In-law/family vent thread and bitchfest!

[obi]

I think this thread can go all week, rather than just on Monday's. Come in as needed. Share with the class.

Let us have it, ladies. Who is driving you up the wall this week? Who do we need to collectively throat punch through this series of tubes known as the interwebs?

I'm here for you. Time for some catharsis.

[kristhegirl]

@justinslovo escaping ridiculous family drama was an actual reason (among several) that I grew up in Alaska. It was pretty awesome, I'm not going to lie.

[glb30]

@justinslovo why are holidays such a pain in the ass?! Also, laughing about you throwing around money on a car vacuum. I actually think you and I might have the same mom. Like- I've had similar convos about the holidays, and our cleaning lady with my mom.

[Quinstar]

Usually I have something to bitch about when it comes to my MIL, but aside from her CONSTANT checking in with DH (Where are you, what are you doing, when are you going to get x,y,z done) she hasn't done anything horrifically annoying.

She did however rub me the wrong way when she said "Well I don't HAVE to invite you up when we have dinner while SIL is home." SIL comes home about once every few months, and we live literally two minutes away. Go ahead. Have dinner without us, because we don't exist when she's home. Oh, unless you need something.

Prompted by the fact that she asked DH to help work her cows, since DH is the only one there who can work the vaccine guns, and promised him she MIGHT make his favorite meal. Which she always promises, but hasn't made once in the last 3 years. Oh, except when SIL came to visit with her BF, MIL made DH's favorite meal and then sent aaallllll the leftovers home with SIL.

[obi]

Yikes @justinslovo. What a peach. Had no idea we had someone who was car detailing rich. Baller alert! /sarcasm font.

I hate family talking about money as if it is theirs. Or as if purchases outside the norm somehow mean you are irresponsible. Worry about ya own damn self!

[obi]

Sounds like your MIL has some serious control issues Quinstar. I think people like that may only recognize their own BS once they've pushed people away. Even then it doesnt always become clear, unfortunately.

[Deleted]

There's a lot of stuff that bothers me but this one in particular is becoming hurtful.

My family hates DS's name. I'm talking tells me a few times a month how much they hate it. For over an hour today my grandmother and SIL were suggesting names and telling me to "pick a good name, not something ridiculous" this time.

Is this normal behavior? Do people regularly pick apart the names of people? It happens to me so I can't really be surprised.

So yeah, I'm not going to tell them the name we picked.

[Deleted]

Oct 24, 2016 18:14:48 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

Oct 24, 2016 17:42:58 GMT -5 obi said:

Yikes @justinslovo. What a peach. Had no idea we had someone who was car detailing rich. Baller alert! /sarcasm font.

I hate family talking about money as if it is theirs. Or as if purchases outside the norm somehow mean you are irresponsible. Worry about ya own damn self!

You should have heard her when I told her we were going to Disney and how we have "been outsmarted and have become entwined in their evil trap" um... Okay thanks mom.

HuH? Was she trying to make a funny?

[Deleted]

Oct 24, 2016 18:33:02 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

@priss08 Wow, sorry they are being so crass.

Thanks. I was under the impression before I had kids that no one really cared what the sex was or what name ugh picked. Boy oh boy was I wrong. Like, people are getting really pissed that I won't tell them.

[kristhegirl]

@priss08 a pointed, "I do not care what you think of what I name my children. I am tired of hearing your opinions about it. I will not engage in these conversations anymore, and I suggest you all find a hobby" might be warranted, here. Seriously, who does that? I dunt care if you named your kid "napkin," that's your right. They need to mind their knitting.

[Quinstar]

@priss08, I'd start picking at their names to see how they liked it. That's absolutely horrible of them to keep saying that! +1 to telling them to mind their own business. You'd think after you've said 'we've picked one, that's it.' They'd let it go.

We're telling MIL a fake name. It's DH's and I's names smooshed together ridiculously. Everyone knows it's fake, but it drives her insane every time she asks and we respond with that.

[cosmicav]

Stay strong @priss08!! You have lovely name choices and the haters need to see themselves out.

That is ridiculous that they are still picking apart your already named child's name. It's too bad that they don't like it, but they need to get over it. Feel free to make fun of their names like: "Sharon? No-one-care-in what you have to say about my name choices."

[Deleted]

Oct 24, 2016 19:48:03 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

Oct 24, 2016 19:02:56 GMT -5 Quinstar said:

We're telling MIL a fake name. It's DH's and I's names smooshed together ridiculously. Everyone knows it's fake, but it drives her insane every time she asks and we respond with that.

This is fabulous.

Stealing this idea. The new baby will be Prisan.

[callmeKD]

Oct 24, 2016 20:00:05 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

Oct 24, 2016 19:48:03 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

This is fabulous.

Stealing this idea. The new baby will be Prisan.

Do it!!!

[Quinstar]

It's funny because MIL name is actually a combination of her mother's/father's name.

Darrell and Pauline made Dareline. Our fake name is much more ridiculous though.

[britab]

Oct 24, 2016 18:38:15 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

Oct 24, 2016 18:33:02 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

@priss08 Wow, sorry they are being so crass.

Thanks. I was under the impression before I had kids that no one really cared what the sex was or what name ugh picked. Boy oh boy was I wrong. Like, people are getting really pissed that I won't tell them.

My friend's in-laws were mad they were having a girl and not a boy. What?!?!?

[Deleted]

Oct 24, 2016 20:38:30 GMT -5 britab said:

Oct 24, 2016 18:38:15 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

Thanks. I was under the impression before I had kids that no one really cared what the sex was or what name ugh picked. Boy oh boy was I wrong. Like, people are getting really pissed that I won't tell them.

My friend's in-laws were mad they were having a girl and not a boy. What?!?!?

Ummmmm....

[amandamh2]

+1 to not believing they would pick apart an already named child's name @priss08. We don't share names until birth in an attempt to avoid input on names because generally people won't say anything after you've already settled on something- apparently your family missed the memo.
DH's cousin has picked kind of strange names for her kids but I would never say anything because 1)rude and 2) not my kid so my thoughts don't matter.

[amacbaby]

@priss08, that I crazy. A few people commented about one of our girl's names (Vienna) once she was born saying "I thought it was weird but it really fits her nicely" and I thought that was bad enough. I can't imagine if they kept on saying they thought it was bad, I would be legitimately PO.

I honestly love most of my in-laws, but my BIL is the most negative person I have ever met and really awkward and rude. My latest favorite is him telling my MIL that he "plans to be THE male role model for their kids, especially now that they are having a boy." UM NO. I think my kids' parents can decide what role models (male and female) we want for our children. I still get angry thinking about it.

[kristhegirl]

amacbaby oh, ick. No thank you to your version of "male role model," BIL. No thank you at all. What horrible presumption!

[Deleted]

amacbaby He sounds...special.

[mosdub]

amacbaby, My gut reaction when I read that was to make this face:



no thank you for the offer, BIL

[caer]

Hell no to that amacbaby. What a jerk!

[erinshelley21]

My only ridiculous family member was my gram and she passed away 2.5 years ago. When I told her the name we picked out for ds her first reaction was that it rhymed with the F word.

She also would point out that I was getting fat when I was pregnant. She weighed 350 lbs.

[ladytiffany24]

@justinslovo, I'm beginning to think that we might have the same mother.


I'll be back sometime soon to share some gems about my MIL.

[glb30]

@priss08 sorry you are dealing with that. I would definitely snap back.

britab what??? That is so weird. And not to mention hurtful!

[Deleted]

I have another one that irks me.

Same SIL is 8 months older than me and we went to high school together. She's married tiny brother that is 9 years older than me. They live in a new house and that's great. My brother has gotten a lot of promotions at work and they're doing well.

DH and I get compared to them all the time because our kids are the same age. When we decided to rent an apartment everyone was pushing us to just buy a house like my brothers. Especially my mom, who's a Realtor.

I feel this is an unfair comparison, considering DH and I are 25 and 26 and my brothers are in they're mid to late 30's. That and my brothers didn't purchase houses while still finishing degrees. Maybe I'm being sensitive IDK. Truthfully, I hope DH gets a job up north so we can settle there.

[Deleted]

I think a lot of the time they mean well. It's just a case of foot in mouth disease.

Like suggesting we break our lease and rent a house so we'll have a yard. But...breaking a lease is $$$ and I don't see anyone footing up cash! Lol

I mean, I'd love to move to a three bedroom apartment or house when the lease ends but...not while pregnant or with a days old newborn.

[Deleted]

Oct 25, 2016 6:35:43 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

My only ridiculous family member was my gram and she passed away 2.5 years ago. When I told her the name we picked out for ds her first reaction was that it rhymed with the F word.

She also would point out that I was getting fat when I was pregnant. She weighed 350 lbs.

Not going to lie, that would have sent me to tears. Really not cool of her.

[erinshelley21]

Oct 25, 2016 9:03:01 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

Oct 25, 2016 6:35:43 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

My only ridiculous family member was my gram and she passed away 2.5 years ago. When I told her the name we picked out for ds her first reaction was that it rhymed with the F word.

She also would point out that I was getting fat when I was pregnant. She weighed 350 lbs.

Not going to lie, that would have sent me to tears. Really not cool of her.

It would have made me cry had it not been the first time. She ALWAYS commented on my weight and other people's too. I think I told her she was being a bitch and we just moved on.