**3rd Tri Check-In 10/24/16**

[emilie]

Hi everyone, and welcome to the weekly 3rd Tri Check-In!

We will welcome ladies at 28 weeks until their LO(s) make their grand entrance!

New? Please TAG ME (emilie) if you would like to be added and include your EDD, team status, and how many beans are cooking. Not new? If you see anything that needs to be changed, let me know! For this week, let us know how many weeks you are, if you have any updates, and any upcoming appointments, etc. etc.

Congratulations on your new arrivals!
Martinis&Medicine welcomed Calv.in Jos.hua on October 15!
kaliRN welcomed Park.er Stan.ley on October 20!
Sha259 welcomed Bri.ghton Ell.iot on October 21!


November
goldenlove3 - 11/9 (boy)
artmusiclife - 11/10 (boy)

December
mrswillie - 12/3 (team green)
Becca - 12/6 (boy/girl twins)
Winnifred - 12/11 (girl)
lastnamewithheld - 12/17 (boy)
emilie - 12/25 (girl)
dream2be3 - 12/30 (twin boys)
angm123 12/31 (girl)

January
peaseblossom55 - 1/1 (girl)
somechica - 1/6 (girl)
roeni - 1/13 (girl)


QOTW: What's your sleeping situation for when LO(s) comes? Bassinet? Crib? Co-sleeping? Other?

[aprilz81]

emilie, can you please add me?

Due date: January 12
Having a girl
Singleton Pregnancy

I won't always be active and am having a difficult pregnancy but I would still like to participate (trigger warnings for birth defects and full story behind spoiler)

SPOILER: Click to show

{Trigger Warnings}I'm April, soon to be mother of A.va Gra.ce who is expected to pass shortly after birth. At 18 weeks during a regular Level II ultrasound we found a lot of abnormalities, Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia, hand deformities, overall small size and a two vessel umbilical cord. Initially they suspected Trisomy 18 but the results of the amnio and following microarray showed a genetically normal female. The current best case is that A.va has Cornelia de Lange Syndrome but we are waiting on another round of DNA testing in hopes of confirming the diagnosis.

Two weeks ago we had a fetal MRI done and the results were even worse than we thought. They could find no discernable lung tissue due to the Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia and they suspect A.va has less than half of her diaphragm. Her stomach, and parts of her spleen, intestines and liver are all in the chest cavity which has kept the lungs from growing normally and has pushed her heart over to the right side of her chest. They could see her diaphragm in the middle, but could not find anything on the right side and they suspect a large hole on the left side.

All of this means that she will probably not be a candidate for repair surgery and if she is there is a very, very low chance of her surviving. We have made the painful decision that due to the poor prognosis of surgery combined with the complications from the likely Cornelia de Lange Syndrome that we will only provide comfort care when she is born. We want her short time on earth to be in our arms and surrounded by family instead of being hooked to machines and transported to a different hospital.

[Becca]

Hi ladies! The twins decided to make an early arrival and we welcomed Benjamin Robert and Abigail Anne a few hours ago. I'll post more later this week when I'm more rested.

[sms2524]

Oct 24, 2016 14:49:15 GMT -5 aprilz81 said:

emilie, can you please add me?

Due date: January 12
Having a girl
Singleton Pregnancy

I won't always be active and am having a difficult pregnancy but I would still like to participate (trigger warnings for birth defects and full story behind spoiler)

SPOILER: Click to show

{Trigger Warnings}I'm April, soon to be mother of A.va Gra.ce who is expected to pass shortly after birth. At 18 weeks during a regular Level II ultrasound we found a lot of abnormalities, Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia, hand deformities, overall small size and a two vessel umbilical cord. Initially they suspected Trisomy 18 but the results of the amnio and following microarray showed a genetically normal female. The current best case is that A.va has Cornelia de Lange Syndrome but we are waiting on another round of DNA testing in hopes of confirming the diagnosis.

Two weeks ago we had a fetal MRI done and the results were even worse than we thought. They could find no discernable lung tissue due to the Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia and they suspect A.va has less than half of her diaphragm. Her stomach, and parts of her spleen, intestines and liver are all in the chest cavity which has kept the lungs from growing normally and has pushed her heart over to the right side of her chest. They could see her diaphragm in the middle, but could not find anything on the right side and they suspect a large hole on the left side.

All of this means that she will probably not be a candidate for repair surgery and if she is there is a very, very low chance of her surviving. We have made the painful decision that due to the poor prognosis of surgery combined with the complications from the likely Cornelia de Lange Syndrome that we will only provide comfort care when she is born. We want her short time on earth to be in our arms and surrounded by family instead of being hooked to machines and transported to a different hospital.

My heart breaks to see your update, I have been rooting for you and sweet baby girl. Please know that your family will continue to be in my prayers and I wish you all the strength to get through all this.

[goldenlove3]

Congratulations to the new babies!!

I'm 38 weeks tomorrow. Can't believe I'm at the top of the list and that he come at anytime now! Although we're ready for HIM, our house is still a disaster zone and I really wish the construction would be done before we brought him home. I'm trying to let go but I get upset every time I see it.

Everything else is pretty much ready. We met with another ped yesterday and decided that we liked them better than the first place. Car seat is installed. I have the hospital bag stuff ready, just need to pack it up. There's a couple final things to knock off the to do list but hopefully that will be done this week.

And I only have one more week of work left! So ready to be done here.


QOTW: We're still not 100% sure. We'll either use the PnP in our room for a few weeks or he'll start using his crib right away.

[goldenlove3]

aprilz81 I am so sorry about your baby girl. I don't even know what to say. Sending you my thoughts and prayers.

[Winnifred]

aprilz81, you've been in my thoughts over the last several months and I'm so incredibly sorry. You are doing the best things you can for your sweet baby girl. I'm glad to see you joining this check-in. Continued T&P for you and your family.

Becca, WHAT?! A few HOURS ago? Congratulations!! Hope everything is going well!

goldenlove3, woo hoo!! So excited for you! I can't imagine a house under construction during this time, but at least you feel good about the things you can control right now. Enjoy your last couple of weeks with an inside baby!!

[Winnifred]

I'm 33w2d today! I can't believe how sudden and impending labor/delivery/baby time feels, while still having several weeks left. We have plenty on our to-do list and I hope to get a few things tackled this weekend. I just don't have the energy on weeknights anymore.

We rearranged the nursery into kind of an unconventional layout, but I think it's going to work really well for us and makes decorating the walls much easier. So I'm really excited to actually be able to put things on the walls and perhaps start feeling like our nursery is ready. Everyone else I know who is due after me is already done with their nurseries and it's making me feel very very far behind... but I know that none of that really matters anyway!

I've been reading the Big Book of Birth and absolutely loving it so far! Otherwise, I'm starting to get nauseous after meals, uncomfortable for long car rides, and having pretty intense RPL in my groin every night.

QOTW: We are planning on using the pack and play, but we'll switch to the rock and play if she can't settle. I'm bummed about the new recommendations for baby rooming in for 6-12 months, I was really looking forward to getting the baby equipment out of our room after a couple of months.

[dream2be3]

Thanks for the check-in emilie!
Congrats to all the mama's with new outside squishes!
@becca I hope you and babies are doing well!
aprilz81 my thoughts continue to be with you and your family.

AFM, 30w5d. I have an OB appt this afternoon to see if my cervix is still thinning and funneling so I'm a little nervous that bedrest is in my future. There's still so much I want to get done. Plus my grandma's funeral is Thursday so that's not helping the stress levels.

QOTW: the plan is that the twinkies will sleep in their cribs, in their nursery, from the get-go.

[aprilz81]

Oct 25, 2016 8:05:39 GMT -5 Winnifred said:

QOTW: We are planning on using the pack and play, but we'll switch to the rock and play if she can't settle. I'm bummed about the new recommendations for baby rooming in for 6-12 months, I was really looking forward to getting the baby equipment out of our room after a couple of months.

The one article I read (which wasn't that helpful) just said that the new recommendations was 6-12 months but they didn't say WHY.  When my sister had her kids she said everyone (babies and parents) slept better when they were moved to their own rooms after they started sleeping through the night.  I think they were moved between 6-8 weeks if I remember correctly.  

Without the reasoning WHY I'm not sure how this would help prevent SIDS.  If the baby stops breathing while the parents are asleep they probably won't wake up fast enough to make a difference, but I could be completely wrong.

[Winnifred]

aprilz81, totally get what you mean. If I'm sleeping, how am I supposed to notice that my baby is not breathing? We're buying the angel care monitor that has a movement sensor to help. If anyone has any thoughts on the whole rooming-in situation, I'm all ears!

[roeni]

28w4d today.

QOTW-I will be doing a bassinet and baby will room with me for a year. It is so much easier to have baby right there for feedings. Sometimes I will take her in bed with me while she feeds and put her back once she is asleep again (I did this with our son). With our son I had him in my room for 12 months and rarely even used his nursery. Even when he was sleeping through the night early on it was just easier to have him next to me. He really only woke for feedings during growth spurts or during the 4 month sleep regression. Our time with them as littles is so short and I love having them near me Transition to crib at 12 months was a piece of cake.

[emilie]

sending hugs your way as always aprilz81. I've been following your updates and you guys are being so strong for the comfort of your little girl.

Becca congrats again, and what a surprise! hope you and the little ones are doing well!
goldenlove3 sounds like you guys are good to go. hope they can wrap up the construction soon!
Winnifred it's 6-12 months now? oy. I don't know if we'll make it that long.
dream2be3 good luck today. hope it's all good news.
roeni good to see you here!


I'm 31+2 and feeling pretty good this week! Crazy back pain has subsided (thank you for moving off that nerve, kid) and we had our shower this past weekend. Now it's just all about getting things organized and finishing the nursery. I'm also getting pretty into Hypnobabies to prep for labor, even though I am not hellbent on natural birth, I'd like to see how it goes.

QOTW: I'm not sure yet. Our house is quite small and the baby's room is right next to ours. We have a beautiful crib all set up. However, I might want her bedside when she's tiny. Who knows. I'm still trying to figure out whether to spend money on a bassinet. I might wait to see if there are any awesome Black Friday sales

[aprilz81]

Hey everyone!

Peaseblossom55 is having a c-section today (29 weeks and change I think) due to protein levels/bp issues. We have a thread going on Jan17 if anyone wants to stop by and and leave prayers, well wishes or comforting gifs.

[Winnifred]

aprilz81, thank you so much for letting us know! So many T&P's going her way!

[dancerspose]

Lurking aprilz81 thank you so much for passing along the info about peaseblossom. Also I am so sorry that your news did not get any better. I commend you for making such a difficult, courageous choice, and you and your family are always in my thoughts and prayers.

[tiresiastheblond]

**lurking**

aprilz81, I'm so very sorry to see this update. You, your husband, and A.va are in my thoughts.