Last night I was texting my sister in law and she...also went full dense. She said we needed to share names so people could give us monogrammed stuff like she had. There's just a few issues though; I shared DS's name and lots of family was not polite about it, and I don't care to have monogrammed stuff that I can't pass on or sell.
Post by madameovary on Oct 15, 2016 8:53:16 GMT -5
@priss08 my mom took monogram angle, too. It drove her crazy. It drove her crazy to not know. I think we have a name already bUT won't be sharing until delivery. Sorry your family has such an opinion and feeling of entitlement about YOUR uterus.
Edited to add: I bet she will post pics of her without permission, announce the birth before you have a chance, etc. Reign it in! Good luck!
Thanks to everybody that helped me not feel insane or like I overreacted. She actually has a history of this and everything is about her/how it makes her look/ect. Our relationship is strained because of things she has said about me and about my DH after DS was born. Like, I want DS to have time with his still living grandparents but, she makes it difficult sometimes.
On a lighter note, now that I know the sex I want to buy stuff so bad. I've found the cutest stuff but I need to wait till I have the needs before the wants. Like, STBDD will need bottles before sweater dresses. 😆
So my aunt who makes everything difficult so that she can be the one that 'bears the burden' of things sent me and DH separate thank you notes for coming to my grandma's funeral.
For going to my own grandmother's funeral. Hand written, long, thank you notes. For coming and grieving over the death of my grandmother.
I could maybe see sending a thank you to everyone who sent flowers or donations, but not for attending. No. That's weird. She's Doing The Most in her grief, I guess?
I could maybe see sending a thank you to everyone who sent flowers or donations, but not for attending. No. That's weird. She's Doing The Most in her grief, I guess?
Well, she pretty much acted like it was a game of 'who's suffering the most'. She refused to tell her 5 other sisters how much the cost of the funeral was, and wouldn't let them pay for anything. They had to go to the funeral home and pay it directly. She was livid.
She didn't want us in her home because she was afraid we'd start asking if we could have things of grandmas. She refused to read the will while all the sisters were present because 'she wasn't ready'. She switched the day she was supposed to go with two of her sisters to pick out headstones so that she could pick one out on her own.
So, I'm assuming sending out thank you cards is the last 'one up' on everyone, because yes, now it seems like she hosted grandmas funeral on her own.
I don't think we will share the name either. I'd like the freedom to change it before the birth (or after the birth I guess!) and I like the idea of not giving people the opportunity to be idiots about it. Once the name is finalized I have found no one says anything negative, but if it's still up in the air everyone has all the opinions.
On a lighter note, now that I know the sex I want to buy stuff so bad. I've found the cutest stuff but I need to wait till I have the needs before the wants. Like, STBDD will need bottles before sweater dresses. 😆
I am so itching to go baby shopping but I'm waiting for Monday's appointment. I know being 16 weeks we don't have a solid chance finding out the sex, but I'm hoping we will.
I don't think we will share the name either. I'd like the freedom to change it before the birth (or after the birth I guess!) and I like the idea of not giving people the opportunity to be idiots about it. Once the name is finalized I have found no one says anything negative, but if it's still up in the air everyone has all the opinions.
You're totally right about this. People were overly blunt when we shared names last time. Plus, I remember hearing a lot of names I wasn't crazy about but still tell the parents they made a lovely choice. I wasn't lended the same courtesy.
Post by daisylola11 on Oct 15, 2016 10:19:19 GMT -5
Waiting until Friday for a/s and hoping baby cooperates and gives us a good pic so we can announce the name like we did w DS. We didn't get any backlash from anyone last time, we just made it official in that way.
Today we have no plans but making cinnamon rolls in the waffle iron. Much excite.
this sounds amazing. Have you done it before? We have an ongoing list at work of non-waffle things you could theoretically put in a waffle iron - this is going on the list!
No, but they're AMAZING and stupid easy. It's seriously a roll of Pillsbury cinnamon rolls, cooked individually in a waffle iron. 3 minutes.
Thinned out the icing with a little milk (3tbl) and a cup of powdered sugar. It actually ended up being way more icing than you'd need so next time I'll cut the added sugar to a half cup.
Post by daisylola11 on Oct 15, 2016 10:21:39 GMT -5
Waiting for H to wake up, his turn to sleep in. And hopefully he doesn't get too pissy about going to my brothers college tiny house competition 45min away. Everyone else in my family is going and the rain has stopped for a bit so I feel bad not going since I'm the closest to it. Plus they wanna visit w DS and the bump haha
@priss08, my step-mil announced for us within minutes of us telling her.. five hours later I got her to take it down without too much of my family seeing it >< Ugh! I hate this sooo much!
We're not telling the name either
btw, so much love with how you guys are the same way with grandparents. I love all of them.. but seriously, WE were your kids.. these are OUR kids. Step back
I wanna try pumpkin soup again. DH said we tried it and didn't like it. ~frowns~ And egads, now I want cinnamon roll waffles soo badly. Seriously salivating over here
Today, my mil is going to ninja the twins and we're making it a special day with the teens. They help so much and get so much less individual attention due to them. So.. going to take them out and then spend the day with them without toddler distractions. Yesterday, I was so tired and frustrated I was ready to cancel the whole thing.. glad I finally got a good nights sleep.
We don't share names with people. Last time, I just told people that we were still figuring it out and were bringing a list to the hospital, even when we already knew the name. We just didn't want opinions or comments. I also didn't want people to talk to my belly by his name. And I did indeed have people talking to my belly, so it wasn't an unfounded concern.
We'll do the same this time. People are asking me already. Get out of my business strangers!!!
I went shopping with my friend this morning. Now I am having lunch by myself. Then I am doing a little more shopping. I have no idea when the last time this happened!
Post by erinshelley21 on Oct 15, 2016 15:48:59 GMT -5
I am home resting after having a rummage with SMIL and SSIL today. I think I made about $80 which is impressive since I had nothing marked for more than $2. We haven't split the money yet so I'll have to wait and see until Monday.
Not sure what's on the plan for tonight. Take out from somewhere or Mexican food probably.
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