packmomma, M is throwing things too right now. I think part of it might be figuring out that throwing things can be fun. We went to Wal-Mart and picked out a ball and try to focus on just throwing that. It doesn't always work, but I think it's helping.
No, we aren't evacuating. We have not been advised too. If we are advised too we will. Well it appears I will with the kids. My H is being your typical douche.
Right now it looks like the coasts will see the most damage. We will get some but not compared to them. It's still scary and unnerving.
I hope Matthew takes a page from charlies book and turns east at the last minute. Let's all pray it turns east!!!
packmomma, take w's hands when he hits, get eye level and repeat twice, I will not let you hit. It hurts. We use nice hands. Then let go of his hands.
Do this every single time he hits.
Throwing things. Take it away. And redirect. Or use the same method. I will not let you throw (insert name of object). It's not nice.
This method takes time but works.
Also, your kid will be a brat. All kids are brats at one point in time. What w was doing at story time is normal. He's exploring but he's also testing his boundaries with you. Stay strong and patient. This too shall pass.
Thank you @janetheconquerer! I've been saying "we do not hit, be nice to mama, and no" but it will definitely help to have a consistent "script" for both H and I. I do try to remind myself this is normal but it's hard when all the other kids are sitting nicely in their parents laps. I try to give him freedom to run around because I know sitting for long periods isn't age appropriate but it's like he tries to find the things he's not supposed to touch.
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ampaints I didn't see the original post, but I can gather that you left your job. Sorry about the shitty situation, and good luck on the job hunt. I hope you find something a million times better!
No W you don't get to drop a nap without moving your first one later/lengthening it. If you don't nap now you will be up from 10 am to 730 pm. And then mommy will lose her effing mind.
Ugh. @betweenthelines I'm sorry anyone else has to join the club. On a different line of metro than what I would have taken, they also had broken lines. It was like Oprah handing out shitty commutes to everyone.
@janetheconquerer, I hope you avoid a direct hit of whatever Matthew turns out to be when it hits Florida. Also, would not want to be stuck in a house with bad plumbing during a storm. Is the plumber coming today?
Guys, I feel horrible saying this, but I am dreading going home. packmomma, you know what I'm talking about...
The week before we went away, ds started getting really clingy and needy (FROM ME ONLY) and I cannot even take 2 steps (no joke) away from him without him melting down, clinging to my leg, basically hyperventilating/crying till puking until I pick him up. It got 10x worse after we got back from Mexico. I literally can't do anything without him and 3 of the 5 work days, I am solo parenting, which is making this even more difficult. I feel like I'm straight up suffocating from the constant crying, needing to be held, touching me, etc. I never dealt with anything like this with DD. I do see that his 2 bottom gums are so totally swollen from his molars, but IDK if this can be chalked up to teething. I literally have no idea who this kid is.
I'm trying to tell myself this will pass, but JFC. It is getting very hard to deal with this when my only 2.5 hours home with my kids each day is filled with ds screaming and crying the entire time unless I'm holding him.
My second-line supervisor is usually an easy going guy. Even if I disagree with him I usually state my opinion and move on. He can make business decisions that are for the good of the office, even if I don't like them, and we move on. I'm not sure I can get past this latest thing. I'm the POC for scheduling attorneys to present at conferences sponsored by one of our clients. In fact, it is by far our biggest client - we do more work for them than the rest of the agency combined. So, they asked for 5 attorneys to present at conferences around the country this year. Four of the attorneys did great. The last one just didn't show up to the presentation. The client was calling and emailing me that day trying to figure out where the fuck she was, and it was a highly embarrassing situation. When I finally got in touch with her, she said that the client never got in touch with her about where/when the conference would be. Uh, I told you where and when it would be. If the client didn't get in touch with you with more details, it was on YOU as the presenter to get in touch with them and figure out what the heck was going on. Instead, she's blaming the client for the mess. Besides, four other people managed to do it, and they also had to get in touch with the client. Not a big deal, lady. She scheduled another meeting that day in our office, which is literally a few blocks from the presentation location, so it's clear to me she just didn't put it on her calendar and forgot about it and is now making excuses. And she has never once apologized or indicated that she feels bad. Just keeps blaming the client, which I find even more infuriating. She offered to run over that day when we finally got in touch with her, but the client said to forget it and they would just give the people attending the conference a longer lunch break. Highly embarrassing for us.
So that was last month. Fast forward two weeks, and the same client asks me to find an attorney for a different presentation in December. I send out the email asking for volunteers, and the flake was the first person to volunteer. HELL NO. I am not comfortable telling the client that I know this person flaked two weeks ago, but trust me this time she won't! Not happening. Luckily three other people volunteered, so I picked the person who hasn't presented recently since we can use stuff like that to get better performance reviews. Also authorized the selection with my first-line supervisor. Sent the client her name last Monday.
Now, my supervisor just told me that they had a managers meeting with my second-line supervisor, and he was adamant that the flake should give the presentation in December. He knows what happened, though I'm not sure he knows all the details. I'm floored. Why the fuck would we tell our biggest client that they should rely on a flake? And that we will keep signing her up for things with them when they had such a bad experience with her less than a month ago. He didn't even give a reason. He just said that we shouldn't punish her for flaking and that she will be doing the presentation. I... just can't. I'm fucking LIVID. So now I'm supposed to call the client and say "hey, remember I said X was doing the presentation? Well, never mind. Flake will be doing it! And I promise she won't flake this time. No really, I swear!" And we plan to ask the client for more money to fund additional attorney positions. We would NOT look good doing that if we keep presenting Flake as a representative attorney. That's bullshit.
So I left the office to walk off my anger. And get a donut. I'm already deciding what wine I should drink tonight to drown my rage.
TL/DR: One of my supervisors is being stupid and damaging our relationship with our biggest client. I'm stress eating my feelings.
@betweenthelines I'm sorry he's being so intense and man do I understand the struggle. Do you have a way to carry him? Throwing w on my back sometimes is my only sanity saver. Or going for a walk/sitting in the grass. He gets interested in other things and I can be touch free for a moment. I know it's especially hard when trying to wrangle another kid while solo. Maybe those days they get a little more tv time so you can sit near each other but not be smothered.
If I sit on the floor with him, he is fine, packmomma. My problem is that I am alone after work and need to cook dinner, clean house, get bed time and baths ready, start laundry, bla bla bla, and I can't just sit on the floor... as much as I'd like to. I actually just paged bunny & bibs in Parenting, because I know they babywear, but maybe you'd know. All I have is a ring sling, how hard is it to do and to QUICKLY learn a back carry with that?
@betweenthelines , I feel ya, C does the same thing!
I am miserable. And all H says is "that sucks, he's a baby, what can you do?"
Easy for you to say dude when it's not happening to you every waking minute you're around, AND when you come home and all the kids are already asleep. MFer.
joi922 that's so frustrating! H recently had to give a huge presentation and the poc was awol because of a death in the family but he handled it like a grownup and worked through the setbacks and it went well. To just not show/forget is ridiculous and you're right that it does reflect poorly. Maybe your supervisor is giving the flake one more chance and if she screws up she's out? I would politely explain why you think this is a bad idea and/or be all over the flake to make sure she does a good job of everything (shows up early and prepared). I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.
Post by tmclawchick on Oct 5, 2016 14:16:09 GMT -5
@betweenthelines we went through awful awful separation anxiety with DS....it was hell. I don't really have any advice, just hope it passes quickly and good thoughts to you!
@betweenthelines I don't have a rind sling but I'm sure bunny can teach you how to do a back carry. I totally understand the struggle of having to cook dinner but also not move away from the baby . Also don't feel bad that it's driving you nuts. It's fucking intense and can be totally overwhelming.
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