as she would now and it's in a center so it's a change of environment.

My first went through a couple of phases as he got older too especially if it was around the times he transitions to a new room.

[mom2boxers]

It will get better but you might have to stay out of sight. This also happens as they get close to 1. The DC people who have kids enrolled told me they can't visit and have to stay out of sight or their kids want them and they have jobs to do.

[jewel441]

Aug 18, 2016 14:40:41 GMT -5 mom2boxers said:

It will get better but you might have to stay out of sight. This also happens as they get close to 1. The DC people who have kids enrolled told me they can't visit and have to stay out of sight or their kids want them and they have jobs to do.

Easier said than done... I am BF her and she is a bottle refuser, that's why I have her in the house... I still nurse during the day so she is going to see me sometimes. Separately the crying is so horrible that I don't last that long before I feel like I need to intervene... Idk if I am just setting myself up for an impossible situation here.

[sunshineshades]

So I've never had to send my baby that young to a caregiver but dd1 cried a lot for like 2 years at drop off. She'd stop once I left.
So you being there yes probably makes it worse. Also that it is only twice a week. Again she was much older but the less she went to daycare the more she cried, or if the drop off routine changed. In fact at 3.5 we just went through major freak outs at drop off because her routine was changed.
Nothing much you can do about that though. It may just take longer Unfortunately.
The nanny may need to find things that work for her even if they are not how you do things at all.

[mom2boxers]

Have you tried different bottles or being out of the house so someone else can give it to her? Maybe if the nanny wrapped her in a shirt or blanket that had your scent on it she might take it from her.

[jewel441]

Aug 18, 2016 14:57:59 GMT -5 mom2boxers said:

Have you tried different bottles or being out of the house so someone else can give it to her? Maybe if the nanny wrapped her in a shirt or blanket that had your scent on it she might take it from her.

We tried all the things for bottle, we just kinda gave up since I was gonna be working from home and I would rather BF than pump anyways. I'm sure we could have done more but it was so painful and not pressing...

We are gonna try the sippy cup when we start solids but I still plan on mostly nursing throughout the day.

[rachelilly23]

So, I went back to work with DS1 when he was 5 months. He took a bottle fine from our nanny, but I was also not in the house. He actually started preferring the bottle to me since he could eat faster.

I haven't gone back to work after having my younger 2, but I would start trying to push bottles. Why would LO settle for the nanny when you are there and she can get it from the tap? I think you just need to try to push through for a couple days with staying hidden if you are working at home.

K was not taking bottles either, but H figured out she is very picky about the milk temperature. Is that something you have played with at all?

[sctiger]

LO started at 5 months, just last week. She goes every day and I can't go see her so that makes a difference. Honestly the ladies who take care of her are baby whisperers. EJ was not great at bottles and always napped on me. The first day they had her sleeping in the crib. She only took 3-5 ounces the first few days but by Friday she was finishing her bottles and has done so this week. They did a great job figuring out what works for her. She also started sleeping in her crib at night.

[paloslee]

LO stays with my SIL. She's really good with him. He had to adjust of course but now loves going over there. I went back to work when max was about 12wks. It took him about 2 wks to adjust. About the bottle my first refused too. DC still attempted. He would drink his bottles but never enjoyed them and only drank a few oz. Until I got him to nurse. Occasionally I'd go at lunch since the DC was on my school campus. She'll given in, eventually.

[jewel441]

Clarifying... We aren't doing bottles. I nurse her during the day, that's why I wanted her home with me so I don't have to pump. We are going to do a sippy cup for hopefully some flexibility but my plan has always been to nurse her during the day.

I realize it may take longer for her to adjust, but it's worth it and I hope she does. Like I don't have to be in the room if H is with her, she will just chill with him and play. Obviously not the same, but I hope we get closer to that...

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I'm sorry. That must be really stressful. I don't have any advice since J is going to an in-home daycare. He's had some fussy days for sure, but for the most part he loves going.

[jewel441]

Aug 19, 2016 9:28:06 GMT -5 @pennycandy said:

I'm sorry. That must be really stressful. I don't have any advice since J is going to an in-home daycare. He's had some fussy days for sure, but for the most part he loves going.

Luckily I am coming back at a really slow time and there is an easy ramp up period. My work is pretty seasonal, I will get much busier towards the end of Sept. So hopefully things are a little better by then!