TTCAL 9.6.16

[honda13]

pinkcat, I'm sorry for your loss. Today is understandably a difficult day. Hugs to you.

[PirateCat]

pinkcat, sending so many hugs to you and doodler today. I can only imagine how hard it must be for you today. Do you think it would be helpful to talk to your H if he doesn't bring it up on his own? I feel like you need lots of IRL hugs and not just the virtual ones from us.

[pinkcat]

Sept 7, 2016 10:35:26 GMT -5 PirateCat said:

pinkcat , sending so many hugs to you and doodler today. I can only imagine how hard it must be for you today. Do you think it would be helpful to talk to your H if he doesn't bring it up on his own? I feel like you need lots of IRL hugs and not just the virtual ones from us.

Thanks so much! He actually just brought it up on his own. I feel a little better now, and he let me know how sad he is today too and that he was just trying to not upset me earlier this morning.

Can it just be tomorrow yet? Love you all though- I knew I would be talking to someone who "gets it" here and I am soooo grateful for that

[Rama]

Lots of love, pinkcat. "Happy" due date. <3

[doodler]

pinkcat big hugs today. I'm glad you talked to your husband. Mine didn't remember and when I reminded him last night he awkwardly held my hand as usual.

Yesterday I got an invitation in the mail for a baby shower for DH's cousin. They have the same last name as us and she is due in a few weeks. Back when this loss first happened one of the first things I saw when I logged back onto Facebook was her announcement that "Baby Boy (my last name) is Due in September!" I of course cried my eyes out because I was supposed to be due in September. Then yesterday I get her baby shower invitation the night before my due date and of course that didn't go over very well. It's on Saturday and I won't be attending.

[wannabmama]

pinkcat and doodler extra hugs to both of you today. I hope you can both do something special for yourselves today and can feel my big internet hugs coming through the computer!!

[irish14]

All the love and hugs, pinkcat - you're not the only one who knows about it, we're here commemorating it with you. I'll say a prayer or release some good karma for you and yours tonight, whatever's your thing.

[jayhawk84]

Sending love to pinkcat and @doodler today. I hope the rest of the day passes quickly for each of you.

[akraus2015]

pinkcat and doodler, sending you big hugs. Pinkcat, what you wrote about feeling like you're the only one constantly thinking about your baby and EDD really got to me. You should never feel like you are alone in loving and acknowledging your baby.

You encouraged me to pay a visit to Emmett today, and I picked up some of these "work in progress" hearts. They're fair trade products that are etched by men and then wet-sanded by women in third world countries. The people receive fair wages in exchange for their work.
You can read more about how they're made here: www.ventureimports.com/index.php/how-it-s-made.html.

From one momma to two others, know that your babies are loved and acknowledged today and everyday. ((Hugs))

[wannabmama]

akraus2015 that is beautiful. I'm totally crying. What a sweet gesture.

[doodler]

Sept 7, 2016 16:55:46 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

pinkcat and doodler, sending you big hugs. Pinkcat, what you wrote about feeling like you're the only one constantly thinking about your baby and EDD really got to me. You should never feel like you are alone in loving and acknowledging your baby.

You encouraged me to pay a visit to Emmett today, and I picked up some of these "work in progress" hearts. They're fair trade products that are etched by men and then wet-sanded by women in third world countries. The people receive fair wages in exchange for their work.
You can read more about how they're made here: www.ventureimports.com/index.php/how-it-s-made.html.

From one momma to two others, know that your babies are loved and acknowledged today and everyday. ((Hugs))

I am so overwhelmed with emotion. This is so thoughtful, and kind, and now I just can't stop crying.

Thank you so much for thinking of my little boy. I walked around work today like a zombie and I kept thinking that it was so crazy for me to be grieving my baby and feeling like I was falling apart and nobody else knows or cares. Thank you for caring. Thank you for acknowledging him and thank you so much for your kind gesture. I can't begin to tell you what this means to me.

[akraus2015]

doodler, I hate that feeling of isolation that this whole process brings. It's why I'm so glad we have this community. I'm here if you want to talk!

[irish14]

akraus2015 that's just beautiful

[kayladawn91]

akraus2015 you have such a huge heart.

[PirateCat]

akraus2015 that is incredibly thoughtful. Hugs to all.

[pinkcat]

akraus2015 That is so, so incredibly sweet that I am speechless. I have been sitting here crying (the good kind of tears) that a "stranger" would take time out to think of our little baby. I appreciate it more than you know and it helped so much today! I wish I could LT that post a thousand times, and I will always look at it when I'm feeling down.

Thank you, and Emmett, from the bottom of my heart. This thread is truly a special place and I am so thankful for all of the support today.

[akraus2015]

The CAL board did a fall gift exchange last year and I got a coffee mug that says "fabulous" from one of the ladies. It was such a sweet gesture and makes me smile every single time I use it. It's great to know we have a support network from all over the world.

[Rama]

akraus2015 I'm crying over here, too. That's such a sweet gesture.

[honda13]

akraus2015 there is something in my eye now. Seriously though, what a beautiful and thoughtful gesture.

[akraus2015]

Sept 7, 2016 18:26:20 GMT -5 honda13 said:

akraus2015 there is something in my eye now. Seriously though, what a beautiful and thoughtful gesture.

Gettin dusty in here...

[icedtea]

akraus2015, also tearing up here, what a thoughtful thing to do.

Many hugs to you all.

[vancitygirl]

Big hugs to you doodler. I hate pregnancy announcements and the fact that they have the power to make me feel like I failed where whoever it is succeeded.

[vancitygirl]

akraus2015 you are such an amazing soul. ❤️

[vancitygirl]

jayhawk84 I think you've inspired me to talk to my mom. I tried to before months ago about all this TTC stuff and she was like "you need to just relax" so I couldn't continue the conversation but maybe it's time to reopen that door. Thank you.

[vancitygirl]

kayladawn91 the first 8 years of my teaching career were like that but I promise it gets better.stick it out--just like this crazy TTC promise as hard as it's we have an end goal in mind and we might get let down slots long the way but that destination will be totally worth it in the end

[rosey06]

Hey ladies. I'm slowly making the move back to the board from the april2017 board and figured this was a good place to start.
This is my first loss and its very fresh. We have a follow up sonogram monday to see if I'll need a d&c that day but my fingers are crossed I won't. It's been a very long week in our house.

How are you doing? Not too horrible. As the days go on, I'm coming to terms with it all atleast.

Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): benched At the moment

Diagnosis (if applicable): --

Updates/questions: I have a big ol question. How does this work cycle-wise. I used fertility friend, so do I mark the first day of bleeding as day 1? And this is currently my first cycle after the loss... That I assume I should be skipping? My dr didn't give me a time frame on being on the bench. She just said when I'm emotionally ready. But I assume I should let a period come first atleast?

Debbie downer (a place to vent): I could go on and on here at the moment so I'll spare you all.

QOTW: When you were a kid, what did you want to be/do when you grew up? Did you do it? A model or a teacher. Def not a model! Lol. I'm way to short and stumpy for that. And didn't become a teacher either.

[PirateCat]

Oh rosey06, I am so sorry you find yourself here. I'll let others chime in to answer your questions since my loss was much earlier, but I just wanted to offer you a hug.

[Rama]

rosey06 First, so sorry you're joining us. Please be kind with yourself.

Yes, the first day of bleeding will be CD1 in FF. This is the cycle that most people are told to TTA for. Some TTA one additional cycle to be sure the whole thing is completely over.

[icedtea]

rosey06, I'm so sorry to see you here. I hope you don't need the D&C. As Rama said, please be kind to yourself. Feel whatever you need to feel.

[honda13]

rosey06, I'm sorry to see you joining us. I continued to use FF and we TTA for one cycle. Sending you many hugs and if you need anything we are all here.