FFFC + Randoms!

[mosdub]

It's Friday!!! How are you all doing? Any confessions? Any thoughts? Any of you from FL?

[caer]

Wow renegadewhit, I'm impressed! Those are both super hard to get, especially in TC. I got the teal paisley skulls and the pac man ghosts. I also have one more mystery pair on the way. I may have a problem. 🙈

[caer]

Oct 7, 2016 10:33:33 GMT -5 renegadewhit said:

Oct 7, 2016 10:31:52 GMT -5 caer said:

Wow renegadewhit, I'm impressed! Those are both super hard to get, especially in TC. I got the teal paisley skulls and the pac man ghosts. I also have one more mystery pair on the way. I may have a problem. 🙈

I loved the paisley skulls in teal!! One of the consultants I follow I guess didn't advertise. She still has a TON of Halloween (good ones!). I seriously wanted more, but alas, budget

I feel you. It's addicting!

[kaits8]

Our basement is (hopefully) getting finished today! And the friend who I was so nervous to announce our pregnancy to b/c she was ttc, texted me yesterday saying she's pregnant!!! I really, really hope it sticks for her. It'll be fun to be pregnant together for at least 5-6 months!

[callmeKD]

UMM renegadewhit - can you hook a girl up? I desperately want T&C Halloween leggings.

[daisylola11]

Why had I never figured out I can watch my show on tv while my DS watches his on the iPad??? Catching up on Greys

[daisylola11]

FFFC sometimes it bugs me when mom friends we hang out w on a regular all of a sudden disappear because it's either too hot or too cold.

I'm not asking to sit in the hot sun we can go elsewhere same w rain or cold days but come on now bundle your kid up and yourself and let him run if it's chilly out!

But I'm sure they judge me for putting a raincover on my stroller and still going on our walk and letting my kid jump in puddles.

All brought to you because one of my closest friends now is bitching about going out in the cold and I wanna hang out!

[erinshelley21]

I ate too many donuts at my work event. No one showed up so I basically ate them out of boredom.

[cosmicav]

I don't really have a confession but damn my pelvis hurts. Feels like my belly is too heavy and when I'm walking, it just aches like my pelvis wants to break. I definitely am bringing it up at my OB appt on Wednesday. My anatomy scan is on Wednesday too, yassss I can't wait to see the little kid that has been breaking my bones like this. Lol

[amberry10]

I had an ultrasound yesterday to check my cervix, and I had ask the tech if she could confirm the sex of the baby. I found out at 14 week through ultrasound and I just want to make sure. She said it was too early, I was 16w 6d. UGH! I mean, I understand that is not her job, BUT I was disappointed.

Anyway, my confession: I've decided I'm not posting this pregnancy on any type of social media. Not sure if that is confession worthy or not. However, my mom and MIL are not happy that they can't brag to their FB following. Too bad.

[erinshelley21]

So I just did the hair and ring trick that's going around on FB. Its saying I'm going to have a boy, a girl, then 2 more boys. I eventually quit with the whole thing because I can't imagine us having more than 4 kids. A 3rd is questionable at this point.

[obi]

TGIF!!
I'll just be cleaning up today. My mom and brother are coming over tomorrow for a makeshift Thanksgiving dinner. Im hoping to walk to the grocery store but it is 2:12 and C still hasnt fallen asleep. Normally his nap is no later than 1.

Our grocery store is 24hrs so thats nice. I just dont like walking there around 5 because the main street I have to cross (with no real crosswalk) gets pretty busy with commuters. Especially on the Friday of a long weekend.

Small town life. Tons of people drive through but not many actually live here.

[callmeKD]

renegadewhit - thanks! it worked!

[bookish]

Catching up:
@justinslovo HOLD UP...your Wegman's has childcare? What is this sorcery?! I would grocery shop every day.

renegadewhit My friend is having her popup tonight and I am going to try to score a pair. Love the black and white skulls! I wore my Lularoe leggings with cars on them to work yesterday and a student commented that I had on "crazy pants." I think she meant crazy COMFORTABLE.

FFFC: My kid screamed at Ann Taylor Loft yesterday but I kept trying stuff on because I really need tops that cover the bump. I got the stink eye from a few people.

[erinshelley21]

My progesterone shot insurance nightmare is OVER! At least I think so anyways. I thought it was over 2 weeks ago but it ended up not being over. This time it just might be!

[meggypoo1]

My in laws are coming this weekend. Blah!

[callmeKD]

I have Halloween leggings! I hope they fit my belly 😜

[daisylola11]

Long day w more walking than planned and some park time. I'm Jabba the Hutting it just laying in my underwear in bed while DS naps.

[Quinstar]

Heart. Burn.

Im sitting in my classroom hoping the PK teacher doesnt bring the kids in for their 10 minute music class, and I can go home. (Shes 10 minutes late now, so I think I'm in the clear.)

Because I keep gaging, Im actually afraid the heartburn may cause me to puke.

[glb30]

@justinslovo I'm loving the grocery store childcare.

FFFC- I'm not much of a sports fan, and if I am going to watch sports I want to be in a bar (so not applicable right now, as I have no interest in being in a bar pregnant) or live. My husband gets really into the play-offs of every sport for his teams. Sometimes I silently root for the other team so we can stop the evening sports marathon on our tv. 😳

I'm achey today. I also called my doctor today bc I'm 16 weeks, have lost 3 lbs., don't have any belly and definitely don't feel any movement. The nurse said all that was a-okay, so I feel a little better.

Ready for the weekend!

[mosdub]

Heading back after a long day of field trip action! I'm so pooped and want to sleep on the bus back but I feel like I should be up to monitor the kids. So tired. Thankfully the day went off without a hitch.

[caer]

Oct 7, 2016 17:57:41 GMT -5 @amc25 said:

FFFC: I read (or at least scan) every thread on this BMB. I'm feeling awkward as fuck right now thanks to some of the things I've read today, and now I'm feeling weird about posting anything at all on this BMB. I feel like I try my best to be sensitive to those of you who have had different journeys to get to this pregnancy, but if mentioning living children and tentative plans for conceiving subsequent children is so side-eye worthy, then this just might not be the place for me.

I'm assuming this is in reference to the PGAL/PAIF check-in. While I have no problem with people lurking - I lurk everywhere, TBH! - I hope people can respect that it's meant to be a safe place for people who have been through some really shitty shit. And along with that comes some messy, not-so-simple emotions.

I can't speak for anyone else, but for me, I don't blame anyone else for how I feel. When I was going through IF/loss, I didn't expect people to stop posting PG announcements even if they hurt. I certainly don't expect people to stop talking about their LOs or their future pregnancy plans now.

So I hope you don't leave and I hope no one else does either. I think we know in PGAL/PAIF land that all other threads are fair game and that's on us if we choose to participate in them despite potential triggers. But that thread at least should be a place where we can hide if necessary and share some of our most difficult thoughts and feelings.

[caer]

Oct 7, 2016 19:31:49 GMT -5 @amc25 said:

caer renegadewhit Thank you for your responses. I apologize for intruding on your check in "safe space." I don't want to hurt anyone with the things I post, but on the other hand, I don't want to censor myself to the point of never mentioning DS or hopes and dreams I have for the future of my family. I guess I'm struggling to find the right balance between the two? If there's anything I can do better to make things less triggering, I'm open to suggestions!

I honestly think you and everyone here has been kind and respectful of those who have had a difficult journey. Again, I don't think anyone has to censor anything - the majority of us have LOs (me included) and this a pregnancy message board, so of course family planning will come up. But I just hope everyone can respect the loss/IF check-in as a place for people to share their complicated emotions without feeling like it's an attack.

[missi]

So.. now I had to go read the thread in question. I normally don't lurk it.. because well, I've not been there/done that with you guys. I have friends who have. It was heartbreaking to watch her go through that. So much, hope, heartbreak, so many sticks peed on..

Honestly though, we all have triggers. I think that is why I stay away from that thread, because I know that is for your particular situation. I wish the micropreemie forum on here was more active.. that is something others here can have sympathy for.. but few have had to watch their children grow in a box for months on end.. needing at least two other people just to help you hold your child.

~sigh~ I hope this comes out correctly. What I'm trying to say is that I get it. I'm sorry if me talking about my kids on here triggers some of you. Mine weren't planned.. they were hoped for. I know I'm blessed. Sadly though.. if I didn't talk about them.. I'd have absolutely nothing to post.. ever. Well, unless you wanted to hear grocery store politics from the view point of a part-timer with no investment in her job. ~laugh~

What makes this board and forum so amazing is the ability of all of us to come together with a common goal.. the things we are sharing in this specific pregnancy.. the thoughts/ideas/knowledge we can all share. If you can't respond to my posts because they strike a note deep in your heart due to your past, that's okay. I understand.

Please though, none of us stop being ourselves. I don't think anyone on this board takes their pregnancy for granted. If you need to rant, rant away.

I am personally so excited that any/all of us are pregnant, no matter how we got there. I actually look back at the list on a moderately regular basis and wonder how those who've had to leave us are doing.


... I almost deleted some of this for fear of insulting others.. if it does, please tell me. It isn't my intent. More.. I wanted to remind us why we are all here.. to be ourselves and share in a safe environment where we trust that others are dealing with at least moderately similar situations.

[mosdub]

Well said caer

Please don't leave us @amc25 I've never felt hurt by anything you've said. And I love having you here ❤️

Sometimes pgal gives me thoughts and feelings I am NOT proud of and venting them out in the pgal/paif forum helps get it out of my system.

[glb30]

missi I think your post made a lot of sense. I also think the grocery store politics sounds interesting- haha.

caer has more eloquently said exactly my thoughts! So +1 to her posts.

[callmeKD]

Unless and until you've experienced loss or IF, it's not something that you can fully understand. I have a LC. We've struggled with IF and loss and a late term premie. I know I'm lucky to have a healthy DD but it's also hard to read about others who have an "easy" time getting KU. So let's leave that thread a safe place for those who need it.

[erinshelley21]

**This might be trigger-y since I'm going to talk about my loss history
It's hard for a mother to not talk about her already living children. It's second nature.

I'm guilty of talking about how I want to have #3 close to #2. I just did it to my neighbor last night. But I know good and well that babies don't happen on our timeline. I got pregnant with ds in 1 month, my loss last year was a surprise, and then after those it took 8 months to get pregnant this time. When I say that I want #2 and #3 close, it's more about remaining positive and hopeful and trying to look forward to the future. I know 8 months is NOTHING compared to what some of you ladies and others have been through, but we all have our problems.