jayhawk84 I think you've inspired me to talk to my mom. I tried to before months ago about all this TTC stuff and she was like "you need to just relax" so I couldn't continue the conversation but maybe it's time to reopen that door. Thank you.
I hope the conversation goes well and she is able to respond in a more helpful way this time!
rosey06, I am so sorry you find yourself here. Please feel whatever you need to feel and be kind to yourself.
I just joined this thread recently (was also on April 17 briefly), but have already found it so helpful to share my feelings with the other women here. It can be comforting just to know that you are not alone and that what you are feeling is shared and understood by others.
TTCAL 9.6.16Sept 8, 2016 17:04:05 GMT -5via mobile
Post by irish14 on Sept 8, 2016 17:04:05 GMT -5
rosey06 others have answered the cycle question. All I can add is that I had a loss then got KU before I had another cycle (though my betas had gotten to negative) and I got some serious side eye from my OB. I lost that one too, and when I went in for follow up, she was like, seriously, wait a cycle.
Please don't take this as some anecdote implying that not waiting can cause mc - that is not my point at all, and I know that wasn't the case with my second bc we had chromosomal testing done that showed a random triploidy. But my point was just that my OB is very pro-wait a cycle, i.e. til after you have a normal period, and gave me some crap when I didn't. Also it was tough constantly answering the nurses' "when was your last period" questions with a narrative of my loss. For that reason alone I definitely think waiting a cycle is a good idea.
Thanks irish14 I think I'd absolutely feel more comfortable waiting for the next cycle also. Google did tell me the risk is higher for another if you don't. But I just think I'd be on edge.
Thanks irish14 I think I'd absolutely feel more comfortable waiting for the next cycle also. Google did tell me the risk is higher for another if you don't. But I just think I'd be on edge.
google will also tell you you're more likely to get KU... Google (and insensitive friends, and well meaning but ignorant family members, and...) say a lot of things. The ladies here, and good REs, and some good OBs, know the science. Dr. Google is tricky.
TTCAL 9.6.16Sept 8, 2016 21:35:17 GMT -5via mobile
Post by jayhawk84 on Sept 8, 2016 21:35:17 GMT -5
Rama, I'm thinking of you today, I hope you are doing okay. I know today was your test day and this is in no way trying to get you to update before you are ready- just wanted to "check on" you.
@ramalicious, I'm thinking of you today, I hope you are doing okay. I know today was your test day and this is in no way trying to get you to update before you are ready- just wanted to "check on" you.
I agree with this sentiment.
But also...
This is the best mis-tag ever. She totally is ramalicious. In the awesome way, not the creepy stalker way. Eta oh you fixed it! I'll delete this if you want
@ramalicious, I'm thinking of you today, I hope you are doing okay. I know today was your test day and this is in no way trying to get you to update before you are ready- just wanted to "check on" you.
I agree with this sentiment.
But also...
This is the best mis-tag ever. She totally is ramalicious. In the awesome way, not the creepy stalker way. Eta oh you fixed it! I'll delete this if you want
No worries! I couldn't quite remember what it was and took a shot, lol!
TTCAL 9.6.16Sept 8, 2016 22:43:25 GMT -5via mobile
Post by Rama on Sept 8, 2016 22:43:25 GMT -5
It's not the first time someone has said that tag, I'm so sad I didn't think of it when I made the account, hahaha!
My update is the obvious update. Whole lot of nothing. I've been too emotionally volatile the past few days to really update much of anywhere, so I don't. MrRama is pretty concerned about me, but I don't have a good solution to meet my needs right now. I'm just trying to make it through the days.
It's not the first time someone has said that tag, I'm so sad I didn't think of it when I made the account, hahaha!
My update is the obvious update. Whole lot of nothing. I've been too emotionally volatile the past few days to really update much of anywhere, so I don't. MrRama is pretty concerned about me, but I don't have a good solution to meet my needs right now. I'm just trying to make it through the days.
It's not the first time someone has said that tag, I'm so sad I didn't think of it when I made the account, hahaha!
My update is the obvious update. Whole lot of nothing. I've been too emotionally volatile the past few days to really update much of anywhere, so I don't. MrRama is pretty concerned about me, but I don't have a good solution to meet my needs right now. I'm just trying to make it through the days.
We decided not to wait to try again after my CP and I am 3DPO and having some doubts. I also read too much online about increased fertility vs. increased risk of another loss - so many conflicting information and anecdotes. I think I'm mostly okay with our decision and there's nothing we can do about it now anyway and we'll just wait and see how things go.
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