Tuesday talk!

[jillywilly]

I was so excited for HDBD, and then realized it's only Tuesday. Whomp whomp. What's everyone else got going on?

[jillywilly]

I'm irrationally excited about the fact that we're getting our water softener installed today. We have such hard water at the new house, all our dishes have that lovely residue on them now from the dishwasher, so that should give you a general idea of how exciting life is right now over here. Also, I'm determined to finally get the paperwork going to set up a joint checking account with H, which is something we've only been putting off for about 4 1/2 years now...

[alayne926]

I could only tolerate the debate for about an hour lastnight.

Plus side, I thought for sure my sister and BIL were Trump supporters, but that was solidified as a big negative lastnight....so, yay!

S threw an awful fit this morning at daycare drop off...I hate that feeling. Drowning my sorrows in a Salted Caramel Mocha right now.

[billyhorrible]

Spent a good part of last night wrestling with the sewing machine before realizing the thread was too heavy. But now that's worked out I should sail through some costume making tonight!

[jillywilly]

Ugh, so I just had a really frustrating phone call. We received the letter from our fertility center where we did IVF that the two years storage for our remaining embryos is up, so now we need to a) pay for more storage, b) get rid of the embryos, or c) we can pre-pay to do a frozen transfer in the next 6-18 months, and have storage fees waived. So the big question obviously, is how much is the frozen cycle amount you have to pre-pay? So I called to find that out, and got the big run-around from the receptionist that I would have to schedule a former patient consult to discuss cycle fees. Ok, that's complementary, right? Nope, $286.00 billed through my insurance. And I don't know that my insurance would cover it, since I don't have fertility coverage. So I finally told the reception, "you're seriously telling me I need to spend $286.00 to find out the cost of a frozen cycle so my husband and I can even begin to discuss what we want to do with our embryos?" And got a voicemail for their office manager. Ugh. So now I hope I actually get a call back. In the meantime, if anyone has a crystal ball that could tell me whether or not I'll be able to get pregnant again naturally, I'd love to borrow it...

[tiffbot]

We had our preschool board meeting at the bar last night. It was about 20 minutes meeting and an hour and a half of 3 moms who had the night to visit haha!

Today is like, my last day of the old normal routine for the last 3 years. I'm taking the kids out for a fundraiser walk tomorrow and Thursday DS starts preschool. Crazy!

[Widget123]

Sept 27, 2016 9:26:43 GMT -5 @scoop said:

Our house is being appraised tomorrow for the refinance. What can I do to subtly bribe/encourage him to appraise for what we expect?


Sort of kidding? But seriously.

Cookies? That just happen to be sitting on the counter fresh out of the oven?

[Widget123]

Sorry jillywilly. If it were me I would probably err on the side of caution and choose option (a) or (c) but I have no idea how much that costs; probably something outrageous.

[jillywilly]

Sept 27, 2016 9:18:55 GMT -5 stcyct said:

jillywilly , that's obnoxious. I am sorry. I really hope they can give you a price without a consult. That just seems so unfair.

Thanks, it is obnoxious. Because it's not like embryo storage/fertility treatments don't cost an arm and a leg on their own. I'm really hoping that this is just a case of a receptionist not really knowing what's going on, because in general, I really liked the whole office when we were actively pursuing treatment. 

[Widget123]

Very busy at work the next couple of days. H says daycare threatened call for pickup this morning but they think it is just a heat rash. I hope so. I guess if that is true no more fall clothes for a while.

[jillywilly]

Sept 27, 2016 9:33:49 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

Sorry jillywilly . If it were me I would probably err on the side of caution and choose option (a) or (c) but I have no idea how much that costs; probably something outrageous.

Thanks, we're definitely not getting rid of our embryos at this point - we're keeping them for our use until we're 100% sure our family is complete, which will hopefully be after the birth of one more healthy child. It's just the annual storage fee is fairly hefty, so we're trying to figure out if the finances make sense to hedge our bets and pre-pay and assume we'll want to use our embryos within the next 18 months, or if we just pay the storage fee and keep our fingers crossed for another natural pregnancy. 

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jillywilly I'm so sorry. That cost is just absurd.

[belle0720]

Sept 27, 2016 9:37:29 GMT -5 stcyct said:

Sept 27, 2016 9:02:36 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

I totally hate watched the debate last night. I don't really support either trump or clinton, but it was quite obvious who came out on top last night.

It's really not obvious to a lot of people.  In lots of internet polls people say trump won, and a lot of political commentators are saying Hillary won.  My students were all about how Trump kept saying "wrong" when Hillary was talking.  They thought that was awesome.   

I told them I wasn't particularly impressed.  That talking out of turn and being disrespectful in a debate is bad form and not the kind of behavior I like to see from a presidential candidate. 

It is crazy to me that people think Trump won. He was a mess. He talked in circles, didn't directly answer questions, lied, was completely disrespectful while Hillary was speaking. Also, why in the world did he start talking about Rosie O'Donnell? And I can't believe he compared our airports to that of a third world country. I mean, HUH?? I could go on. I don't get him and it makes my skin crawl to think he could be the President of our country. 

[belle0720]

jillywilly Hopefully that receptionist just didn't know what she was talking about. That seems ridiculous that you would have to pay to even find out the storage costs.

[alayne926]

jillywilly, I hope the office manager can give you an approximate cost over the phone without having to go in for an office visit. I do that for patients all the time, so I don't see why she wouldn't.

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Regarding the debate. Not sure if this is a guy thing or if my H is just an ass but he thought Trump appeared stronger then her. To me yelling and interrupting is not stronger. I did think Hillary was on point and factually correct but there were times I wish she spoke up more. But in her defense it's hard to debate someone so rambling and aggressive.

[blueskiessmiling]

jillywilly That is crazy and seems pretty unethical. I hope you can get some answers without the absurd fee.

[blueskiessmiling]

Sept 27, 2016 9:26:43 GMT -5 @scoop said:

Our house is being appraised tomorrow for the refinance. What can I do to subtly bribe/encourage him to appraise for what we expect?


Sort of kidding? But seriously.

Our appraiser was really weird and tight-lipped. DH just tried to point out anywhere we had upgrades or money we had put into the house (i.e. Adding a composite deck, etc...)

[heartofglass]

It's snowing!

[erbear]

jillywilly I hope you get an answer soon. We pay $360 a year for storage and they were super up front about that cost!

[belle0720]

Sept 27, 2016 10:29:48 GMT -5 @scoop said:

I was listening to the debate on my way home from work and when he made the remark about being smart for paying no taxes I was seriously wondering if anyone else heard that or I just made it up. So much rage about the whole thing.

My coworker and I were just talking about this. "Smart" is not the word I would use to describe a billionaire not paying taxes and bragging about it during a Presidential debate.

[erbear]

The sad thing is re: the debate is that people buy this bull shit. He's doubling down on calling a woman fat today and people are cheering him on. This is no longer about republicans vs democrats, this is about an immature, uninformed, unqualified knob who is a vote away from being our leader.

[holliberry28]

I'm sorry jillywilly, I hope they're able to be more transparent about the cost with you and you get some concrete answers. I agree that's obnoxious.

[jillywilly]

Sept 27, 2016 10:58:37 GMT -5 erbear said:

jillywilly I hope you get an answer soon. We pay $360 a year for storage and they were super up front about that cost!

Wow, I'm jealous. Our storage fee will be $550 for a year, we do have that number, and knew it was something that would have to be dealt with eventually when we did the whole IVF initially. The thing is, they say they'll waive it if we pay a cycle maintenance fee upfront if we're planning a transfer, and it's that fee that I'm trying to find out. I know FETs can cost a few thousand, but I'm under the impression that includes the medication, ultrasounds, etc in that number, so we just want to know how much more than a years worth of storage the actual cycle fee is when we're trying to decide what to pay. I know we can send them to long-term storage to keep for less money, but if I don't get pregnant by spring/summer, we're probably going to do a transfer then, so it makes no sense to send them to storage for that short of time. 

I'm rambling again, and just really not happy about all the financial decisions that have to go into baby-making for some us. 

[beersandweirs]

Has anyone seen this on a yogurt container before (with room for toppings)? Weird.

[tiffbot]

Sept 27, 2016 10:10:11 GMT -5 @poppyc8 said:

Regarding the debate. Not sure if this is a guy thing or if my H is just an ass but he thought Trump appeared stronger then her. To me yelling and interrupting is not stronger. I did think Hillary was on point and factually correct but there were times I wish she spoke up more. But in her defense it's hard to debate someone so rambling and aggressive.

She was probably hoping by letting him talk would be all everyone needs to hear, it's crazy that some people love it though. I don't get it.

[tiffbot]

Sorry for talking about this lots, but I got DS's backpack packed and his name written on everything and he chose his show and tell item for the first day. I told him he'll get to go Thursday and he said "Are you and Gea going to drop me off and then pick me up when I'm done?"

He's so prepared and ready 😭😭😭 I'm glad he is though.

poof

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Sept 27, 2016 11:36:34 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

Does anyone watch South Park? They are pretty accurate in their depiction of the election IMO.

I used to watch South Park but haven't in a while. Such a funny show. Now I really want to see what you are referring to..

[erbear]

Sept 27, 2016 12:28:29 GMT -5 jillywilly said:

I'm rambling again, and just really not happy about all the financial decisions that have to go into baby-making for some us. 

Amen, sister.

I don't know what a FET costs for us. I just know it's significantly cheaper and we'll likely still need to take out another loan.

[periwinkledaydreams]

Jasmine just dropped her sippy, which spilled some milk out onto the kitchen floor.. Then she went over to the diaper bag, opened the wipes and pulled ONE out (amazing in and of itself, usually if she gets hold of them she empties the whole pack), and wiped up her own spill!! I'm like, astonished right now!