Confessions of the flame free type

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Sept 16, 2016 10:58:06 GMT -5 marshian said:

Sept 16, 2016 10:53:38 GMT -5 bibliothecary said:

I phrased wrong. I don't hate them. I envy their success. I have a former work friend who said "well, I'm getting married in April, so I should be pregnant in May." And damned if it didn't happen just like that. I would love to have that much blind confidence in my body again, to be certain that I could conceive and carry to term. I would love to have never had losses. It's just this magical other side to me now. Like, people get pregnant? Without charting? Temping? Without needles or drugs? HOW?!

This makes sense. With my IRL friends, I've come to realize almost no one knows anything about how fertility works. I really think it should be taught in school because my friends have made similar statements about getting KU right away, not worried about it, etc etc. One friend was surprised it took them six months to GKU with their first when that's the average. 

But then you have my other friend who when his mother asked at their rehearsal dinner (in front of everyone) when they would give her the first grandchild responded "In nine months!" and what do you know, they're due almost exactly 9 months past the wedding. 

That actually sounds like they already knew she was KU.

[bibliothecary]

Sept 16, 2016 10:55:43 GMT -5 bunnyfungo said:

Sept 16, 2016 10:53:38 GMT -5 bibliothecary said:

I phrased wrong. I don't hate them. I envy their success. I have a former work friend who said "well, I'm getting married in April, so I should be pregnant in May." And damned if it didn't happen just like that. I would love to have that much blind confidence in my body again, to be certain that I could conceive and carry to term. I would love to have never had losses. It's just this magical other side to me now. Like, people get pregnant? Without charting? Temping? Without needles or drugs? HOW?!

I know what you're saying. But like broccoli said, sometimes it feels like I have to be careful of what I say around here. I mean, I have 3 kids, going for number 4. So I'm not really the typical GKUer.

Get your ute to text my ute to be better at uteing. And you never have to be careful around me. I have giant fluffy love for you and other ladies who haven't gone through the bullshit of waiting and needles and whathaveyou. I just envy you. A little. But that's on me, not you.

[Rama]

Sept 16, 2016 10:58:06 GMT -5 PirateCat said:

Sept 16, 2016 10:53:42 GMT -5 Rama said:

I'm the only real people :)

[doodler]

Sept 16, 2016 10:55:43 GMT -5 bunnyfungo said:

Sept 16, 2016 10:53:38 GMT -5 bibliothecary said:

I phrased wrong. I don't hate them. I envy their success. I have a former work friend who said "well, I'm getting married in April, so I should be pregnant in May." And damned if it didn't happen just like that. I would love to have that much blind confidence in my body again, to be certain that I could conceive and carry to term. I would love to have never had losses. It's just this magical other side to me now. Like, people get pregnant? Without charting? Temping? Without needles or drugs? HOW?!

I know what you're saying. But like broccoli said, sometimes it feels like I have to be careful of what I say around here. I mean, I have 3 kids, going for number 4. So I'm not really the typical GKUer.

I see both sides of it.  I was the person who got pregnant quickly and easily the first time, and now that I'm TFAS it all went to shit.  I think people are venting in here but they really truly are happy for those who have it easy.  It's just that(for me at least) it's always going to sting when someone else announces a successful pregnancy.  It is what it is.

This also kind of goes back to the conversation the other day about alumni talking about their kids.  I have been TFAS the whole time I have been in GKU.  I talk about my kid when it is appropriate and try not to bring him up otherwise.  If I'm talking about my vacation I will mention that we took DS to sesame place, but I'm not going to pop into randoms and ramble on and on about him.  As far as I know I have not upset anybody(at least not that they have mentioned).

[PirateCat]

Rama, oh, ha. I assumed you were playing with real people hence local time thing.

At first I thought Yoosung was the only girl, but going by the name, I'm assuming Jaehee is.

[cjchio]

Sept 16, 2016 10:44:43 GMT -5 bunnyfungo said:

I love you guys, and I hate for anyone to struggle. But it also kinda hurts to hear that if you don't have 3T/IF, that people might be feeling some type of way about you.

I don't get mad at the person.
I get mad about our circumstances.

It's "supposed" to be that when you go of of birth control you get a baby. Like why can't that happen for us? It's a lot of feeling sorry for my own problems.

I am always happy for you guys when I see a bfp announcement!

I hope that I made sense and I'm sorry that you feel hurt. I don't want to hurt your feelings!

[cjchio]

Sept 16, 2016 10:59:29 GMT -5 Rama said:

Sept 16, 2016 10:55:43 GMT -5 bunnyfungo said:

I know what you're saying. But like broccoli said, sometimes it feels like I have to be careful of what I say around here. I mean, I have 3 kids, going for number 4. So I'm not really the typical GKUer.

Well, you have 3 beautiful children that I, personally, would love to hear more about. Beside the fact that children don't hurt as much as an announcement does, I love love love hearing about kids growing up. Especially GKU grad kids.

So much this!

[marshian]

Sept 16, 2016 10:59:59 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Sept 16, 2016 10:58:06 GMT -5 marshian said:

*snip*

But then you have my other friend who when his mother asked at their rehearsal dinner (in front of everyone) when they would give her the first grandchild responded "In nine months!" and what do you know, they're due almost exactly 9 months past the wedding. 

That actually sounds like they already knew she was KU.

According to the H, they did not. Just turned out they unknowingly answered correctly!

[♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪]

I am laffin at PirateCat learning about Rama 's game.

[bibliothecary]

Dammit, bunny, if I upset you, I'm going to need your address so I can send you baked goods. I apologize best when working with a butter/sugar/flour medium.

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Sept 16, 2016 10:55:43 GMT -5 bunnyfungo said:

Sept 16, 2016 10:53:38 GMT -5 bibliothecary said:

I phrased wrong. I don't hate them. I envy their success. I have a former work friend who said "well, I'm getting married in April, so I should be pregnant in May." And damned if it didn't happen just like that. I would love to have that much blind confidence in my body again, to be certain that I could conceive and carry to term. I would love to have never had losses. It's just this magical other side to me now. Like, people get pregnant? Without charting? Temping? Without needles or drugs? HOW?!

I know what you're saying. But like broccoli said, sometimes it feels like I have to be careful of what I say around here. I mean, I have 3 kids, going for number 4. So I'm not really the typical GKUer.

I feel your experience as someone who has multiple little ones is a really important part of this board. You can attest to the fact that TTC is different every time. You can't just expect it to go exactly as planned over and over.

[thechickencoop]

Sept 16, 2016 9:15:32 GMT -5 queenofcats said:

Sept 16, 2016 9:13:10 GMT -5 ironbaby said:

8 inch height difference.

Gotcha, hmmm. DH is 10 inches taller than me and we can't seem do it.

H is almost 8 inches taller than me. DNW shower sex. It's moreso that I have short legs and his are longer so it makes it even worse. I mean, we occasionally do it in the shower but it's never enjoyable for me.

[bibliothecary]

Sept 16, 2016 11:09:27 GMT -5 ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ said:

I am laffin at PirateCat learning about Rama 's game.

[PirateCat]

Sept 16, 2016 11:09:27 GMT -5 ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ said:

I am laffin at PirateCat learning about Rama 's game.

[diamondsndaisies]

Things got deep in here.

Hugs to everybody. I got pregnant with DD right away after getting off BC w/X-H. Now since DH and I have been trying, this process has been less than easy. I get twinges of jealousy when I see people TFAS when I am still trying to successfully get 1. That being said, I am truly happy for people who are successful. Babies are always a blessing.

Someday.....it will be my turn.

[bunnyfungo]

Sept 16, 2016 11:09:41 GMT -5 bibliothecary said:

Dammit, bunny, if I upset you, I'm going to need your address so I can send you baked goods. I apologize best when working with a butter/sugar/flour medium.

I will pretend to be offended so that I can receive baked goods.

[Deleted]

FFFC: We live close to an artillery range and when they are shooting it is like a dull rumble that shakes the house a little. Even though this is a frequent occurrence, every single time it happens I become momentarily terrified because my brain goes here.

[bibliothecary]

Sept 16, 2016 11:30:17 GMT -5 bunnyfungo said:

Sept 16, 2016 11:09:41 GMT -5 bibliothecary said:

Dammit, bunny, if I upset you, I'm going to need your address so I can send you baked goods. I apologize best when working with a butter/sugar/flour medium.

I will pretend to be offended so that I can receive baked goods.

And this is how I slowly amass my collection of addresses, with baked goods.

[samanthasays]

Sept 16, 2016 11:01:12 GMT -5 bibliothecary said:

Sept 16, 2016 10:55:43 GMT -5 bunnyfungo said:

I know what you're saying. But like broccoli said, sometimes it feels like I have to be careful of what I say around here. I mean, I have 3 kids, going for number 4. So I'm not really the typical GKUer.

Get your ute to text my ute to be better at uteing. And you never have to be careful around me. I have giant fluffy love for you and other ladies who haven't gone through the bullshit of waiting and needles and whathaveyou. I just envy you. A little. But that's on me, not you.

The bolded is SO important for me to remember. When I was really struggling I would remind myself that if I am successful and have a child I want to be gracious and emotionally mature and teach my child love, not jealousy. And if I dont get my take home baby, being jealous wont help anything, it will just make me more miserable. 

And I repeated about a billion times a day: Comparison is the killer of joy. 

To everyone struggling, I hope so much you get your take home baby. But if that doesnt happen, I hope you can find peace with it and live a happy, full life.

[saltandvinegar]

FFFC: I don't know how to put makeup on. I mean, I wear mascara & a little blush on a daily basis.(just drug store quality) but that's about the extent of it.

[risscaboobs]

Sept 16, 2016 10:09:32 GMT -5 Rama said:

FFFC: This is the first time GKU has felt like home for me since I got pregnant last December.

I'm glad it's feeling like home again. I'm loving it these last few days too. I'm hoping everyone stays.

[risscaboobs]

Sept 16, 2016 10:19:30 GMT -5 bibliothecary said:

Sept 16, 2016 10:18:05 GMT -5 Rama said:

Most of us, yeah.

Anyone else get irrationally angry at people who just go off birth control and get pregnant? Like, HOW. HOW DO THING.

I do, as well. Though I didn't have to deal with IF, so maybe this isn't directed at me, and I should hold my tongue (fingers?). But I'm jealous of people who didn't even have to TRY.

And I'm really sorry to those of you who have been trying for far too long and have had losses. None of it is fair.

[Rama]

Sept 16, 2016 11:05:49 GMT -5 PirateCat said:

Rama, oh, ha. I assumed you were playing with real people hence local time thing.

At first I thought Yoosung was the only girl, but going by the name, I'm assuming Jaehee is.

Winner!

[ironbaby]

Sept 16, 2016 11:37:22 GMT -5 saltandvinegar said:

FFFC: I don't know how to put makeup on. I mean, I wear mascara & a little blush on a daily basis.(just drug store quality) but that's about the extent of it.

Video tutorials. Find a look you like and watch videos.

Unless you don't want to. Nothing wrong with that!

[Rama]

Sept 16, 2016 11:09:27 GMT -5 ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ said:

I am laffin at PirateCat learning about Rama 's game.

I was so confused about the hooking up comment. Like... Are you asking me if my coding is having sex with itself?! Of course I can't hook up with pixels.


...yet.

[Rama]

Sept 16, 2016 11:37:22 GMT -5 saltandvinegar said:

FFFC: I don't know how to put makeup on. I mean, I wear mascara & a little blush on a daily basis.(just drug store quality) but that's about the extent of it.

The only thing I can confidently apply is lipstick. Everything else makes me look like a clown.

[PirateCat]

Sept 16, 2016 11:46:41 GMT -5 Rama said:

Sept 16, 2016 11:09:27 GMT -5 ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ said:

I am laffin at PirateCat learning about Rama 's game.

I was so confused about the hooking up comment. Like... Are you asking me if my coding is having sex with itself?! Of course I can't hook up with pixels.


...yet.

Don't give up hope.

[risscaboobs]

This thread is giving me the warm fuzzies.

[♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪]

Sept 16, 2016 11:46:41 GMT -5 Rama said:

Sept 16, 2016 11:09:27 GMT -5 ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ said:

I am laffin at PirateCat learning about Rama 's game.

I was so confused about the hooking up comment. Like... Are you asking me if my coding is having sex with itself?! Of course I can't hook up with pixels.


...yet.

/ded. You weirdo!

[Rama]

Sept 16, 2016 11:48:30 GMT -5 PirateCat said:

Sept 16, 2016 11:46:41 GMT -5 Rama said:

I was so confused about the hooking up comment. Like... Are you asking me if my coding is having sex with itself?! Of course I can't hook up with pixels.


...yet.

Don't give up hope.

I've seen some shows.