Post by carsaidyes on Sept 29, 2016 2:21:39 GMT -5
Agreed. And I'm over here wide awake like I don't have to get up for work soon. Too much on the mind. So my brother called me Sunday, and asked me if I was ready to be an aunt and of course I am! But I'm having major anxiety because their wedding is in two months and his fiancé is on anxiety medication and does not have insurance. So I'm trying to figure out if her medication is safe to take during pregnancy and how we can get her to a dr ASAP! They are in their early 20s and just over the moon and I'm over here like about to sh*t a brick. My mom and I are like the same person we're so excited to have a new bundle of joy in the family but at the same time we want her to get proper medical attention especially if she suffers from an anxiety disorder because I know the repercussions of this she's more likely to suffer from postpartum anxiety or depression. If anyone has any advice I can pass along I will take it!
Me:29(IC/PCOS)DH: 29 Jan13-BO dx @ 6W April14-1st RE appointment Sept14-IUI #1.1=BFP EDD-6/3/15- Our sweet baby Ryan was born on 1/6/15 & is in the arms of an Angel Dec15-Gave birth to a healthy baby Boy Feb17-EDD 10/28/17
Post by salemkitty on Sept 29, 2016 4:19:02 GMT -5
carsaidyes that usually prescribe pregnant ladies Zoloft
Today is my wedding anniversary. I came very close to forgetting. Luckily I remembered yesterday and called SIL. She is going to come watch the boys so we can go to dinner Crisis averted!! (H would have complained until the end of time that I didn't get a sitter... Blah blah blah.)
Post by thatgirlrachel on Sept 29, 2016 7:19:00 GMT -5
Good morning all! One day away from Friday (and payday for me!). EG has been trying to push her bedtime to around 45 minutes earlier this week. I've been going with the flow, but instead of sleeping better she is waking up earlier and crankier. We'll have to keep playing with it, I suppose.
salemkitty Happy Anniversary! I face timed with DH and Ds this morning and DS was wearing an outfit that didn't match, playing with junk mail, and our old carbon monoxide detector was on the couch (?). I gave DH a little lecture about how DS shouldn't be playing with that stuff and commented on the outfit and now I feel a little bad. Apparently DS had a rough night and was up super early. It's always been like this- we get to the end of my trip and I start feeling a little controlling from 1000 miles away and DH gets irritated. The thing is, I know everything is fine and he wouldn't let anything happen to our child. And really, who cares what he's wearing (and H did a great job the rest of the week with matching outfits). I just need to have some feeling of control. I'm rambling....sorry.
Post by thatgirlrachel on Sept 29, 2016 7:30:54 GMT -5
13liza, This trip is hard on you and being emotional is to be expected. I think the mother in all of use makes us want to have some feeling of control. You are a great mom...remember that! Always vent to us when you need to. Hugs!
Morning! Anyone else feel like this was truly the longest week ever? I think it's b/c all day Tuesday I thought it was Wednesday.
Working from home today, which is so much less stressful with our new nanny here. C had a rough start to the night but after some MOTN Tylenol, he conked out for 4+ hours which is the longest stretch he's had in a while. His top teeth are making their way down, they're super close now and one is juuuuust about to poke through, I hope it does tonight and gives him some relief.
Happy anniversary salemkitty! Good save Enjoy dinner!
carsaidyes, that situation would stress me out as well. I hope she's able to get some safe meds that'll help.
13liza, I completely get it and I'm the same way. I come home on Mondays after MH is home with C all day and my first instinct is always to comment on things that weren't done how I would do them, messes, etc. and I always feel rotten about it later. He and I have discussed in the past, I am so used to having control over my life (well, up until about 10 months ago!) and it is hard for me to give it up, especially over something like my child. Even though I do trust him it doesn't come off that way. Gah. I so get it. Hugs.
Oh! No cat poop outside the box yesterday (I know you all were on the edge of your seat waiting for an update). MH and I were joking that we need a sign like this
Post by thatgirlrachel on Sept 29, 2016 8:22:51 GMT -5
Well in a fun turn of events, the part timer in our office just got offered a full time position in another department on campus. We are in limbo waiting to hear whether or not we are consolidating with another institution, so we can't hire anyone until that decision comes down. I'm happy for my coworker but losing that position really sucks right now. FX they give us some consolidation news soon!
13liza, my H frequently puts LO in clothes that don't match (when I point it out he usually says something like "what do you mean? it's all pink!), at this point I usually just try to look at the positive side and be greatful that she's dressed. geners, yay for no cat poo (I was actually quite curious), here's hoping that trend continues.
AFM, STILL no word on the job, I don't know what to think, but I've been whistfully looking at real estate in my hometown.
mistabinx, ugh, sounds like bitch mode is warranted! salemkitty, happy anniversary! Hope you guys have a fun date gdaisy09, JFC with the HRs you've been dealing with! geners, yay for the new nanny! 13liza, big hugs! thatgirlrachel, I'm dreading the time change and 5 am being the new wake up time carsaidyes, aren't pregnant women able to get insurance through their state? I don't know how it works exactly, but there should be a way for her to get medical coverage. Also, I am not sure where you are, but could she work with a midwife? It might be OOP, but the overall fee could be less. There has to be a way! @tifga, DoesItComeInPink, morning!
carsaidyes is there any kind of state insurance she can get on? I know there are a few states that offer free health insurance to pregnant women for the length of the pregnancy and the first year after birth. For example in my state she would just have to have the confirmation of pregnancy done by a dr then apply for it. They usually have a preemptive insurance that covers up to 30 days until the insurance kicks in. Like I said that's my state not sure if all states do that.
As far as the anxiety med what kind is she on do you know? I know that xanax and ativan are a bit risky but if it's very few and far between should be ok for the first tri if she's just using it for break through panic. It has a risk of birth defect but I think the main issue is the baby being dependent upon birth. I don't know if that is fact or not but I did have to take a few low dose xanax in the beginning of my pregnancy and all was fine. Like pp said there are options of ssri meds that are safe during pregnancy that they could put her on for the remainder of her pregnancy. Good luck!
snip gdaisy09 , JFC with the HRs you've been dealing with!
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Agreed! I will be happy to go teach that HR department a thing or two.
It's absurd. They've been stringing us along for 6+weeks. the impression H gets is that the guy who would be his direct manager really wants to hire him, but the guy who is that guy's boss is digging his heals in and doesn't want to hire someone who has been part-time (I don't understand that, but H was passed over for a local position last summer because they cut anyone part-time from the internal applicant pool so it's some weird policy thing). the guy who would be his Driect manager asked H if he'd be able to go to a conference in pittsburgh next week....so we kinda need to know if he has the job before he shells out $1000 for travel expenses.
mistabinx hugs. My opinion is that a day care probably shouldn't be so cold that it requires children to wear long sleeves and pants and socks. That's a little too cool. I would have brought the same clothes and said the same thing. DD sweats when sleeping I wouldn't want her all bundled up to be inside either that's a little crazy. Hope H feels better soon and your day gets better.
It's absurd. They've been stringing us along for 6+weeks. the impression H gets is that the guy who would be his direct manager really wants to hire him, but the guy who is that guy's boss is digging his heals in and doesn't want to hire someone who has been part-time (I don't understand that, but H was passed over for a local position last summer because they cut anyone part-time from the internal applicant pool so it's some weird policy thing). the guy who would be his Driect manager asked H if he'd be able to go to a conference in pittsburgh next week....so we kinda need to know if he has the job before he shells out $1000 for travel expenses.
Sure let me hand you $1000 to attend a work related function for the job I don't have yet......
Is this place for real? I'd be questioning how they would be functioning and toying me around if I WAS hired by them at this point.
AND this is for a national company with 300,000+ employees...so they should have plenty of experience with the hiring process.
H basically told this guy that if he gets the job he is interested, but he would need time to figure out alternative child care plans
Thanks kida . Typically the room is comfortable and that's why I dress her that way even through the winter. The temp today was unusual, but that's why her comment irritated me. Yes, I have ESP and know when you decide you want the room cold?
Maybe the heat is broken? or they need something done to get the heat running for the season (getting a pilot light lit or something). Either way, I agree that the temperature dropping in the fall is an expected event and a place that cares for children should be prepared. I probably would have given a snarky response too.
Post by obscurereference on Sept 29, 2016 10:40:43 GMT -5
My secret for getting my H to do coordinated clothes is to buy all neutral pants/shorts so he can't mess it up. All of their tops go with any bottom. Mostly. Of course he can still manage to fuck it up. A couple of weeks ago he was supposed to get DD1 ready for church. I told him which dress. She has 5 or so pairs of white "cartwheel" shorts to wear under her dresses and skirts. He knows this. Send her off to church without checking. She comes home and I discover that he's put on white jean shorts under the dress....wtf? I mean I don't care what it looks like, but how could he get that wrong?!
Anyway. My second piece of unsolicited advice is just to embrace it. It's kinda cute when you think about it.
Also, my boss is driving me crazy today. She knows that I have limited access to my actual laptop- like at most an hour per day- and asked me to put get something done for TONIGHT. With a time zone change. I check my email and try to keep up, but geez. gdaisy09 so. Much. Waiting. Ugh. I hope you get an answer before the weekend!!
It's absurd. They've been stringing us along for 6+weeks. the impression H gets is that the guy who would be his direct manager really wants to hire him, but the guy who is that guy's boss is digging his heals in and doesn't want to hire someone who has been part-time (I don't understand that, but H was passed over for a local position last summer because they cut anyone part-time from the internal applicant pool so it's some weird policy thing). the guy who would be his Driect manager asked H if he'd be able to go to a conference in pittsburgh next week....so we kinda need to know if he has the job before he shells out $1000 for travel expenses.
Sure let me hand you $1000 to attend a work related function for the job I don't have yet......
Is this place for real? I'd be questioning how they would be functioning and toying me around if I WAS hired by them at this point.
Agreed. The logistics of all of this seems like a red flag to me. It seems like the upper manager is micro-managing and that he and the direct manager were not on the same page throughout the interview process, regarding who was/was not a qualified candidate.
Post by obscurereference on Sept 29, 2016 10:58:11 GMT -5
My kid's new thing is pulling up on everything. But she can't figure out how to get down so she whines for help when she's tired of standing.
My H is off today and tomorrow (yay!!!) so I sent him to gymnastics with DS to see what he does. He's texting me that DS is crying for me and being very uncooperative. The teacher even said something. I'm so surprised. DS doesn't act like he cares that I do anything. He always wants his daddy!
geners Is the new nanny working out? I don't think I've seen you talk about her. Which is probably good lol.
So much better, thanks for asking! Oh man. It makes such a difference. We get along well, have a lot in common, she's a mom too and we seem to share a lot of parenting philosophies which is good, and I love the way she is with C. The old nanny never once took him anywhere and had him in his crib for a lot of the day... he was taking 4 naps a day with her, and hasn't taken 4 in a day since her last day here - he's getting the same or more sleep now but also actually doing stuff! The new nanny has taken him to Little Gym, the park, out for walks, etc. Also she's very respectful of my time, when she is here on Thursdays she doesn't let me lift a finger for anything and while she's friendly, she doesn't talk my ear off like the old nanny. I get a lot more done now. It's great!
busy morning here. I picked up the keys to our new house (yay!) and rent check (which was $700 short. boo!) and then DD had a 9 mo well check appt. she's 95% height, 68% weight and all around perfect we will pick DS up in an hour then head to story time. I like getting out of the house now that the temp has dropped a bit.
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