Randoms Week of 10.3

[mrsmcsmith09]

@feegan I am hoping my kids stick on the same schedule but I know that's not realistic.

[mrsmcsmith09]

We head home tomorrow after being out of town for almost a week. Kids have all done great but I'm ready to be home and back to our routine.

[mc13]

mrsmcsmith09 that will be me next week. We're leaving on Friday to go visit my parents for a week. It'll be nice to see everyone but I'll be out of sorts not being in our own home with our usual routine.


I'm getting so confident in taking all 3 girls out myself. I'm so proud of myself. I really didn't think I'd ever go anywhere again but we've been getting out almost once a day while DH is at work.

[thesportsgal]

Oct 3, 2016 10:55:22 GMT -5 @feegan said:

J has officially transitioned to one nap and Lo still happily takes/needs two. The last week of this has been fun. I've tried to push her to just one and she's a mess. I get one hour a day to myself to accomplish things. ONE. HOUR.

On the plus side they're finally getting some special one on one time with me each day.

I really don't like the one nap!  But it's turning out okay for us.  We got very used to having a break in the morning at 10 AM while they took a one hour nap.  But we always woke them up at 11 so they would take their second nap at the same time as LO #1 in the afternoon so we could get a nap too.  On the bright side, we're going to start doing things all together instead of separate (one of us would take #1 to go do something while the twins napped) so I'm looking forward to that!! 

Sorry about the 1 hour!!  I have one good sleeper and one who doesn't need as much either.  Hopefully it's just a phase and she'll get back on track! 

[richzep]

@feegan same boat over here. So annoying. What really sucks is that DS1 and DS2 are on different nap schedules even though they're both on one nap. DD cannot do without her two naps so I'm literally stuck at home with one up two down one down two up all up scenario all day. If I decide to go out, I'm screwing someone over. And it's usually DS2 cuz he's the most easy going. The poor guy.
I'm sure it'll shift soon though so I'm trying to just deal for a bit.
mc13 I was infinitely happier when I started going out with all 3. Even though it was super hard (still is) it's easier and better than staying home all day.

All 3 of them have some random cold that causing them to be whiny and needing to be carried all day. So I feel bad for them but am super annoyed these last few days. Hoping it passes soon.

[mrsmcsmith09]

richzep sorry for the colds ☹️ no fun

[mrsmcsmith09]

Made it home from vacation and I am so excited to sleep in my own bed tonight!

[pbandj714]

Good luck with packing and your flight @feegan!

I need to start getting organized for our first weekend trip out of town this weekend. Up to now, we've only done day trips and been back home for overnight, so this will be a new level of packing.

[callmeKD]

@feegan - small snacks - like cheerios in a tiny cup with a lid. it makes a great noise maker plus it's food.

[schmella]

Oct 3, 2016 10:55:22 GMT -5 @feegan said:

J has officially transitioned to one nap and Lo still happily takes/needs two. The last week of this has been fun. I've tried to push her to just one and she's a mess. I get one hour a day to myself to accomplish things. ONE. HOUR.

On the plus side they're finally getting some special one on one time with me each day.

W has been SO bad about naps lately.  I got on here to vent and saw your post.  ONE EFFING HOUR.  

She was exhausted, nearly passed out on the living room floor but popped right up as soon as her head hit the crib. Its been 90 minutes and she's still not asleep.  Which means she'll be a raging jerk all afternoon.  The pedi agreed she's not ready to drop down to 1 nap but WTF AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?!  CIO doesn't work.  Putting her down later or earlier doesn't work.  We bought a projector for their room and that apparently doesn't work.  Bonus- when she's exhausted, she gets super clumsy, so she keeps face planting into the crib rails- these nap fights have resulted in black & blue marks that have me afraid to leave the house lest someone call CPS.  She will either fall asleep 10 minutes before A wakes up OR wake him up early from his nap.  And while I technically get a "break" as she shrieks and yells intermittenly for 90 minutes, I'm constantly on alert for the bloodcurdling scream that *might* occur if she whacks her face into the crib, so my nerves are FRIED.  

[schmella]

@feegan, MIL was recently on a flight where a mom had wrapped a bunch of her kid's toys in tissue paper and brought them in a bag. Unwrapping each toy took a few minutes, she played with the paper, and it was as if the toy was brand new- entertained her the whole flight. She said she did the same thing on the way home.

[twobananas]

Guys, leap 4 is majorly kicking my butt, and I'm only on the second day! How does anyone get anything done with two hysterical babies?! Waaahh. Plus Elodie was up every couple of hours last night. Not good guys, not good!

[twobananas]

Oct 5, 2016 12:09:10 GMT -5 @wineandcupcakes said:

Oct 5, 2016 11:30:08 GMT -5 twobananas said:

Guys, leap 4 is majorly kicking my butt, and I'm only on the second day! How does anyone get anything done with two hysterical babies?! Waaahh. Plus Elodie was up every couple of hours last night. Not good guys, not good!

Dumb question: what is leap 4?

There's this whole thing called wonder weeks which is based on the concept that babies go through development leaps at certain times. I didn't really think much of it with my first two but it's been spot on for these babies. Leap 4 is one of the longest/most brutal.

[Squishy622]

Just got 4 shots each at their 1 year checkup. Need wine.

[hollyberry]

Oct 5, 2016 7:46:56 GMT -5 pbandj714 said:

Good luck with packing and your flight @feegan!

I need to start getting organized for our first weekend trip out of town this weekend. Up to now, we've only done day trips and been back home for overnight, so this will be a new level of packing.

We have out first weekend away visiting The ILs and showing off the babies next weekend. So not looking forward to the packing either.

[mc13]

Oct 5, 2016 7:46:56 GMT -5 pbandj714 said:

Good luck with packing and your flight @feegan!

I need to start getting organized for our first weekend trip out of town this weekend. Up to now, we've only done day trips and been back home for overnight, so this will be a new level of packing.

I feel your pain! I've already started packing to visit my family Friday-next Sunday and I feel like I'm packing to move. We have so much stuff to take....5 suitcases/dufflebags then add in the pack b play, bouncy seats, stroller, DD1's toys. Even if it was only a few days, we'd still have almost just as much stuff! Omg. This is insanity. lol

[schmella]

@wineandcupcakes, it's a book but they also have a website and an app: www.thewonderweeks.com/

I don't follow it terribly closely- I don't find their descriptions of skills and development etc line up for my kids, BUT I'll be damned if the good/bad week timing isn't spot on. EVERY time I feel like I'm losing my mind and my children are spawn of the devil, I check the app and sure enough it's a stormy week.

[schmella]

Oct 5, 2016 14:48:53 GMT -5 @wineandcupcakes said:

Oct 5, 2016 14:11:02 GMT -5 schmella said:

@wineandcupcakes, it's a book but they also have a website and an app: www.thewonderweeks.com/

I don't follow it terribly closely- I don't find their descriptions of skills and development etc line up for my kids, BUT I'll be damned if the good/bad week timing isn't spot on. EVERY time I feel like I'm losing my mind and my children are spawn of the devil, I check the app and sure enough it's a stormy week.

Haha good to know!! This is helpful.

Any other things I should read? I have plans to read a multiples BF book but I'm thinking I should read something about the first year. Any good ones?

I'm a google/tcf kinda person but Weissbluth's book on twins and sleep is pretty much universally applauded in all my local twin groups
ETA link: www.amazon.com/dp/B002BAPL2O/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

ETA again: I think sleep is really the biggest concern/difficulty the first year, twins or not.
I also adore preciouslittlesleep.com for their sleep guide chart because I am a spreadsheet kinda girl

[bocaburger]

Oct 5, 2016 14:48:53 GMT -5 @wineandcupcakes said:

Oct 5, 2016 14:11:02 GMT -5 schmella said:

@wineandcupcakes, it's a book but they also have a website and an app: www.thewonderweeks.com/

I don't follow it terribly closely- I don't find their descriptions of skills and development etc line up for my kids, BUT I'll be damned if the good/bad week timing isn't spot on. EVERY time I feel like I'm losing my mind and my children are spawn of the devil, I check the app and sure enough it's a stormy week.

Haha good to know!! This is helpful.

Any other things I should read? I have plans to read a multiples BF book but I'm thinking I should read something about the first year. Any good ones?

What to do when you're expecting two by Natalie Diaz (founder of Twiniversity)

Also, Twiniversity has classes that we found quite helpful.

[bocaburger]

schmella I'm so sorry about the nap hell, that sounds terrible!

[LydiaDeetz]

Can the Verify test determine the sex of twins? I thought the nurse told me at my last appointment it wouldn't be accurate for me, but she left a message today with the results (no markers) and to call back if I wanted to know the sex of the babies. ??

ETA: We announced yesterday and I'm AWing the shit out of this lol

[mc13]

LydiaDeetz no idea about the test results but yay for no markers and I LOVE your announcement!! So creative and cute!

[callmeKD]

LydiaDeetz - the test can tell you (1) if it's 2 girls OR (2) if it's at least 1 boy. ie if there is a Y chromosome then you know it's at least one boy. If no Ys then 2 girls.

so it's not 100%.

[LydiaDeetz]

callmeKD That's what I figured... so, since she said "babies," plural... girls? lol I'm too chicken to call back. And I don't think DH wants to know.

Decisions, decisions. :/

[callmeKD]

Oct 7, 2016 9:26:12 GMT -5 LydiaDeetz said:

callmeKD That's what I figured... so, since she said "babies," plural... girls? lol I'm too chicken to call back. And I don't think DH wants to know.

Decisions, decisions. :/

LOL who knows. when they called me they were all messed up about it - ie I think they forgot I was having twins. 

[mc13]

Oct 7, 2016 11:15:02 GMT -5 @feegan said:

So last night MH and I went for a run after the kids were down and he totally went off about how off schedule the kids are and how we're being awful parents the last few days and I literally didn't know what to say. I mean, we're on vacation, you have to expect some schedule deviations, but more so I think he's just frustrated because no one seems to understand that the kids need some space and time to warm up. They are all so excited to see them so they're all in their faces which is making them cranky. I feel bad he's so frustrated, but seriously, absolutely everyone is here for the wedding, most haven't even met the twins yet, obviously it's gonna get a little crazy. (It's my sisters wedding today)

Good luck! I hope it gets better for you. I think a lot of family members forget what it was like to have little kids and most of them probably have no idea what it's like have 2 little kids. This is going to be us at the end of the month for my brothers wedding. I'm already dreading it. But at least our babies are small enough that I can put them in the wrap to keep hands off of them.

[schmella]

@feegan, MH pulled the same crap when we kept them up late one night when his sister stayed with us. As a SAHM I looked at vacation/visitors as an opportunity for us to push some boundaries with their schedule, knowing someone would be around if I needed a nap or a break but DH felt like it reflected poor parenting skills to the rest of the family. Which is why he was so upset, maybe there is a little more to YHs frustration?

Anyway, the fact that he's concerned about being a bad parent is exactly how you know you aren't. MH reminds me of this all the time