FFFC with a side of Random Thoughts

[meggypoo1]

I have a lot of feels on the flu shot. We all get the shot. It's important to protect us and those around us that can't get the flu shot or have a bad immune system. Think about those people that you may be infecting without getting it.

[muskiefan]

Oct 14, 2016 11:23:31 GMT -5 glb30 said:

I'm going out to lunch, so I thought I'd give the leggings a break and wear jeans with a belly band. (Haven't tried to wear jeans since about 8 weeks) My jeans all button. Wtf. Not having a bump is not in my head! I can't wait for the a/s to make sure this baby is growing bc I'm confused as to where she is going!

Pretty sure mine won't go over my things/butt. Good thing I've invested in a lot of LLR over the past year+

[moutonrouge]

I'm adding things to my private wishlist on Amazon as a kind of registry-rough-draft. But I'm not even sure I want a shower. Our family all live far away, and although I know my stepmom would come down (they live closest) I'm not sure if my mom would (she lives across the country). She probably wouldn't except if my stepmom comes then my mom will feel pressured to fly out here. I doubt MIL and SILs will come out since it's a 10 hour drive and they don't fly. And then I could invite my close friends, but it's not a super long list. Total we might have 10-15 people. Most of my friends have like 50+ people at their showers, so throwing one with a small invite list feels lame. But if I invite more, that's definitely gift-grabby.

Sorry, that was a long rambly vent thing.

[kristhegirl]

moutonrouge throwing your own shower is considered gift grabby anyway. They're supposed to be thrown for you!

(The actual level of social etiquette faux pax fluctuates somewhat depending on where you live and your social circle norms. I just used the adjective you used, I don't think you're gift grabby!)

[obi]

I just realized my due date is exactly 8 years since my H and I first met.

[obi]

I have a fruit fly problem for the second time this year grrr!
Homemade traps do not work fast enough.
These little bastards need to return to hell!!!

[Quinstar]

Oct 14, 2016 13:26:06 GMT -5 obi said:

I just realized my due date is exactly 8 years since my H and I first met.

Mine is 2 days after the day we met. I didn't even think of that until you said something. That's really cool!

[moutonrouge]

Oct 14, 2016 13:14:57 GMT -5 kristhegirl said:

moutonrouge throwing your own shower is considered gift grabby anyway. They're supposed to be thrown for you!

(The actual level of social etiquette faux pax fluctuates somewhat depending on where you live and your social circle norms. I just used the adjective you used, I don't think you're gift grabby!)

A friend would throw it for me - she offered and I'm debating whether to take her up on it or not. I definitely wouldn't throw my own or let family throw one for me. 

[kristhegirl]

moutonrouge let your friend host, then! Invite anyone you'd actually want there and let them do their weird thing if they think it's a competition (mom V. stepmom.) Eat some finger foods, talk babies, hang out with your friends. It'll be fun.

[suelou18]

I hadn't gotten the flu shot on a regular basis prior to being pregnant. Now I get it every year. I was just able to get it at the OB's office this year during a regular appointment. Now if I could just get a shot for all the other illnesses DD brings home from DC.

I'm still wearing my regular jeans and will probably be able to for awhile. My bump is just higher than my pants right now. However, I think the maternity shirts will be coming out soon. I realized today that my t-shirt is not covering as much of my bump as I thought it was.

moutonrouge - Have the shower. The shower for my first was just a gathering of old friends, so maybe 10 people. Well 10 people and all the kids. We basically just use showers as an excuse to all get together. I think having a small group of people is just fine and what I prefer.

[callmeKD]

got my flu shot today. my arm is a little sore.

[callmeKD]

my doctor gave me a note ordering me to work from home 2 days a week. I can't wait! the peace and quiet is going to be amazing.

[mosdub]

Oct 14, 2016 15:02:08 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

I have a fffc I am nervous to type...

If baby is a boy I pray he doesn't have red or strawberry blond hair.

I love my strawberry blond girl though...

Is this personal preference or because you're worried about bullying?  

[caer]

Oct 14, 2016 15:02:08 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

I have a fffc I am nervous to type...

If baby is a boy I pray he doesn't have red or strawberry blond hair.

I love my strawberry blond girl though...

DS is a strawberry blonde and he's adorable! I had red hair growing up (it's mellowed now) and I loved it. I always felt special.

[caer]

Here is a picture (from last year) of DS's hair - it's lightly strawberry blonde and I think it's beautiful! PDQ, will delete.

*poof*

[caer]

Oct 14, 2016 15:31:49 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

caer he is so handsome and I love his hair color.

I think my fffc is super shade specific. But not something that can be verbally explained.

And now I feel super awkward.

I get it, with all the ginger jokes out there, it is something I have thought about. But IDK, kids are going to find something about every other kid to joke about. There are worse things than hair color!

[obi]

Oct 14, 2016 15:02:08 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

I have a fffc I am nervous to type...

If baby is a boy I pray he doesn't have red or strawberry blond hair.

I love my strawberry blond girl though...

I dont see this as flammable.
This time around I am hoping that if we have a girl that she at least has my Hs skin tone. He is Mohawk and has gorgeous skin tone and I am the whitest of white because Irish.

Our son is my Hs twin and seems to have his skin tone (I am convinced it is the same as my H but he is convinced he is lighter) but in his family the girls never seem to get that trait.

All this to say, I think it is totally normal to have these kind of preferences when all we can do is just imagine what these little babes will look like for real.

[obi]

Omg I'm dying at the cuteness caer

[moutonrouge]

@justinslovo I really like the fox and woodland/forest themes but I feel like they're so popular I shouldn't like them on principle.

[moutonrouge]

DH and I look too much alike for there to be a lot of options for our kid - s/he will be blond as a baby and pale and forced to have suspicious moles looked at regularly. The only thing I want is for my family's curly hair to win out. Even though I sometimes am super jealous of SILs super straight gorgeous hair, I still think I'll be a little sad if baby doesn't end up with at least wavy hair.

[mosdub]

Oct 14, 2016 15:59:55 GMT -5 obi said:

Oct 14, 2016 15:02:08 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

I have a fffc I am nervous to type...

If baby is a boy I pray he doesn't have red or strawberry blond hair.

I love my strawberry blond girl though...

I dont see this as flammable.
This time around I am hoping that if we have a girl that she at least has my Hs skin tone. He is Mohawk and has gorgeous skin tone and I am the whitest of white because Irish.

Our son is my Hs twin and seems to have his skin tone (I am convinced it is the same as my H but he is convinced he is lighter) but in his family the girls never seem to get that trait.

All this to say, I think it is totally normal to have these kind of preferences when all we can do is just imagine what these little babes will look like for real.

I know a couple where the H is Native American and the W is white - their daughter got blonde hair and Mom's coloring while the boy has dark dark hair and Dad's coloring. Genetics are so interesting! 

[mosdub]

caer that is the cutest kid!

[obi]

Oct 14, 2016 16:13:44 GMT -5 mosdub said:

Oct 14, 2016 15:59:55 GMT -5 obi said:

I dont see this as flammable.
This time around I am hoping that if we have a girl that she at least has my Hs skin tone. He is Mohawk and has gorgeous skin tone and I am the whitest of white because Irish.

Our son is my Hs twin and seems to have his skin tone (I am convinced it is the same as my H but he is convinced he is lighter) but in his family the girls never seem to get that trait.

All this to say, I think it is totally normal to have these kind of preferences when all we can do is just imagine what these little babes will look like for real.

I know a couple where the H is Native American and the W is white - their daughter got blonde hair and Mom's coloring while the boy has dark dark hair and Dad's coloring. Genetics are so interesting! 

This seems to be the case in my Hs family too. His 2 half sisters (same dad) are both white like their mom. He has a half brother (same dad) who also has a white mom and, while he isnt quite as dark as my H, he is not as light as his mom either. And yeah my Hs biodad got around haha.
The only hope I hold onto is that MIL is 1/4 Mi'kmaq and has beautiful olive toned skin.

However! My uncle (mom's BIL) is from Spain. Both of his daughters (my cousins) are white as hell lol. It's a total crapshoot! But genetics are awesome and I kinda spiral out thinking of all the possibilities.

[kristhegirl]

I'm mostly Irish and Norwegian; my husband is half Czech. We're very, very white.

Sometimes it makes me sad (okay not sad, but I do think about it) because I love mixed coloring - so interesting and so much more variety! The best I can hope for is maybe a redhead.

[obi]

And just to AW, here is C last week with Zincofax smeared all over his face.

*poof*

[obi]

Oct 14, 2016 16:31:25 GMT -5 kristhegirl said:

I'm mostly Irish and Norwegian; my husband is half Czech. We're very, very white.

Sometimes it makes me sad (okay not sad, but I do think about it) because I love mixed coloring - so interesting and so much more variety! The best I can hope for is maybe a redhead.

I get those feels.
Related - My H sent me this and it is accurate:

[mosdub]

I made it through the week. Monday is my next ultrasound and I'm so anxious and excited and nervous and hopeful and full of dread and excited and nervous and hopeful.

[Quinstar]

I'm Swedish and DH is Irish. We were both born with golden blonde hair, which changed at about 6 or 7 years old. Our hair is dark brown now, so it'll be funny to have a blonde kid running about for a while.

[mosdub]

Oct 14, 2016 17:30:48 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

I had blond hair until I had babies. Now it is brown.

I know someone who had straight hair and after baby it went hella curly.  

[kristhegirl]

Oct 14, 2016 16:39:32 GMT -5 obi said:

Oct 14, 2016 16:31:25 GMT -5 kristhegirl said:

I'm mostly Irish and Norwegian; my husband is half Czech. We're very, very white.

Sometimes it makes me sad (okay not sad, but I do think about it) because I love mixed coloring - so interesting and so much more variety! The best I can hope for is maybe a redhead.

I get those feels.
Related - My H sent me this and it is accurate:

This is my lyfe. I just sent that to my sister, too.