Settle our disagreement

[DVMmomma]

H and I are 'arguing' (it's really just more having different view points) about whether or not we should be making a baby shower registry. I know my family or his would definitely put on a shower for us but I feel weird about it because we already had one for DD. His point is that this time we need another set of everything this time around and why not. I think I also feel that financially we're doing ok. Not as good as I wish of course but we can definitely afford to buy the things we need for the twins. And our family has already helped us out so much when I was in school and we were struggling more. 

So what do you think? To shower or not to shower?

[callmeKD]

we are declining showers but setting up a registry (mostly to get the discount coupon.) I think my family will buy us extra gifts for Christmas etc.

[LydiaDeetz]

A friend hosted a shower for me when I was pregnant with DD (our first child). We live 600 miles from family/friends and I won't be having another shower, but you better believe I'm making a registry for the completion coupon.

[requiressnacks]

I would probably set up the registry, in case family or friends do want to buy you stuff. But I'd probably decline doing an actual "shower."

Also- I think Babies R Us is generally way overpriced, but they did let us stack our 10% completion discount with 15% off for opening up a BRU credit card. They also took Buy Buy Baby coupons. It was an amazing day of savings.

[schmella]

TBH, I generally side-eye a second baby shower, even for twins. If a sprinkle is a thing in your circle, that's an option but I'd probably just put together a registry and hope someone asked about it

[housecarder]

The twins were my third pregnancy so I declined a shower from my friends. However my church does a shower for every mom and they were pretty pushy about throwing me one since they hadn't for my previous two so I let it go.
I registered at BRU and Target and bought everything off there with the completion coupon and got the rewards back. I ended up getting like $90 back in rewards. For me a registry was an easy way to keep track of what I needed and liked.

[dream2be3]

I would say start one, even if you don't share it with anyone, so you can at least take advantage of the discount and any other registry benefits there might be.

[lch1309]

We may run into this same issue. I didn't think about the completion coupon. That's a great idea! Where are your favorite places to register? Has anyone done one through Amazon?

[dukegirlsc]

DVMmomma , I agree with everyone else, lol! Even without a shower people are going to buy you gifts so it's nice to be able to steer them in the right direction!

[pbandj714]

Oct 18, 2016 18:31:24 GMT -5 lch1309 said:

We may run into this same issue. I didn't think about the completion coupon. That's a great idea! Where are your favorite places to register? Has anyone done one through Amazon?

I loved the Amazon registry! They give a 15% completion discount on anything that they fulfill (no discount on items sold by 3rd parties). I waited until I'd done my completion orders from Target and BRU before my Amazon order. It was so easy to add/delete things at any time so I could get the best deals!

[Deleted]

I wasn't going to have or ask for a shower but registered at Target and Babies R Us for coupons and the twin discount perk as well. My sister who is expecting her first wants a co-shower. It's nice but I feel weird -like I'm jumping into her shower. But no deterring her...she's dead set on it. Oh well at least it's just family.

[DVMmomma]

Great ideas gang. I presented it to DH who responded "Oh, yeah. That's what I meant. I just want a registry for people to reference if they ask. Isn't that called a shower?" Eye roll.

[Deleted]

In my circle, baby showers are for first babies only (to welcome a woman into motherhood). HOWEVER, definitely set up a registry for the completion coupons!

[dream2be3]

I really like the Amazon registry because, well, you can add literally anything to it plus if you're a prime member you can get a free welcome box loaded with samples and even some full size products. I got a 4oz bottle, I think Munchkin brand, a Burts Bees white bib, a bottle of coconut water (at least a 20 oz) plus a bunch of various samples (water wipes, lotion, etc). There is certain criteria you have to do to get the welcome box for free and if you're mobile you won't see that unless you go to the desktop site.