craftcrazymama, I'm sorry for the scary news. I've had my share of abnormal paps, colposcopies, and even a cone biopsy to remove cancerous cells. If you have been diligent about getting your paps, then whatever it is (if it is even anything of concern) they caught it early, which is always good. I'll be hoping for the best for you. Keep us posted.
Post by creepyeyeball on Oct 3, 2016 12:39:32 GMT -5
My boobs were fine until after #4. Then they were sad and pathetic - like completely deflated skinbags with giant nursing nipples. They filled back up and looked great during pregnancy, but they are slowly deflating again. A year from now we'll be back to the new normal.
I mean, I guess what do you expect from a decade of nursing?
For a different perspective, my boobs went back to normal. Still nursing this one though.
Mine did too but I've always had pretty small boobs and they only got big for the first couple months of nursing. Now they're only bigger if she STTN and I go crazy long between feeds.
Post by craftcrazymama on Oct 3, 2016 18:35:10 GMT -5
Thanks everyone
I have been called in for an urgent appt with the specialist this afternoon, after which I have a few more tests to do and also have an urgent referral for an ultrasound.
I never get your screen name right when I am searching for your name to tag you! In my brain you are crazycraftymama which just means you are crazy good at being crafty.... not actually crazy
Wow. I just realized the same thing, I thought she was crazycraftmama.
I should also mention I am pms'ing hardcore, and we are currently having work done on our house that is taking way too long so our living room and kitchen are out of commission and roofers are coming at 7 am tomorrow!
I sleep really terrible when H is gone, but since L has decided to sleep like a newborn I guess that's not a big deal this time around...
Basically all terrible things are happening here lol
Yes. I let DD1 sleep with me the whole time DH was gone because I hate sleeping alone. GL though!!
lovemyk, what a busy week! I hope that you get a good night of sleep. I'd be terrified being all by myself with my kids for that long, but you're much more relaxed than I am so you'll be great!
As many of you know or can tell from my pic, I am a diehard Gilmore Girls fan. One of the Lukes takeover coffee things is coming to our area! townofstarshollow.org/lukes
And it's on a Wednesday I could take off work for that, right?
There is going to be one right down the street from my work. I'm totally gunna go!
abbeyd, everything is more scarry with kids, and while most storms do little damage, there certainly are storms every so often that do a whole lot of damage, so it is never silly to be prepared, or worried. So you are definitely not being ridiculous at all. It sounds like you are pretty prepared though. Be sure the car has a full tank of gas. A friend always makes reservations at a pet friendly hotel out of the storm path if it looking bad. Some bags of ice in the freezer, or in a cooler if loss of power happens. Flashlights. Hopefully it steers clear though!
SAHM advice with little one - what do you do when you get sick? I woke up with a headache & stomachache combo. We took DD1 to school in an Uber and DH is going to come home early today but he can't come home every time I catch something.
SAHM advice with little one - what do you do when you get sick? I woke up with a headache & stomachache combo. We took DD1 to school in an Uber and DH is going to come home early today but he can't come home every time I catch something.
DH works from home a lot but he will only come home when he's traveling for work if I need to go to urgent care. If I'm really sick the toddler gets TV and snacks and I just go into survival mode with M. Sorry you aren't feeling well. I hope it's a short illness.
Pumping question: how often should I pump when away from M? I've been pumping as often as he would eat (6-7 times a day) but have been getting a ridiculous amount of milk from day 1. There's no way he eats this much. This is absolutely not a brag, I just don't want a huge oversupply when I get back.
To add to yesterday, my car got a nail in the tire. H took it in but took his keys. I was left at work with no way to get to doctor appointment. He had the car place bump us to the front of the line. Then, his phone just died on the way to the doctor Nothing would fix it, so we have a new phone on order with next day shipping.
Ugh, sorry buttercup. Sounds like the absolute worst week ever
I guess I hurt my MIL's feelings the other day. She bought DD a Halloween outfit, but, I already have one I bought and my best friend gave me as a hand-me-down for another night. I told her she should return it since I already have her costume and outfits already and I wouldn't want it to just sit in her closet and not be used. She said she would and didn't say anything else but, told MH later how she wishes it wasn't made to be such a big deal. Ugh. Sorry but, this is my child and I am picking out her first Hallowen outfit. That might make me childish and petty but, I love things like this.
I've got lo's costume completely planned, so I would be upset if mil tried to do this. If it's that important to her, maybe your lo can wear the costume to a non-halloween event? We have Boo at the Zoo that she can wear a second costume to, or maybe an apple farm/hay ride thing? Or you could just blow her off cause she stepped on your turf, which I would be verrrrry tempted to do
I guess I hurt my MIL's feelings the other day. She bought DD a Halloween outfit, but, I already have one I bought and my best friend gave me as a hand-me-down for another night. I told her she should return it since I already have her costume and outfits already and I wouldn't want it to just sit in her closet and not be used. She said she would and didn't say anything else but, told MH later how she wishes it wasn't made to be such a big deal. Ugh. Sorry but, this is my child and I am picking out her first Hallowen outfit. That might make me childish and petty but, I love things like this.
That does not make you childish and petty. She had her chance when she raised her kids. This is something special for you. And it does not sound like you made a big deal of it, but she is, which seems childish. If it is really important to her, could you keep the costume and do a cute diy photo shoot? She may enjoy that, and it would mean the customer did not go to waste.
I am feeling tired and broken. This is so dumb of me, but someone posted a cute feel good video. It was a mom who had recently gone back to work, and she had a "performance review," and they showed her videos of people in her life and at work, all complementing her on how amazing she is for doing it all. It was really sweet, but for some dumb reason it made me feel worse, like that is great that some people can do it all, but I am failing at it all. I don't blame the video at all, this is obviously my issue. I just wish I felt better about myself.
Post by creepyeyeball on Oct 4, 2016 15:27:41 GMT -5
I am like the total opposite with holiday stuff. MIL asked to buy Halloween costumes this year and I was like, cool, one less thing I have to do (because I'm cheap and would have made them instead).
My mom buys outfits for Christmas church every year and also their Christmas pjs. MIL has bought Easter dresses for my girls most years.
I hate shopping and they love it, so it works out well for us. I get no joy out of picking out these kinds of clothes or really clothes in general.
Post by craftcrazymama on Oct 4, 2016 19:04:02 GMT -5
I'm sorry you're feeling the way you are Courtniko
Not sure it will make you feel better but I also have days that feel like I'm failing at managing it all. The house is a mess (messier than I like it anyway), our family business needs my attention (that I can't give right now), I've been hopeless at keeping in touch with friends and there are so many errands etc that I either don't get around to doing or just plain forget! And it makes me feel like I'm just a total failing mess.
But it's also that feeling of not feeling appreciated or having someone just notice how much we are trying to balance and say 'I see you, and I thank you for everything you do'. It can feel overwhelming and lonely as a Mum.
Do you have someone in your life that you can turn to that you always feel better after seeing and talking to them? Turn to them and share how you are feeling. And try to focus on all that you are feeling good about. It's easy to focus on what we feel like we're failing at but I know you will be doing so much that is amazing and loving and caring and important too. Xoxo
Post by craftcrazymama on Oct 4, 2016 19:08:11 GMT -5
So I have day surgery tomorrow to have a d & c and diagnostic hysteroscopy. My specialist is concerned enough to go the whole hog and get as much information as he can to see what's going on.
I know abnormal smears are pretty common and I've had a few before but in the past it's all been dealt with pretty routinely. The urgency that this is all being pushed through with while they're all telling me not to worry is what's making me uneasy.
And making it a bit harder is the fact DH is petrified. His Mum died of the cancer they are ruling out with me so he has, understandably, high anxiety around this.
Oh, and worrying about how I am going to feed LO between surgery and getting home. He still doesn't take a bottle of any sort so it's a bit of a stress.
@east, I hope you feel better! When I get really sick, I'll make H stay home from work.
@pennygirl2013, you're trying to save MIL money! Doesn't she see that? Wouldn't she rather you be honest than just put it away never to be worn? Can you ask her to buy a first Christmas or thanksgiving outfit?
craftcrazymama, thinking of you and hoping for some good news. Hopefully they are just being proactive.
Courtniko, you are doing freakin awesome! I like what abbeyd and craftcrazymama said - great advice. Focus on the positive. You really are kicking ass at the working mom thing!
@pennygirl2013, your MIL is definitely the one making a big deal about it. I'm sort of all about setting boundaries asap. She should understand from the start that big holiday decisions are up to your immediate family and that she can be involved when asked. Outfits don't bother me, if I hate it I just put LO in it once to send a photo otherwise it just goes into the clothes rotation.
Courtniko, you're doing great. My SIL is really supportive, she's the only one I know who will like fluff my butt when I need a "you're doing so well!" Hopefully you can find a way to feel good about everything. abbeyd has a good point of running through the things you get done throughout the day.
craftcrazymama best wishes. I hope everything goes smoothly.
I think it was pure exhaustion that made me feel so poorly. I thought it was a stomach virus but I got to sleep a lot during the day and feel so much better. LO seemed to eat well today so I'm hoping for a decent night.
scotty138, why don't you just pump long enough to get like 4-5 oz (probably what he's eating) and stop?
And because I'm already jealous (not your fault!), how much are you getting? Just curious!
Yesterday I got a little over 40 oz. I woke up at 3am to pump today and when I woke up for the day 3 hours later I had a clogged duct. Today I pumped 38 oz. M is a chunky kid, but I can't imagine he eats that much. He's eating about 24-28 oz of pumped milk at home while I'm gone and seems fine.
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