WWN13 do?
Jan 16, 2015 15:57:07 GMT -5
Post by cagoldi on Jan 16, 2015 15:57:07 GMT -5
I need to apologize in advance because this will be long and maybe hard to follow.
So my mom lives in Vegas. LSS she is back together with my ex SD. They are not remarried but I expect they
are going to stay together. I always planned on having my mom around to help out when we were starting our family. It's been hard on me with her being so far away. I know she would love to move back and spend more time with Atticus.
My ideal situation would be moving into a bigger place and having my mom and SD stay with us. My SD could keep working and my mom could either stay home and watch A or seek out a job although I'm sure she would choose to watch him. Pete is *mostly* okay with this. They are both smokers and that is super annoying to both of us. They would never smoke in the house. My mom could go hours at a time without smoking so I don't think that would be a big factor with her watching A. But there's the fact that he has asthma so any remnants of smoke could be a problem for him. I know she washes her hands after smoking and I could ask her to change her shirt as well to try to mitigate that.
I am feeling lonely with Pete getting home after A is asleep most nights and I want to feel like someone is around that's invested in the outcome. I could hire a mother's helper or have my sister's come over but I want to feel like I have a partner in raising him. If it can't be Pete then I might as well have my mom. Another consideration is baby 2.0 should we TTC again. I don't want my next PP experience to be anything like the last and I know I would fare better if I had more help the next time around.
I guess my question is would you try to make this happen? Do I just need to accept that it would be a complicated arrangement and try to just cobble together whatever family members I have locally so they're around more?
So my mom lives in Vegas. LSS she is back together with my ex SD. They are not remarried but I expect they
are going to stay together. I always planned on having my mom around to help out when we were starting our family. It's been hard on me with her being so far away. I know she would love to move back and spend more time with Atticus.
My ideal situation would be moving into a bigger place and having my mom and SD stay with us. My SD could keep working and my mom could either stay home and watch A or seek out a job although I'm sure she would choose to watch him. Pete is *mostly* okay with this. They are both smokers and that is super annoying to both of us. They would never smoke in the house. My mom could go hours at a time without smoking so I don't think that would be a big factor with her watching A. But there's the fact that he has asthma so any remnants of smoke could be a problem for him. I know she washes her hands after smoking and I could ask her to change her shirt as well to try to mitigate that.
I am feeling lonely with Pete getting home after A is asleep most nights and I want to feel like someone is around that's invested in the outcome. I could hire a mother's helper or have my sister's come over but I want to feel like I have a partner in raising him. If it can't be Pete then I might as well have my mom. Another consideration is baby 2.0 should we TTC again. I don't want my next PP experience to be anything like the last and I know I would fare better if I had more help the next time around.
I guess my question is would you try to make this happen? Do I just need to accept that it would be a complicated arrangement and try to just cobble together whatever family members I have locally so they're around more?