When does it end?

[motownthrowdown]

Ok, so I know it's probably never going to end, but when did you stop wanting to sob whenever you saw something on Facebook or whatever about a "happy, healthy mommy and baby" coming home from the hospital days after a full term, uncomplicated, nicu-free birth? Or when you see pictures of babies who weigh 15 pounds at 6 months and yours is barely over that at 16 months? Or when someone whines that they are "so over it" at 30 weeks when you were trying to convince your doctor to let you go one more week, one more day, when you weren't even in the third trimester?

Really triggered today. Not exactly sure why.

[minae01]

I don't think the sting ever goes away, but in time, the pain dulls. I'm sorry.

[runningmommy519]

Mo, ds1 is 4.5. ds2 is 1. It still hurts. I don't think I'll ever be over it. Maybe if E had been full term and brought home right after birth then maybe it would hurt less.

Sending hugs

[sahara78]

DD is 4 and weighs only 30 pounds, so I hear "She's so tiny!" all the time. I feel less emotional about the things you mention, but the sting is still there. People complaining about late pregnancy really frustrate me.

[motownthrowdown]

Looks like I'm in this for the long haul then. Maybe when she graduates college?

Thanks ladies!

[theycallmekveld]

[bromios]

I don't think there will ever be a time when I am completely immune to all the nicu-related triggers. I still feel a visceral hatred every time a mother-to-be is complaining about wanting her pregnancy to be over when she isn't to term yet. Some things have gotten so much better, though. I don't dread their birthday anymore. But that took a few years. I think that healing from the nicu is an ongoing, possibly life-long process, but it does happen.

[lucilleaustero]

I was so fortunate that my 35 weeker was bigger than the average full term baby at birth. My DD was 10lbs 9ozs at birth and my son was on track to beat her, when I ruptured at 35 weeks.

But, the NICU sucks no matter what size your baby is born at. My nephew wound up being born in the same hospital as DS and spent several days in the NICU my DS was in. It was so so hard visiting him. It is the place where I felt the rawest, where I worried the most...that will never go away.

I become so so angry when people wish for their baby to come earlier because they are uncomfortable. You want your baby on oxygen because they are struggling to breath? You want your baby to be a pincushion?

[megrae12]

Sept 7, 2016 13:51:49 GMT -5 @amc25 said:

I've been lurking this board on and off since my son was born in June of last year, but have never posted because I don't feel like I really "go" here since he was born at 36+6. I get pangs of anger, jealousy, and sadness whenever I hear or read people complaining about the final weeks of pregnancy. What I would've given to be able to go overdue!

I'm due with my second baby in March, and there's a good chance I'll be induced at 36 weeks this time around (I had severe cholestasis last time - 90% recurrence rate). As the reality of this pregnancy is setting in, I'm trying my best to come to peace with the fact that my babies have to be born early, but it still stings. Wishing peace to all of you ladies as well!

My baby was born at 35+4 due to severe cholestasis. If wee decide to conceive again, I will be right where you are. PM if you want to vent. It sucks knowing you will always have preterm babies.

[legomyago]

Oh man, the people wishing they were done make me crazy. Or they keep saying "I'm so huge! I can't do this anymore!" I would have loved to have got there.

[taconight]

I used to be really resentful of all my friends and family that got to take home their full term babies. I'm past that now and can be happy for them without the resentment. The comments still bother me though, but it's not something I think about on a day to day basis anymore. It really does get easier!