Shall we confess things?

[ampaints]

[ampaints]

For as much as I hate my job currently, I'm not spending nearly enough time looking for another job.

[skinandbones]

When I work from home, I will sometimes take some time to "relieve some tension." It's often the only time I really alone.

[Deleted]

I am enjoying H being out of town.

[tmclawchick]

I wanted a boy...I'm absolutely thrilled but there was a little bit of disappointment and I feel shitty for thinking that...

[mommabakes]

A pretty flammable one: I rarely remember to wash my produce.

[mommabakes]

Sept 23, 2016 7:50:51 GMT -5 tmclawchick said:

I wanted a boy...I'm absolutely thrilled but there was a little bit of disappointment and I feel shitty for thinking that...

I feel like this is very normal. Not talked about, but common. No flames here!

[2dumbdogs]

Sept 23, 2016 7:51:24 GMT -5 mommabakes said:

A pretty flammable one: I rarely remember to wash my produce.

Same, some things I'm weirdly vigilant about, but then I will bite right into an apple without cleaning.

[csb314]

Sept 23, 2016 7:26:32 GMT -5 ampaints said:

For as much as I hate my job currently, I'm not spending nearly enough time looking for another job.

Same. 

[csb314]

I confessed this on FB a few weeks back but not over here. The teacher across the hall has a student teacher (he is like 26 so its not as bad) and I really want to have sex with him. He's hot and totally my type. I would try to get with him if I wasn't married.

[ampaints]

There have been quite a few times lately when I wonder if my marriage is going to last.

It usually stems from talks on how we will parent M. H can be really hard to discuss things with sometimes and that's a problem when we need to agree and present a united front. He will surprise me sometimes and actually take heart and I hope he's more willing to listen as things become an actuality and not just hypothetical conversations.

I also wish I could think of an example now n but my memory is failing me.

[tmclawchick]

csb314 now that's juicy!

[th3stryck3r]

No flames, tmclawchick. I think it's totally normal to want or to have imagined a boy or girl, and then to be disappointed when you find out that the reality is different. But we know you'll love your little squish no matter what!

[th3stryck3r]

mommabakes, I'm vigilant about washing produce that I give to Poppy, but I can definitely get lazy about it if it's just something I'm eating.

[packmomma]

I am not working out. I'm just sitting in the back area on my phone at the y. I could say I'm sore but really I just don't wanna.

[packmomma]

I feel you ampaints. This election season has really highlighted how differently H and I view the world and that plays into the things we want to teach W. I question how we will teach him the "right" things (obviously my way ) but I know in my heart that H is a good man and an amazing father and husband. We will do our best by W and each other. I guess what I'm trying to say I think everyone has a point sometimes where they wonder if it will last but I just try to remember H's heart is good and he had good intentions and we'll work through the rest later. Hugs lady. It's a hard place to be mentally.

[shellyr]

ampaints, I can resonate with this. I don't think my marriage is in trouble, but I don't feel the same about H as I did pre-baby. I feel like the default parent. For example, he will just fall asleep in the living room if we are both in there without a care, leaving me with the nighttime everything. I'm 'on' 24/7. It seems like he still has part of his life to himself.

[ampaints]

shellyr totally the default parent. I'm not in a place now where I'm thinking of packing bags, it's more of a how long can I deal with this type of thing.

[joi922]

ampaints, I seriously considered leaving my husband after J was born. We were in a really bad place for about a year. Mostly stemming from me being the default parent and him never wanting to be intimate. We pulled through and are doing a lot better now, but I know what it's like to wonder. Hugs to you.

[shellyr]

joi922, I appreciate your honesty. I was naive to the stress of having an infant/toddler.

[noname]

+ a million to being the default parent. It was bad after having DD1. Really bad. It got a little better around the time she turned one, but not because DH was more helpful, I just finally got a grasp of things. There were several points during my pregnancy with DD2 that I was seriously worried about our future. I was barely keeping afloat taking care of one kid, how would I do it with 2? But something really weird happened after DD2 was born and DH became surprisingly helpful. I'm still a little confused by it. I think a big part of it is that he's not really a baby person, but is great with toddlers. Once DD1 was older, he really took on more of her care. And also helps out more around the house for some unknown reason.

[joi922]

shellyr, it really does change *everything*. Don't be hard on yourself.

[amberlie]

Sept 23, 2016 7:50:51 GMT -5 tmclawchick said:

I wanted a boy...I'm absolutely thrilled but there was a little bit of disappointment and I feel shitty for thinking that...

I felt the same. I still kind of wish N16 baby was a boy. I feel guilty for thinking it at all but I know it won't matter once she's here. Plus 2 girls makes things easier for a lot of reasons (namely, buying stuff) so there's that.

[amberlie]

Sept 23, 2016 8:57:19 GMT -5 ampaints said:

There have been quite a few times lately when I wonder if my marriage is going to last.

It usually stems from talks on how we will parent M. H can be really hard to discuss things with sometimes and that's a problem when we need to agree and present a united front. He will surprise me sometimes and actually take heart and I hope he's more willing to listen as things become an actuality and not just hypothetical conversations.

I also wish I could think of an example now n but my memory is failing me.

I'm sorry you're feeling that way. MH is the opposite... he defaults to me on everything. when it comes to E (and everything else), he just kind of accepts what I say as true or the best plan without asking any questions. I feel kind of bad about it sometimes so I always try to explain WHY I feel a certain way about something. it can be frustrating at times that he often doesn't form his own opinions on things, but I guess my confession is that it doesn't bother me too much since I never have to convince him of anything. I do wish he was more assertive at times though.

[amberlie]

I just answered the door for UPS lady half-hidden behind the door because I have no pants on. I don't own any maternity shorts and my a/c sucks so I've been pants-less while at home for 90% of the summer. I have leggings but it's too hot to wear them in here and all my regular shorts make me crampy after a while. I usually keep some shorts by the door in case I have to answer it for anyone but I couldn't find them just now.

[2dumbdogs]

Sept 23, 2016 15:05:37 GMT -5 amberlie said:

I just answered the door for UPS lady half-hidden behind the door because I have no pants on. I don't own any maternity shorts and my a/c sucks so I've been pants-less while at home for 90% of the summer. I have leggings but it's too hot to wear them in here and all my regular shorts make me crampy after a while. I usually keep some shorts by the door in case I have to answer it for anyone but I couldn't find them just now.

I'm mostly laughing that you have designated shorts to keep by the door.

[amberlie]

lol 2dumbdogs, I found them! I forgot I washed them yesterday. so I'll be safe if someone else comes by today. all the stores I looked at had bigger sizes than I need for maternity shorts so I basically just stopped wearing any once the bump got too big for regular ones.

[ampaints]

amberlie pants are overrated.

[RandomName]

Pants are totally overrated.