Post by kristhegirl on Oct 25, 2016 11:28:06 GMT -5
@priss08 re: housing - a lot of people, especially our parents' age or older - really have no concept of just how shitty the economy was/is for anyone who got out of college in the last 10-15 years. Staggering student loan debt plus a really tough job market means a lot of people can't even think about owning a house until much older than people used to be able to consider it. Plus the mortgage business went from being nearly wide open to very, very regulated, and a lot of people don't even quality for any kind of mortgage.
Post by moutonrouge on Oct 25, 2016 12:26:03 GMT -5
@priss08 My dad and stepmom really put the pressure on us to buy a house after DH and I got married. They had given us a really generous gift for our wedding and said it was for a down payment on a house. I don't think they ever really understood why upon receiving said gift we didn't (couldn't) immediately go buy a house. The housing market here is insane, I had a job that paid in experience moreso than $$, and the place we were renting was cheaper than a mortgage. Plus what they gave us, while I still really appreciate it etc etc, was not really on the scale of the down payment you need in the city so we had our savings and that and needed to keep saving for 2 more years. You couldn't buy my car, old as it is, for what they gave us, let alone a house. I still don't think they get it.
Standard rant on any and all grandparents "claiming" our children. Ugh.. seriously, when I send an ultrasound picture of this little boy, I really really don't want to get back, "There's our boy!" .. no.. no. This is OUR boy.. my husband is "your" boy. ~flail~
Past that, my sister called me two days ago. I bit my tongue soo hard. She wanted to know how we could "afford" all these kids.. and I am pretty sure she called us stupid for trying. She also wanted me to know that she loves ALL my kids including this new one.. and I was welcome to send them to her house if I needed to because we couldn't afford them. She assured me that she was doing well financially at this point and they have great colleges there.
... umm.. yes. I'm going to help fix your empty nest syndrome when it comes to your well behaved children.. and add more fuel to the fire with your rebellious son by 'gifting' you my kids.
So, yeah, I'm stupid because we're okay with a large family and the sacrifices it takes to financially support them. I'm crazy for even trying this.. but, my kids are so nice to have around, that she'd gladly take them. ~facepalm~ I truely believe she means well.. she just fails at showing it in a respectful way.
Post by moutonrouge on Oct 31, 2016 11:45:28 GMT -5
This is a very light vent about my dad and stepmom.
My dad called me yesterday just to say hi. We had this exchange:
Dad: Oh, I meant to tell you. We still have the crib that you and DB used. Would you be interested in it? Me: Oh, I don't know - does it have drop sides? They don't recommend those anymore for safety reasons, so it would depend. Dad: Huh...I have no idea. I'll have to go check. Me: Okay, well let me know. You could always keep it at your house so the baby could sleep in it when we come visit, so we wouldn't have to bring a pack-n-play with us. Dad: True. I'll go look at it and see if the side drops. It's out in the shed by the tree line. Me: ::changes subject quickly::
This shed is out in the woods as far from their house as possible (they live on a farm, so this is the shed that holds the equipment they never use plus old window A/C units and crap like that). God only knows what is living in the shed right now, probably pooping all over this 30-year old crib. Not to mention the possible mold/mildew situation. Why on earth he would think I'd want that, or that he shouldn't lead with "want this crib that's been sitting in the woods for 20 years?" I'll never know. Hopefully he doesn't get bitten by a brown recluse while he's out there looking at it.
I also am 90% sure my mom had the crib and got rid of it when she moved 10 years ago. Maaaaaybe she gave it to dad...I doubt it. I think it is more likely that's someone else's sentimental baby crib out there in the woods right now. Possibly the original owners of the farm or something.
moutonrouge This is where I used the line/lie. Our pediatrician told us they are illegal. I had 3 people try and give us old cribs that "just need a little tlc" um what? No thanks.
I'm sure there's some way I can decline it on safety reasons. I was just SMH that he thought maybe this crib he is going to unearth from the shed in the woods would work out well for an infant, and that I'm pretty sure he's attaching some sentiment to a crib that is not mine.
moutonrouge This is where I used the line/lie. Our pediatrician told us they are illegal. I had 3 people try and give us old cribs that "just need a little tlc" um what? No thanks.
I'm sure there's some way I can decline it on safety reasons. I was just SMH that he thought maybe this crib he is going to unearth from the shed in the woods would work out well for an infant, and that I'm pretty sure he's attaching some sentiment to a crib that is not mine.
or can you say that you're going to buy a crib that converts so you can use it for many years? etc.
moutonrouge for some reason, you being gifted a random, used 30 year old crib has me giggling. Sorry for laughing at your rant, but it's cheering me up a bit!
Post by moutonrouge on Nov 1, 2016 19:39:22 GMT -5
glb30 I've been laughing over it since I hung up with him. If I'm right and its not mine, I will try my best to solve the mystery of whose crib it was.
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