Sleep Vent

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The last few months LO has been sleeping like crap pure up 2-3 times a night crap. DH and I don't have family close so we have not had the option of dropping her at grandmas to get 1 nights sleep. And then when we say we aren't pursueing #2 for this reason my momgets all pissy and high and mighty and is like of you have to have #2 Maddie needs a bro/sister or next one will sleep better. Both DH and mines work is starting to suffer and with him traveling we genuinely fear he will fall asleep at the wheel one day. I wish people would just be more understanding!!!!

[blush]

Some people just don't get it. The next one might be an amazing sleeper but also might be worse. Plus, if the first one is still keeping you up it doesn't matter if the next one sleeps, you'll be so tired.

I understand parents wanting grandchildren but it would be nice if they considered that it is really none of their business.

I hope your LO starts sleeping better. I wish I had some trick that would help. A has not been good about sleeping either. We are sticking to the routine and hoping this phase passes.

[sudokufan]

I think it's selective amnesia kicking in- our moms had us long enough ago to forget what it's like. I hope that happens to me too some day! I get it though, Bud slept through the night last night and it's such a rare occurrence that we celebrated like crazy. Ironically, having a full nights sleep made me feel sleepier this morning The night before he was up 3 times and had a diaper blowout, so one night probably just isn't enough to catch up.

[shopgirl]

We are the opposite, here. DS is a great sleeper, and has been for the most part since 12 weeks. We have a bad feeling that our baby girl on the way is never going to sleep.

I hope that things improve for you guys soon and can get some sleep!

[RiseAndWine]

Ugh that's rough. I am in the camp that some kids are just not great sleepers. That said, your second could be different and be a great sleeper. Or if s/he isn't, it could be better to get all the lack of sleep out at once. If you get past this stage with your DD and then decide to have another you might have to go through it all again instead of getting it done in one shot.

However if you all are suffering the way you are and its impacting your daily lives, I totally don't blame you for just trying to maintain status quo. Just try and tune your mom out - as PPs said, she has forgotten what it's like and isn't being very supportive.

I hope you guys get some relief soon!

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Thank you for the kind words. Sometimes just getting the words out helps so much!

[emmy236]

I can relate. R has been sick lately and getting what I think are nightmares. He's been up a few times a night. Also, DH has developed severe sleep apnea. I finally couldn't get through the snoring and choking so I made him get a sleep study done over the weekend. he is in the top 2% of the severest cases. The nurse said he was one of the loudest people she's ever heard. I used to get away with ear plugs but now I can't use them because I need to hear the monitor. I can't wait until his c-pap machine comes. I really hope you guys get some sleep soon!

[3timemom]

I agree some kids just don't sleep well. My oldest and LO sleep amazing and have since practically day 1. My middle one, she still doesn't go to sleep well but once asleep in her bed will normally sleep all night, she just turned 5. She has trouble falling asleep and therefore gets up/plays/talks, whatever have you for sometimes hours, it has recently become an issue again because she is keeping my oldest awake. It sucks but eventually they will sleep.

[huzzahuzza]

My MIL posted a quote on my FB wall the other day that said something about cherishing every moment, even when they're not sleeping through the night. I'm sorry lady but when you go almost 2 years without GOOD restful sleep, that quote just pisses people off.