Help me with my facebook skills

[brachysira]

So I spend a lot of time online, and am on several moms' facebook groups.  People ask things like, "what preschool that is 1-2 mornings/week still has spaces?"  I have done copious amounts of research and make a couple of appropriate suggestions that meet all the criteria.  Then people will suggest the most popular preschools in town that fill in December, popular daycares that require full time attendance, montessori schools that require 5 mornings/week, and other inappropriate things.  If I know, I post "this fills in December, and usually only the 2 year-old class has spaces for the following year" or whatever.  But no one ever likes my suggestions and 10 people will like the inappropriate most popular suggestions.  Is it seen as me being critical of the person who made the terrible suggestion, or something?  Does no one really want appropriate suggestions and just they want to hear what is most popular and try to get on waitlists?  

Or someone posts "I can't find activities for my toddler at allow me to get to preschool pick up at 11."  And then tons of people suggest popular toddler programs that begin at 10:30 and get tons of likes.  Should I not post, "but this begins at 10:30?"  If I post some legitimate suggestions that start at 9 AM, no one likes my post.  Am I alienating people by being a know-it-all?  I feel like I have vast amounts of activity knowledge, but maybe no one really wants it?

[beenandgone]

If you figure this out, let me know. I never understand this bull. Lately, it's been people asking for pediatrician and ob suggestions. The absolute most liked and frequently suggested locations are the two WORST practices in town-the walk in medicade clinic for pediatricians, and this ob practice that saw me literally 4 times in 29 weeks, AND tried to change my due date by 5 weeks at my anatomy scan. And this was after telling me I shouldn't be having children because I already had a boy and a girl. Both are stupid irresponsible and terrible practices.

Anyway, any time I make legit suggestions, they are never popular and always shot down. I'm just taking a whatever stance now. Ask but I'm not answering any more.

[seadragon2013]

I think corrections on facebook tend to come off as combative since it is so hard to communicate tone. I would typically avoid the types of corrections you are talking about brachysira and just assume that the OP can figure those things out themselves with a few phone calls.

On the other hand, I would absolutely speak up if someone requested recs for practitioners and there was someone recommended that I had a negative experience with.

In general, I try not to take anything on facebook personally. It's not worth it.

[sagen]

I would just try to watch the tone, and not call anyone out. Example: I have heard great things about X preschool, but when I looked into it was full. I called Y preschool though, and they have opening right now. ...or... We went to X class and my child really liked it, but if that is too much of a time crunch Y class starts at 9 and is great too.

[brachysira]

Yeah, I guess a complement first. It just irritates me to no end when people make recommendations but they haven't even read what the person needs and then everyone congratulates them. It seems to me that this is really quite a disservice. If I had to call 40 preschools that were full even if I specifically asked "does anyone know any preschool that is not full?" then I would be really annoyed. Plus, I guess the tone annoys me too--like I suggest a museum preschool class and a preschool class at the local play place that are both fairly new and so have spots and are probably good, but then other people suggest "old money preschool of people who like to pay a lot" and "historical snottiest place your preschooler can learn to lead a fortune 500 company preschool with proven results" and those get all the likes...