No motivation
Oct 24, 2016 0:06:50 GMT -5
Post by brachysira on Oct 24, 2016 0:06:50 GMT -5
I feel like my child lacks motivation due to a fear that she won't succeed. You may recall that we got OT, and one of the main milestone things that concerned them was that she could not put on her shoes. But I think what they concluded and what I think too, is that she could but she wouldn't try. She now does it but with tons of begging for help, crying in frustration, getting distracted, etc. but she still often doesn't even really get started before she's given up. Her friend at school can do a cartwheel and DD wishes she could, but my child doesn't ever want to practice gymnastics at home and she's timid at class, doing the least or refusing to do things that she can do unless the instructor will help her. My child loves being read to, knows some sight words, and can sound out words pretty easily, but she doesn't want to read easy readers even though she has success when she'll try. We often go to a drop-in dance class where you pretty much just do a bunch of silly movements as dictated by teacher-narratives, and my child has been going for a year and loves it, so she's one of the oldest and most capable, but this week she didn't want to go. I thought maybe she was getting bored with the class, but later she said she didn't want to go because she couldn't do some of the movements. I know that she's 3, and mostly she should be playing, but she loves letters and books, so I thought she would enjoy reading. We do indoor sports classes as a way to get exercise when it's too cold to play outside for long periods, and my goal for last year was that she just not become hysterical during class, but I'm starting to feel like my kid is the only one who doesn't move up and I'm wondering if we should even keep going. My friend tells me that balance bikes saved them this fall, as her girls, ages 2 and 4, love to ride them around their apartment complex every day. My child did not touch hers all spring and summer and has recently tried for a few minutes once in a while after seeing so many children doing it. I'm wondering if this is a parenting thing and I'm doing something that is discouraging her. Or if she needs a psychologist to work though some anxiety. Or if this is just a 3 year-old thing and the halcyon days of your child enjoying anything you suggest are gone for good. Edit--one more thing. She writes the first two letters of her name perfectly and has for nearly a year. But she says those are the only ones she can write and won't try any other letters. When she was 2, she sometimes would try to make other letters, but now she never tries. When she was 2, she would draw suns and rainbows, but now she doesn't try to draw anything because she's not good at it. At school, they have activities where they are supposed to color something almost every day, and hers just has scribbles all over it although I've seen her color with more precision in the past.