I would have taken out less student loans and been more careful about my spending habits. And possibly changed my major. I feel like I'm wasting my degree right now and the money I'm spending every month towards my student loans.
I would go back to the start of college and change my major and course of study. I feel like I choose and "settled into" my major way too soon, and I don't think it was the best option for me. I'm a teacher now and not feeling very happy or fulfilled in my career. I wish I would have done something different with my life, and now I feel trapped with the career.
Never too late to make a career change! My friend has her masters in education but didnt like teaching after a few years and transitioned to another field (related to education), she is so much happier.
Thanks! I'm working on a change. I'm working on my master's to become a school counselor, where I think I'll be better suited. I might be taking some time off of work once the baby is born so I can focus on baby/school. We'll see how that goes.
Post by pinkbarebear on Feb 12, 2015 21:47:25 GMT -5
I would go back in time and skip this one night of partying so I wouldn't get into that car and wouldn't have broken my back. I feel like I've missed out on a lot of things because I'm not as mobile as others. In fact, I should have just partied less in general!
If I could go back in time I would not allow myself to date this one guy when I was 19. He was physically and mentally abusive, thankfully I walked away after the first occurrence of physical abuse. I never looked back and I was lucky enough that it didn't get any worse, but it changed my views on men and relationships by 100000%. He robbed my innocence and I have always been extremely cautious ever since.
There isn't anything that I would change. Of course my past isn't perfect but it got me here and none of it was too bad.
This. All of this.
I've made a lot of mistakes but I learned from those mistakes and they brought me to where I am today. I'm happy with my life right now and if I hadn't made the choices that I made along the way then I wouldn't be the person that I am. It's cheesy but it's true.
In retrospect, some decisions I made were less than stellar and some situations were kind of tough. But overall, I feel so incredibly fortunate and know that every little thing led me to who I am today and the life I have. So keep it movin' time machine, I am just fine over here.
Post by lgsdesigner on Feb 13, 2015 10:36:35 GMT -5
Okay-- I got it. I would have paid all of my bills on time every time from the ages of 18-22. I was a little financially reckless back then, and it took me years to get my credit back in check. I could have done a lot more with my life if I have better credit, at that time.
I finally thought of one. I wouldn't have spent so much time being a horrible bitch to my parents as a teenager. I know it's normal but they are/were really, really good parents and didn't deserve that. And now I realize that they won't be around forever so I wish I'd had more of the relationship that I have with them now, then.
Post by prater2011 on Feb 13, 2015 11:03:49 GMT -5
I don't think that I would change anything. I am where I am today for a reason. I'd like to say I would not have gotten into the relationship i was in before DH. He was controlling, abusive and manipulative as well as a cheat. But, would I have gotten involved with DH if I hadn't have been with the prior. I'm pretty happy where I ended up and have learned from all things from my past.
I would have educated myself on finances better. I wish I had never gotten a credit card without doing more research. It's not serious or huge, but it is debt that will take forever to pay off because now I don't have as much disposable income to throw at it. That really irks me.
I have made some really bad decisions in my life and have also been hurt by other's bad decisions, some experiences were not extremely significant and some experiences were real doozies. Each of these decisions, either made by me or not, led to consequences and pain.
Even though I would love to change some of the decisions I made and that were made for me, given the chance, I would not. Those experiences have taught me lessons in life I could not have learned any other way. I feel I am a better person today for having lived and learned...even if it was "the hard way."
Post by meandmylove on Feb 13, 2015 15:59:38 GMT -5
I don't really have any regrets. But these student loans are fucking over my life right now. And I didn't even finish my degree because in knew it was getting to be too much. I feel so stuck because of them right now and like I'm making my kids suffer because of them
I would have called my doctor or gone to labor and delivery in time to save DS1's life so I could have my three boys here with me.
It's not that I ignored warning signs I was aware of, but looking back there were some signs that something was wrong. Also I was high risk and wish I had asked for more monitoring even though, at the time, I didn't know to ask for it.
If I had gotten the same monitoring with DS1 that I did with DS2 and with this LO then he would be here.
Thank you for sharing - I'm so, so sorry for your loss, that's both heartbreaking and terrifying. I don't mean to thread jack, but would you mind sharing what made you think something was wrong?
petrichor, Thank you again for sharing. I hope that doesn't upset you or anyone that I asked, I was just thinking what subtle signs might warrant a call to the doctor. I really appreciate it - T&P to you!
Thank you for sharing - I'm so, so sorry for your loss, that's both heartbreaking and terrifying. I don't mean to thread jack, but would you mind sharing what made you think something was wrong?
I've debated if it is wise to share this with a bunch of pregnant women.
*****seriously - warning****
I want to reiterate that there were NO signs of distress that happened that I had been told about or ever read about that happened. It's just after the fact I realized some things had happened that COULD have been a sign.
We found out at our 38 week appointment that DS had died. After I delivered him we discovered that the cord was wrapped many, many times around his shoulders and neck.
The night before that 8:00 am appointment dh and I watched him moving like crazy via my belly. It was really extreme movement and I now believe he was fighting for his life in there. It's crazy because we're told to be concerned if there is no movement. Now when this LO has a particularly frantic series of movement I worry.
Also, for some time before that his movement felt like he was straining. At the time I didn't think it was abnormal - and maybe it's not. But I never felt it with DS2. I think the straining feeling was because he was so wrapped up.
He was breech and I used to do things to try to get him to flip. I regret that now because I think he was trying to flip and that's how he got so entangled. I have a separate uterus and he didn't have room and I should have him be.
I don't blame myself for his death because I honestly did not realize anything was wrong, but maybe if I had asked "is this straining/pulling feeling normal" my doctor may have checked it out in time.
I cry so many tears for you after reading this! I'm so so sorry this happened to you *hugs*
petrichor I don't know if you have heard this too many times from too many people but I'm so sorry for your loss and what you went through with your first son. The story was hard to read but I'm glad to know you better. *hugs*
Post by Cornflakegirl on Feb 13, 2015 23:03:31 GMT -5
petrichor I'm so very sorry for your loss! Thank you for sharing your story.
I am who I am today because of my choices. Each passing moment, whether positive, hurtful or painful has shaped me into the person I am now. Each person that has been in my life, has taught me a lesson, and has helped me in some way. Would I change anything? No, because I wouldn't be who I am today.
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