Someone talk down my crazy? (TW: Loss)

[ldubhawksfan]

Oct 26, 2016 16:49:38 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

UPDATE: I went the other day to get his cross and they were getting ready for a funeral so they wouldn't let me in the cemetery. I went back today and they had already thrown away his cross. The only thing left were the three heart stones. I have no idea why but I'm a freaking mess. I cannot stop crying.

I'm so sorry. I can't believe how insensitive they have been. ((Hugs)) You have every right to be upset.

[teraiin]

What?! That's horrible 😭 I'm so sorry

[akraus2015]

So...I called and talked with director at the cemetery. He swears he didn't take the cross down and doesn't know what happened to it. He said my FIL was just up there digging through the trash cans looking for it (God bless his heart). He said he checked with the maintenance guys and none of them took it down. I find it really hard to believe that it just magically disappeared days after their announcement of this policy, after having been there 14 months.

I told him why I was upset and let him know that I needed him to know how it felt that my son was now resting in an unmarked grave. He told me that my point had been made, he heard me, and that he was sorry. That didn't make me feel any better. I won't feel better until Emmett is properly memorialized again, which I told him I wanted to do ASAP. We made an appointment for next Friday to design a tombstone. I feel sick.

[butlerfan]

I think the news needs an "anonymous" tip on this. Because that is bull shit and straight up lies.

[akraus2015]

Oct 27, 2016 14:16:36 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

I think the news needs an "anonymous" tip on this. Because that is bull shit and straight up lies.

Honestly....as pissed as I am, that's not my style.  For my own sanity I need to assume the best from these people and let myself think it was an accident.  Otherwise we'll just have to keep thinking about it, and talking about it.  I just want Emmett to be memorialized properly.  Every time I think about him resting in an unmarked grave for the next week and a half, I want to throw up.  They put up a temporary marker, at least, because I flew into a rage on the phone when I said that if the maintenance people were just mowing over him with no regard to his little resting spot that I'd lose my fucking mind.

[bunnyfungo]

I haven't read, but most cemeteries make clear that certain "decorations" will only be allowed for X amount of time. Honestly, even if it is not affordavle, I think you will want a gravestone. My mom went without one for quite some time and it was very upsetting. Honey, I will start a GoFundMe if you want. I just know that with loss, there's a high likelihood you will need this. I'm so so sorry. And maybe I'm projecting. But I want this for you. Say the word, and I'll do it for you.

[akraus2015]

Oct 27, 2016 15:01:08 GMT -5 bunnyfungo said:

I haven't read, but most cemeteries make clear that certain "decorations" will only be allowed for X amount of time. Honestly, even if it is not affordavle, I think you will want a gravestone. My mom went without one for quite some time and it was very upsetting. Honey, I will start a GoFundMe if you want. I just know that with loss, there's a high likelihood you will need this. I'm so so sorry. And maybe I'm projecting. But I want this for you. Say the word, and I'll do it for you.

This right here is why I will tell anyone who will listen how giving, and supportive, and amazing this community is.

[icedtea]

akraus2015, I'm sorry he didn't have a more satisfying answer. I hope you're able to get Emmett's gravestone as soon as possible. So awful that you have to go through this

[TheEleventhHour]

Ugh. I am sorry to hear the cross was gone and no one had a good answer for you. I hope that you are able to get a gravestone very soon. I am glad they put a marker there at least for the mean time