Coming out of lurkdom to express my condolences. I'm so incredibly sorry for the loss of your little boy. The best advice I received is few years ago when I lost DD at 39w was to take things one day, one hour, sometimes one minute, at a time. One foot in front of the other. Know that you will have some rough days ahead, but that you won't always feel as mind fuckingly sad and mad as you do right now. You don't ever "get over" the loss of a child; you just learn to carry the grief with you in a more manageable way. Huge, creepy internet stranger hugs. I'm so sorry you have to join the club that nobody wants to be a part of, but as you've already seen in this thread, this is a sisterhood of some strong, supportive ladies.
I am so sorry for your loss. Eat what you want, feel what you need to feel, and please take care of yourself. Sending all my love and positive thoughts to you and your family
I am so sorry. I read your post where you mentioned cracking jokes and laughing and such. There's nothing wrong with that. H and I usually deal with our problems with a side of laughter. Do what you can to get through the moment.
Post by ShtsNGiggles on Sept 21, 2016 14:15:10 GMT -5
Shit Cher. I'm so sorry for your loss. It can't be said enough that this is not your fault. There isn't anything you could have done differently. Be kind to yourself.
I'm super late to this but ugh. This breaks my heart for you, Cher. I know I'm new around here but I sincerely send all of my apologies and hugs to you. There is nothing to say that makes it better but I wish you peace.
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I'm just confused. They wanted me to go to the hospital to see what happened. I told the hospital I would come after lunch because my dog has to go to the vet and I have to pick my kid up from school. MH walked out of work and showed up in the doctors lobby bc I texted him when I found out. He took the dog to the vet and suddenly I realize how weird am I telling a hospital I need to go to the vet first. And now I'm alone in my house and crying. What do you do with a 22 week old fetus? Do you bury him? I don't even know.
You do what feels right to you. Some sort of ceremony would be appropriate if you wish. When we lost our baby we had the remains cremated and they will be buried with me. My loss was very early but I felt a strong urge to honor my child in some way. What ever you choose is right. This is your child and you do what you feel compelled to do. Hugs
Post by mykidsgotcurls on Sept 21, 2016 15:33:47 GMT -5
I'm so, so sorry to hear this news. I lost my first son at 22w. It was the hardest thing I've ever gone through. Please be kind to yourself and do whatever you feel is right. Again, I'm so sorry.
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