BIL's gf basically told me it was my fault I had a miscarriage. She found out she was pg a week after I did. I lost the baby and she was very incentive her entire pregnancy about it all.
Ugh. We had a contractor out to look at the house we are buying, and the repairs needed are more than we expected, both in money and level of complication. Their two story deck was built kind of janky and needs more reinforcement - its like pulling away from the house. We also have to completely tear out the concrete below the deck and regrade everything because it's too high and water is getting in by the basement door. Total estimated cost - $5k-$7k.
We are trying to decide if we want to get into something like this, even if the seller will give us the money for repairs. I am very torn. And it's hard to make a rational decision when sleep deprived.
Ugh. We had a contractor out to look at the house we are buying, and the repairs needed are more than we expected, both in money and level of complication. Their two story deck was built kind of janky and needs more reinforcement - its like pulling away from the house. We also have to completely tear out the concrete below the deck and regrade everything because it's too high and water is getting in by the basement door. Total estimated cost - $5k-$7k.
We are trying to decide if we want to get into something like this, even if the seller will give us the money for repairs. I am very torn. And it's hard to make a rational decision when sleep deprived.
That is so disappointing! If the sellers would give you the money towards the repairs, what is keeping you from going ahead with the sale?
BIL's gf basically told me it was my fault I had a miscarriage. She found out she was pg a week after I did. I lost the baby and she was very incentive her entire pregnancy about it all.
BIL's gf basically told me it was my fault I had a miscarriage. She found out she was pg a week after I did. I lost the baby and she was very incentive her entire pregnancy about it all.
WTF. Who does that...
My SILs are cool. I talk to one a lot, more than my actual sister. My sister and I have had lots of rough patches in our friendship, it definitely hasn't always been easy. If we lived near them though I think I'd be closest with my cousin's wife but she isn't on FB much so we don't chat a lot.
My SIL (who was pregnant at the time) and MIL ganged up on me at Christmas, during my second miscarriage, to tell me the losses and difficulties we were having were because I worked too much and was too uptight.
My SIL (who was pregnant at the time) and MIL ganged up on me at Christmas, during my second miscarriage, to tell me the losses and difficulties we were having were because I worked too much and was too uptight. 👍
renbee I've actually had two clients and one colleague encounter that kind of deck issue .. Somewhat common perhaps?
Can you have the seller fix it before you close? They should have to disclose these issues now once you tell them about them, so it's in their interest to get it taken care of. Repairs are a pain but if they can get done before you move in that would be awesome!
We had originally asked the seller to fix it and they said they didn't have time because they are already living in another city. So they offered us $2,700 which I knew wouldn't be enough, which is why we had a contractor come out to do the estimate.
I like the house I just don't know if I want to get into major repairs right now with having a baby and working full time... We were buying it because it is newer - our current house is over 100 years old. Plus there are other (smaller) repairs needed, and then a lot of cosmetic updates I would want to do. I'm just seeing this long to do list in my head and wondering if it's too much. Idk...
I'm at the point now I can look back on it and see it as well-intentioned, even if completely wrong and insensitive. They were hardly the only people who said hurtful things--my mom was pretty clueless too--so I try to put it in the context of a lot of people have no idea how to talk about it.
That's such a positive way to look at it. I can't imagine how hurtful that must've been at the time, though.
I am so sorry that family said such hurtful, insensitive things to you both. It was not your fault, and anyone who thinks differently does not have a clue.
ETA- apparently heartbot autocorrected to heartbeat on my phone
My SIL (who was pregnant at the time) and MIL ganged up on me at Christmas, during my second miscarriage, to tell me the losses and difficulties we were having were because I worked too much and was too uptight. 👍
That is absolutely terrible. Stuff like that would make me hold a lifelong grudge. Sorry you had to hear that from them.
I have always wished I had a sister. DH's sister is nice, and we get along fine. My brothers wife used to be very selfish, but that has changed some. Now that we both have kids, and my kids will be her kid(s? eventually) only cousins (she was an only child) she is trying a lot harder now. DH's brother in going to get engaged in a few months, I have never met her. She seems nice. I do not live anywhere near any of my SILs, so it is hard to really get to know them and be friends.
renbee I'm a bad reference bc all of our use of contractors have been awful experiences! I had to sue one to get our deposit back after the city refused to issue a permit. If you're questioning it I would say listen to your heart and walk away!
Yea we have had some bad experiences with contractors too, so it scares me. We asked the seller for the complete amount to do the fix, and if she doesn't agree I think we are walking.
I'm such a dummy. I do not get my Mirena in until 10/24. H and I did it last night for the first time in awhile. I'm starting to have O pains today. What type of bc did we use? Oh, the old pull and pray. So stupid. Now we pray.
Post by craftcrazymama on Sept 28, 2016 2:55:44 GMT -5
As the time comes to move LO to his own room it is becoming more and more apparent that I no longer want to have the kids sleeping downstairs while we sleep upstairs. It just doesn't feel right anymore and we are missing out on things like DD coming into our bed in the morning etc. In fact at the moment she comes out of her room in the morning and goes back to sleep at the bottom of the stairs waiting for us! So I mentioned it to DH who said he is feeling the same way and maybe it's time to sell and get our lifestyle block we've talked about a bit. At the time I said yes straight away and started drawing out plans but as he gets more serious about it I'm having all the feels about leaving the home my kids were born in and have only ever known. Especially for DD.
I would love to get our bit of land and build a home more conducive to our family as it is now but we thought we'd never leave this house and it's hard to imagine being anywhere else. I'm so torn and DH can't understand why.
BIL's gf basically told me it was my fault I had a miscarriage. She found out she was pg a week after I did. I lost the baby and she was very incentive her entire pregnancy about it all.
Late to the party, but someone needs to shank that bitch!
My SIL (who was pregnant at the time) and MIL ganged up on me at Christmas, during my second miscarriage, to tell me the losses and difficulties we were having were because I worked too much and was too uptight. 👍
OMFG. I think A16 needs to team up and shank a whole bunch of bitches.
Post by scotty138 on Sept 28, 2016 10:48:29 GMT -5
My mom is insisting on using cloth diapers while I'm gone. I'm so afraid she is going to wreck them but she won't use disposables. So I'm spending this morning making wash routine notes and being that crazy mom who is leaving a book of instructions for diapers and breastmilk. Can you tell I don't get away often? Lol
buttercup , I'm so sorry you have to worry extra. Always being on higher alert must be stressful.
abbeyd , DD1 night trained in one night. When we moved here I only had like 10 diapers in her size and since she'd been waking up asking to go to the bathroom even in diapers we decided to not buy more and see how it went. She's never had an accident but she'll wake up and need to go MOTN sometimes (I think DH forgets to have her go before bed some nights)
I'm such a dummy. I do not get my Mirena in until 10/24. H and I did it last night for the first time in awhile. I'm starting to have O pains today. What type of bc did we use? Oh, the old pull and pray. So stupid. Now we pray.
Guess who also is in prayer mode. And didn't even do the pull out part.... and it looks like I was ovulating at the time... I'm scared.
Post by Courtniko on Sept 28, 2016 14:07:26 GMT -5
My kid will not stop rolling, and it is keeping both of us up. He is rediculous.
He is in the Arms Reach co-sleeper next to our bed, he rolls into the side, and starts scratching at the side. So I give up, put him in bed with me, and he rolls in to me, so I move him, and he double rolls into me. But once he is on me, he continues to try to roll. I don't understand what he is trying to acomplish. I got no sleep later night, or the 2 nights before that. I get it kid, you are good at rolling, now sleep!
I'm such a dummy. I do not get my Mirena in until 10/24. H and I did it last night for the first time in awhile. I'm starting to have O pains today. What type of bc did we use? Oh, the old pull and pray. So stupid. Now we pray.
Guess who also is in prayer mode. And didn't even do the pull out part.... and it looks like I was ovulating at the time... I'm scared.
Prayers for us both.
buttercup, hopefully all is well and this is just the anxiety getting the best of you. I hope the antibiotics do the trick for him and he feels better.
Post by Courtniko on Sept 28, 2016 19:03:12 GMT -5
I just went to get some older milk from the deep freezer. Everything in there was thawing out. From my quick, frustrated, check, I only found about 10 bags/35oz with no ice crystals. I hope I did not miss any, but I was trying to search quickly. DH went to the store to get dry ice. I guess we are buying a new deep freezer this weekend. I am glad I did not lose more milk, and we can use some of the thawed milk. And I am glad I happened to go tonight to get milk from the deep freezer. I am surprisingly chill about it right now. I just really hope the dry ice saves the rest
I just went to get some older milk from the deep freezer. Everything in there was thawing out. From my quick, frustrated, check, I only found about 10 bags/35oz with no ice crystals. I hope I did not miss any, but I was trying to search quickly. DH went to the store to get dry ice. I guess we are buying a new deep freezer this weekend. I am glad I did not lose more milk, and we can use some of the thawed milk. And I am glad I happened to go tonight to get milk from the deep freezer. I am surprisingly chill about it right now. I just really hope the dry ice saves the rest
FX that the dry ice works. I would cry if I lost even 10 oz
So jealous! We've been paying ours off like crazy. H is in grad school, and we thought, why not live like complete paupers and pay off our undergrad at the same time? Haha, we'll hopefully be done next August. Congratulations!
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