Post by akraus2015 on Aug 28, 2016 15:52:29 GMT -5
jayhawk84, I cannot even tell you all the embarrassing public places I cried after we lost Emmett. Bars, restaurants, randomly on a Sunday afternoon at Q'doba, my office, you name it...
@samrs22, I'm sorry people can be so insensitive. People say stuff to me like that all the time. I try to remember that they're genuinely well-intentioned. But...it's hard not to want to throat punch people sometimes. My MIL keeps insinuating that we are seeking testing and treatment too early and wasting our money...."Susie on blah blah reality show is doing IUI too, but you know, they tried for like 4 years first..." ((SIDE EYE...))
Post by wannabmama on Aug 28, 2016 16:19:22 GMT -5
Oh man...the crazy places I have cried. My office being among the worst...many times. Also: commuter rail. Wearing sunglasses when it's dark out attracts as much attention as sitting there with tears, as it turns out. Oh yeah and then there was a couple weeks ago when friends were visiting and they both said how great a mom I will be...and I started bawling at the bar. MH was so embarrassed and I would've been too but too sad to care. This whole experience blows. Hugs to y'all, because I know each of you gets it.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Love tit for support wannabmama. (I always get awkwardly worried after liking sad posts and feel the need to clarify.)
Hugs to all who are needing them today.
I do the same thing (feel funny LTing for sad posts) but back when we started this thread, we agreed that here especially LTs are support and hugs. So I LT away Hugs
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
I'm late to respond but I just wanted to share that after my first two losses DH and I went away for a weekend. As we were leaving, his grandmother hugged me tight and whispered "Please don't get pregnant again this weekend. You really don't want to do that so soon."
UM, that was inappropriate for SO many freaking reasons and thanks for making me depressed as I get in the car to go away for a nice relaxing weekend with DH. Angry face.
Why is it that the people closest to us often respond so poorly?!?
I was so pissed. Poor DH had to listen to me rant for awhile in the car. I've been mostly lucky that the people around me have been fantastic. There is one "friend" who has been beyond insensitive but other than that it's been mostly ok.
I always want to respond with something totally shocking when people say stuff like that doodler. Oh, it's ok gma, we only do anal. Since you're so curious about my sex life. I'd never say anything but the things that pop into my head at least make me chuckle.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
I always want to respond with something totally shocking when people say stuff like that doodler. Oh, it's ok gma, we only do anal. Since you're so curious about my sex life. I'd never say anything but the things that pop into my head at least make me chuckle.
Thanks for the laugh! I'm imagining her reaction if I said that hahahaha!
I recently had someone ask how it was all going and then after saying something supportive, continued with "well at least you aren't getting pregnant every week" with a smile. I had no idea what she meant so I just nodded and drank my screwdriver.
My family just likes to ask inappropriate questions.
Did you put your legs up in the air?
I was even told during a FUNERAL to go home and get busy.
Umm, FW is already past, and WTF?
I am not sure I could out-awkward them.
I don't even know what to say about those comments. OMG people focus on your own sex life, please and thank you.
I've taken to saying "That's not science!" whenever people say shit about relaxing. Most people have stopped just so they don't have to listen to me. Whatever it takes.
I recently had someone ask how it was all going and then after saying something supportive, continued with "well at least you aren't getting pregnant every week" with a smile. I had no idea what she meant so I just nodded and drank my screwdriver.
I recently had someone ask how it was all going and then after saying something supportive, continued with "well at least you aren't getting pregnant every week" with a smile. I had no idea what she meant so I just nodded and drank my screwdriver.
I recently had someone ask how it was all going and then after saying something supportive, continued with "well at least you aren't getting pregnant every week" with a smile. I had no idea what she meant so I just nodded and drank my screwdriver.
I cannot for the life of me figure out what that could mean.
I recently had someone ask how it was all going and then after saying something supportive, continued with "well at least you aren't getting pregnant every week" with a smile. I had no idea what she meant so I just nodded and drank my screwdriver.
I cannot for the life of me figure out what that could mean.
This was weeks ago and I still occasionally wonder. All I can think is that she's talking about some stereotype of a young woman who is constantly pregnant...? I don't know. I wanted to respond with "actually, being pregnant would be a good thing" but it wasn't worth it.
Rama, I have been known to answer versions of "why aren't you guys trying yet?" with "we are, and I was pregnant earlier this year" followed by just staring.
Rama, I have been known to answer versions of "why aren't you guys trying yet?" with "we are, and I was pregnant earlier this year" followed by just staring.
I've always just been blunt, to everyone. My SIL once tried to explain an example to me about how it's good to not be pregnant (some kind of silver lining convo we were having? Idr) and I refused to acknowledge that not being pregnant was in any way okay with me.
I don't care how convenient things are because I'm not pregnant or don't have a kid. I'd give my left leg up. I want this badly. Now. And no amount of forcing myself to look at the bright side changes that. I'd give everything up for this.
Rama , I have been known to answer versions of "why aren't you guys trying yet?" with "we are, and I was pregnant earlier this year" followed by just staring.
I've always just been blunt, to everyone. My SIL once tried to explain an example to me about how it's good to not be pregnant (some kind of silver lining convo we were having? Idr) and I refused to acknowledge that not being pregnant was in any way okay with me.
I don't care how convenient things are because I'm not pregnant or don't have a kid. I'd give my left leg up. I want this badly. Now. And no amount of forcing myself to look at the bright side changes that. I'd give everything up for this.
I had a friend try to comfort me after my loss by saying, " well, maybe God knew you were going to have a really rough year and he wanted you to be able to drink for it." Um, wtf?! So, I'm not pregnant and my year is going to suck...super comforting.
I had a friend try to comfort me after my loss by saying, " well, maybe God knew you were going to have a really rough year and he wanted you to be able to drink for it." Um, wtf?! So, I'm not pregnant and my year is going to suck...super comforting.
I had a friend try to comfort me after my loss by saying, " well, maybe God knew you were going to have a really rough year and he wanted you to be able to drink for it." Um, wtf?! So, I'm not pregnant and my year is going to suck...super comforting.
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Wow. I don't know if that person would be my friend anymore.
I had a friend try to comfort me after my loss by saying, " well, maybe God knew you were going to have a really rough year and he wanted you to be able to drink for it." Um, wtf?! So, I'm not pregnant and my year is going to suck...super comforting.
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