This check-in is meant for anyone on GKU who has hit the 1 year mark of TTC (6 months if you’re over 35), has an infertility diagnosis, or is going through IF testing/treatment. It is meant to be a place for people to share and ask any questions who might not participate on 3T/IF and who would like the company of others going through the same experiences.
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QOTW - Are you a skirts, Jeans, Suit/dress pants, Leggings, or something else type of person?
Nothing exciting going on. Monitoring for IUI #3 this Wednesday. Femara is being slightly nicer to me than the Clomid was. Scheduling a WTF for the end of this cycle, bc I honestly have no idea what plan the RE has in place if this doesn't work.
QOTW: I prefer jeans/jean shorts, but I have to wear dress pants for work every day. So I pretty much wear the same black pants. I wish I could be a cute dress/skirt person, but I just don't think I can pull it off.
Post by butlerfan on Sept 19, 2016 11:11:35 GMT -5
I have a rant....OP triggers below.....
Ugh....my cousin is expecting her 4th baby due end of next month. She currently has 3 boys and was "disappointed" that this one is also going to be a boy (she expressed this out loud to my mom and other family members when she got the news...just found this out yesterday though). When my mom told me that I went off on that...I said really?! Your first reaction isn't hoping that the baby is healthy?! I get preferring to have a girl after 3 boys but to be disappointed and expressing it out loud to people is BS IMO. I said is she wanted a girl so bad why doesn't she adopt? Put their Holy than thou Christian money where their mouth is. I said if I hear that in my earshot there will be words said.
My mom already had words with her about the above though. The first thing she said don't you want it to be healthy? The response was well yeah, that goes without saying. My mom said...um no it doesn't. Look at _____ (me)-she was a preemie and spent 9 weeks in NICU. She said some people can't have kids and wouldn't care if it was a boy or girl-just the chance to have a baby.
They didn't really have a response to the above...they just assume that of course they would get a healthy child but that is not a guarantee.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Post by butlerfan on Sept 19, 2016 11:24:52 GMT -5
On a positive note we have our next meeting this Thursday where I'm hoping to find out if we have just our October 11th meeting left or if we need to schedule another meeting. Water test is dropped off and I have part of the results and waiting for the rest. The extra smoke/Carbon Monoxide monitors are bought (1 died and needed another one in living room). Will be getting the 3 fire extingushers we need by next weekend. Will also be buying the car seat/booster seats we need in the next week or so. Working on getting things child proofed. Need to get a bookcase for all the rummage sale books I have bought and buy the waterproof mattress pads for changing table and crib yet. And then I have to buy more crib sheets and at least 1 changing table cover. And schedule a furnace test (or praying it has been inspected in the last year....). And possible should buy another convertible crib.
It's all coming together but also feeling like we have a million things left to do.
QOTW: Jeans for sure. I do dress up as needed but I prefer jeans. And since I work in the office of a plant I get to wear jeans so I am even less likely to dress up. H loves it when I do dress up in dresses and stuff but I don't do it all the time.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Post by butlerfan on Sept 19, 2016 12:04:53 GMT -5
Thank goodness I haven't seen this cousin in years (she moved out west to Colorado when she got married) and has been back in our hometown for the last year or so but haven't seen her yet...lol. Her H also got back after 11 months overseas and they got pregnant within a month or 2 of him being back based on her due date.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
ironbaby-I am so glad the Femara is being at least a bit nicer! I have heard clomid is a beast!
butlerfan-So much rage. That is all I have for your cousin. BUT-I am super excited that things are all coming together!!! Checking off all the things!!!!
@yaga-I feel like I judged leggings before but have recently fallen deeply and madly in love with them (but not at work!)
daisy818-I am crossing my fingers for you that changing meds helps! Hugs.
AFM-We transfer on FRIDAY-tentatively at 10am right now!!!!! Started PIO shots yesterday and all I can say is ouch. So now I am just popping estrogen and shooting progesterone in the name of having a baby. But hopefully, on Friday, I will be PUPO!!!
QOTW: AT work it is business wear so dress pants. Out and about I am usually a leggings under a short skirt person (duh Lularoe!) or a nice pair of yoga pants or jeans.
butlerfan, the list of things you need to foster is making me hyperventilate. I just want to say how proud I am of your pursuing this. I had no idea they were THAT picky.
@yaga, yay for CD1. Were you on progesterone or something that could have prolonged your LP?
daisy818, huge hugs. Will you have a WTF with the RE?
ironbaby, yeah, I think at this point we need to sit down and reassess. I honestly don't see how we can financially move on to IVF, but I'd like to see if there is at least more testing that I can be doing to try to figure out where things are going awry - testing is the one thing my insurance does cover, so bring it on!
butlerfan , the list of things you need to foster is making me hyperventilate. I just want to say how proud I am of your pursuing this. I had no idea they were THAT picky.
@yaga , yay for CD1. Were you on progesterone or something that could have prolonged your LP?
daisy818 , huge hugs. Will you have a WTF with the RE?
The list probably isn't that bad IF we had kids before doing fostering since we would have a lot of the supplies needed. And also because we want ages 0-4 instead of older kids at least at this time (so things need to be child proofed because of that) Also we have well water so we had to have the water tested so that is an extra step. And in reality our in-laws should have the furnace inspected every year and have fire extinguishers that are newer than 20 years old but they don't. And they fail to see how that is something they should/offer to provide.
There are a lot of steps and paperwork but I feel like our licensing worker is open and upfront with us so that helps a lot. Kind of like having a good RE for going though IF.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
ironbaby , yeah, I think at this point we need to sit down and reassess. I honestly don't see how we can financially move on to IVF, but I'd like to see if there is at least more testing that I can be doing to try to figure out where things are going awry - testing is the one thing my insurance does cover, so bring it on!
That sounds like us....our testing was covered (well at least it counted towards our deductible) but any treatments would be all OOP which IVF is no joke on cost.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Post by kawaiikitsune on Sept 19, 2016 13:23:47 GMT -5
ironbaby So glad the femara is easier for you than the clomid. Crossing everything for you! butlerfan Ugh, that is so infuriating. I'm glad your mom said something. So happy that things are continuing to go smoothly. @yaga Hope everything goes well at your baseline tomorrow. daisy818 *hugs* cateyes Thanks for starting! I am so beyond excited for you! Crossing all the things that Friday goes perfect!
AFM, I am 12DPO of a natural cycle. My boobs are killing me, they are so sore. AF is expected sometime this week but if I go at least a week past my LP, then I'll test.
QOTW - Jeans most of the time but I have been wearing leggings a lot lately. I do dress up but mostly for special occasions.
Post by thechickencoop on Sept 19, 2016 14:12:55 GMT -5
ironbaby I'm glad you're feeling better this cycle!
I think you can comfortably throat punch your cousin butlerfan. But also good luck with all those last little bits and pieces; I know it seems like a lot but I'm sure it will all get done faster than you think
@yaga woohoo for being able to move forward with testing!
daisy818 I'm crossing and hoping with all.the.things. this cycle for you.
Post by kawaiikitsune on Sept 19, 2016 14:23:02 GMT -5
thechickencoop My usual LP is 13 days but FF is telling me I should be getting my period this Thursday, for some reason. This weekend is when I'd like to test but MH will probably talk me into waiting until next Monday.
Post by thechickencoop on Sept 19, 2016 14:31:40 GMT -5
Oh hiiii. It's been a while. Not much is new here; after last cycle (natural + progesterone) we were supposed to get back to the RE to discuss next steps but I still had almost a full box of Crinone left so we figured we'd go one more. Sooo...just hanging out at about 7 dpo. Might test this weekend I guess? I'm kind of meh about it.
We too are in the coverage for testing but nada for treatment. So an IUI is something like 1500 OOP and then up from there :/
Post by easilyunamused on Sept 19, 2016 18:58:18 GMT -5
ironbaby, FX you will not need at WTF appt. Glad to hear the Femara is treating you well!
butlerfan, that is a lot of things to get! But I am sure it feels great getting things together.
@yaga, yay for CD1 finally. good luck with this cycle.
daisy818, I am sorry for the uncertainty. It does seem pointless to keep taking the meds and not having any real progress. I hope you can come up with a plan soon, I say to definitely do some more testing if you can.
cateyes, That is so exciting! I can't wait to hear you are PUPO!!
kawaiikitsune, bcps have my boobs super sore too. I really hate that feeling. FX for this cycle!
thechickencoop, no IF coverage is such BS. And treatment is so expensive. I honestly might have a heart attack when I add up my medical costs for taxes early next year. GL this cycle! All things crossed you won't need to worry about next treatment steps.
AFM, last bcp was last night, baseline is Wed. It's MH and I's 3rd year wedding anniversary tomorrow, so we are going to have a relaxing spa day with massages! I am really excited. It's helping keep all this IVF stuff in the back of my mind.
QOTW: I love it all! I live in dresses in the summer, and I mostly wear jeans in the winter. I am thinking of getting more leggings. I have only had 1 pair of black for forever.
Post by thechickencoop on Sept 19, 2016 19:25:49 GMT -5
easilyunamused you're in the US, correct? I think any medical expenses greater than....10%....? Of your income you can right that amount off...or something like that. Keep your receipts!
easilyunamused you're in the US, correct? I think any medical expenses greater than....10%....? Of your income you can right that amount off...or something like that. Keep your receipts!
Oh I have stacks of receipts! Especially since medications aren't covered at all. The main pharmacy I have been using said they'd give me a final number of what I purchased in 2015, which will be super helpful.
easilyunamused you're in the US, correct? I think any medical expenses greater than....10%....? Of your income you can right that amount off...or something like that. Keep your receipts!
Oh I have stacks of receipts! Especially since medications aren't covered at all. The main pharmacy I have been using said they'd give me a final number of what I purchased in 2015, which will be super helpful.
Niiiiice. This is like H with his tool receipts he can right off for work; his tool guys just give him one big itemized list at the end of the year. So thoughtful ::sigh::
Post by teachermomtobe on Sept 19, 2016 19:56:11 GMT -5
Posting and going to bed because I'm exhausted. I'll be back tomorrow to tag.
I'm on CD12 and taking Estrace. I have blood work and ultrasound on Wednesday and hopefully FET on 9/27.
QOTW: I am an all of the above person depending on my mood. Although I live in yoga pants/gym shorts as soon as I get home from work and all summer when I can. I love a good dress though. I usually wear dress pants to work and sometimes leggings with sweater dresses and of course jeans on Fridays
ironbaby - Hope you get good news at your monitoring appointment on Wednesday. I'm glad Femara has been better for you!
butlerfan - I'm sorry for the whole situation with your cousin. That sounds infuriating. But I'm so glad things are moving along with your licensing process! I know there are so many little annoying details to take care of, but you will be licensed before you know it!
@yaga - FX everything looks good at your appointment tomorrow!
easilyunamused - sounds like an exciting week for you guys! Happy anniversary and FX everything looks good at your baseline appointment!
@samrs22 - I'm glad they caught the rubella issue now! It's annoying to wait a month but definitely better than potentially catching this while pregnant.
teachermomtobe - FX everything looks good on Wednesday so your FET can happen when scheduled!
Post by snakefisherbub on Sept 19, 2016 21:07:40 GMT -5
Hi ladies! Hope for the most part everyone is doing well. Lots of love and hugs! ♡♡
I am going to be a complete and utter downer so sorry in advance.
So last week I had my appointment with the oncologist about the cyst. He says that he doesn't think it's cancer but there is no way to know for sure until he goes in. Unfortunately I am losing my left ovary because of it though. My surgery is scheduled for October 14th. My mom is coming out to be with me and help me around as I recover. Not exactly how I wanted to see my mom but yay mom.
As if that wasn't enough today is supposed to be my baby's first birthday. With everything else on my mind it slipped until a little bit ago. That makes me sad, I feel like I forgot about my baby. I am so dowb right now.
AFM, I don't really have much to update. I ovulated at some point in the last few days, so I'm in my last natural cycle TWW before starting IVF. I got my insurance preapproval letter for IVF in the mail today which was kind of exciting and made this all feel more real. The next steps will be for H to do a quick blood draw for infectious disease screening, and then I'll call the RE office with CD1 and start BCPs.
QOTW: Definitely a jeans person. Luckily I work in a business casual environment and most of us that work in the lab regularly can get away with wearing nice jeans most days. But as soon as I get home from work, I'm in sweats/leggings or comfy shorts!
Post by ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ on Sept 19, 2016 21:45:02 GMT -5
snakefisherbub, I am so sorry about your upcoming procedure. I hope your mom can provide some comfort. *hugs*
Please don't feel guilty. You did not forget about your baby. You think about your baby every day. IF and loss suck so bad, and you are allowed to feel all the feels, but I am telling you you have nothing to feel guilty for.
Post by juliayadda on Sept 20, 2016 6:03:57 GMT -5
Hi everyone.
It has been a few months since I last updated. I have been getting healthy mentally and physically. I hired a personal trainer to kick my butt into gear and I have lost 25-30 pounds depending on weather I eat pancakes haha. I will be continuing this trend and hope to be down another 15 by 2017.
Mentally I needed time to heal from my MC. We passed the due date and I finally feel ready to try again. Next CD 1 which is most likely the second Thursday of October I will be calling in to start an IUI cycle. We will do a baseline ultrasound to check for cysts and then gonal-f again.
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