What did you consider when deciding...

[lizblue]

I don't think we'll have the choice. We are ntnp but I don't have hope that we'll get pregnant and we most likely can't afford another adoption. It took so long to get here.

I'm mostly at peace with this but if I'm being honest, I'd like to give DD a sibling. But if I'm being really honest, I don't miss the baby stage at all and love having the beginnings of a toddler.

[queenb]

Well the biggest factor for me is my DH really only wants one. If I begged and pleaded and made promises and nagged I could probably convince him for a second child... But I don't want to do that. The more I think about being one and done, the more comfortable
I am with it. Finances, time, career are all considerations. And every time I think about the newborn stage I cringe a bit.

So I'm closing the door, but not locking it. Maybe I'll wake up one day with a change of heart... Or maybe there will be an oops.

[amberlie]

We did not decide. Definitely an oops that was (and still is, depending on the day) terrifying.

But if we had planned this, it would be based on finances and my school. I would have liked to finish nursing school and worked for a year or so before TFAS. We also plan to move across the country in the next 3 years so we probably would have done that first. But it didn't happen that way, so we will alter plans and make it work.