TTCAL 10.25.16

[jayhawk84]

Oct 25, 2016 18:32:31 GMT -5 @samrs22 said:

How are you doing? I had a good day


Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): TTA/Benched-ish


Diagnosis (if applicable): 1NMC 1CP


Updates/questions: WTH do you wear for western day when you own no flannel shirts?


Debbie downer (a place to vent): I think I need to take a break from donating blood, because I don't appreciate the pregnancy questions : /


QOTW: What's for dinner? Shepard's pie

I think a denim button down or even just a regular button down would work, especially if you've got a cowboy hat or cowboy boots.

[ironbaby]

How are you doing? Stressed

Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): TTC, IUI #4

Diagnosis (if applicable): CP, unexplained IF

Updates/questions: I had a less than stellar meeting with the RE about next steps, so I still don't know what I am doing next cycle.

Debbie downer (a place to vent): I am just so tired of doing all this and having my RE's clinic make a tough process even tougher.

QOTW: What's for dinner? Last night was fettucine alfredo leftovers. Blah.

[ironbaby]

@samrs22, I am glad you had a good day! Why do you need a western wear day?

[rosey06]

How are you doing? Super annoyed


Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): ttc


Diagnosis (if applicable): spontaneous miscarriage


Updates/questions: I'm currently on day 5 of either close to positive or positive OPKs. I'm so annoyed by this. Just release little egg! We've been hio everyday so we don't miss this but I just need a break today even if these things don't turn negative later. Every time I look at a new opk that turns dark I want to throw something.


Debbie downer (a place to vent): I was so excited when I started this months OPKs on sat and they were already dark. Racing the clock this cycle cause hubs has an oral procedure on Friday. But if I don't ovulate today or tomorrow, I guess our chances are slim this cycle.


QOTW: What's for dinner? He pulled out a steak so I think I'm doing pasta.. I'm not a steak eater.

[rangie]

rosey06, hope it happens soon so you can lay of the robot sex! ironbaby, hoping for a clear path for you soon. jayhawk84, oof. it is tough when you randomly get a reproductive inquiry you weren't expecting! My massage therapist asked yesterday if I wanted more babies- totally friendly, but it was a punch when I was trying to be there to relax. Nobody wants anything but a cheerful answer.

Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): TTC, cycle 2 after loss (or cycle one, last month was either a CP or a false positive FRER)

Diagnosis (if applicable): n/a

Updates/questions: Y'all have been so helpful in encouraging me to chill a bit, and I'm trying! LOL, type As need to endeavor to relax. So I'm not OPKing this month.

Debbie downer (a place to vent): I need space in my head for other things. Work is busy, home life is busy. I don't want to think about this any more.

QOTW: What's for dinner? Probably leftovers tonight!

[akraus2015]

ironbaby , I've been MIA lately, what happened with the RE meeting?

How are you doing? Pretty good I guess. I'm so busy with work lately that I can hardly see straight.

Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): TTC but kind of WTDS/NTNP. We're trying naturally but I'm not temping or tracking O...need a break this cycle.

Diagnosis (if applicable): MTHFR, RPL, Secondary IF

Updates/questions: None really. Just hanging out trying to save some money so we can do another round of IUI.

Debbie downer (a place to vent): I'm afraid we might completely miss our FW this cycle, even though I have no idea when I will O, or if I did already. We HIO'd on CD 12 & 13 but not CD 14 or 15. Today is CD 16. FF is showing my FW at CD 14-16. I'm going to be pissed if we missed it.  TMI:  

SPOILER: Click to show

I tried initiating sex last night and H didn't want to, literally for the first time I can remember in the entire 11 years I have known him.  I told him he didn't have a choice, but...apparently men are similar to women in that you can't force them to get off.  Damnit.  I know I shouldn't be annoyed, but I am.

QOTW: What's for dinner? Whatever is left in our fridge. We're going on vacation tomorrow, so there's not much left.

[MsG]

How are you doing?


So I'm very new to TCF, and am just seeing this thread for the first time. And it's kind of perfect because I'm having a rough day. I had a CP at 6 weeks in early September. AF came yesterday, which was both a relief (at least knowing my cycle was back post CP), but also a reminder that I'm not pregnant anymore. 


Status (TTA, TTC, Benched):
TTC




Diagnosis (if applicable):
PCOS, CP in Sept.




Updates/questions:





Debbie downer (a place to vent):

I'm feeling pretty down today for a couple of reasons. One, my best friend is pregnant. She was just two months ahead of me, so she's just at the point where she has a cute little pregnancy bump. And I love her and am so happy for her, but it is super hard to hear her talk about all the baby stuff every day. Especially because right now it's a lot of complaints about all the frustrating parts about pregnancy and child-bearing (insurance, childcare, fighting over crib selection with the husband, etc.). I want her to feel totally comfortable talking to me, but I'm also having a hard time listening to it right now.

To make matters worse, I have a work trip coming up this month, and I already know there is a strong possibility my O date will happen when I'm out of town. It really sucks to be on day 2 of my cycle and already know this month is likely a bust.




QOTW: What's for dinner?
Probably whatever takeout I feel like later tonight. Between my mood and wicked cramps, I don't think I'll be motivated to cook. 

[MsG]

Oct 26, 2016 8:26:02 GMT -5 rosey06 said:

How are you doing? Super annoyed


Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): ttc


Diagnosis (if applicable): spontaneous miscarriage


Updates/questions: I'm currently on day 5 of either close to positive or positive OPKs. I'm so annoyed by this. Just release little egg! We've been hio everyday so we don't miss this but I just need a break today even if these things don't turn negative later. Every time I look at a new opk that turns dark I want to throw something.


Debbie downer (a place to vent): I was so excited when I started this months OPKs on sat and they were already dark. Racing the clock this cycle cause hubs has an oral procedure on Friday. But if I don't ovulate today or tomorrow, I guess our chances are slim this cycle.


QOTW: What's for dinner? He pulled out a steak so I think I'm doing pasta.. I'm not a steak eater.

Ugh that is so frustrating. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that you get a full positive before it's too late!

[akraus2015]

MsG, so sorry to see you here, but welcome. The TTCAL girls are amazing and get me through every single week. Fingers crossed your stay here is very short.

[MsG]

Oct 26, 2016 12:17:10 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

MsG , so sorry to see you here, but welcome. The TTCAL girls are amazing and get me through every single week. Fingers crossed your stay here is very short.

Thank you! I've been ttc for about 6 months, so I'm hoping it's not too many more months. And my fingers are crossed that you're not here too much longer! 


Your pup is absolutely adorable by the way.

[akraus2015]

Oct 26, 2016 12:23:53 GMT -5 MsG said:

Oct 26, 2016 12:17:10 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

MsG , so sorry to see you here, but welcome. The TTCAL girls are amazing and get me through every single week. Fingers crossed your stay here is very short.

Thank you! I've been ttc for about 6 months, so I'm hoping it's not too many more months. And my fingers are crossed that you're not here too much longer! 


Your pup is absolutely adorable by the way.

I've been here (TTCAL for over a year) so I'm kind of like a piece of furniture at this point.

And thank you!  His name is LouDog and he's the greatest!!  Yours are cute, too!

[MsG]

Oct 26, 2016 12:28:18 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Oct 26, 2016 12:23:53 GMT -5 MsG said:

Thank you! I've been ttc for about 6 months, so I'm hoping it's not too many more months. And my fingers are crossed that you're not here too much longer! 


Your pup is absolutely adorable by the way.

I've been here (TTCAL for over a year) so I'm kind of like a piece of furniture at this point.

And thank you!  His name is LouDog and he's the greatest!!  Yours are cute, too!

I'm going nuts after just the 6 months! I am so impressed by your strength, but sorry you're going through this. I was actually introduced to this site by my sister though who was a staple for over a year as well. Every time I see a pregnant teenager or someone who accidentally got pregnant, I just wonder why the hell it's so easy for some and hard for others. 

And my pups are Berkley and Bailey. They're some of my favorite "people." 

[ironbaby]

MsG, Welcome! I am sorry for your loss. Just as an FYI, in this check-in, please put an *OPP Trigger Warning* (meaning Other Person's Pregnancy) when discussing pregnancy, as it can be triggering for some. This is not necessary on the GKU board in general, but is a considerate thing to do in this check-in.

[ironbaby]

akraus2015, I bitched about the RE consult over on 3T, but basically, the timing info that the RE gave me totally conflicts the timing info the financial counselor told me, and we have to wait another month before actively cycling with IVF. It was frustrating to be misled, and now that I have actual accurate info, I am just disappointed.

[rosey06]

Oct 26, 2016 11:55:02 GMT -5 MsG said:

Oct 26, 2016 8:26:02 GMT -5 rosey06 said:

How are you doing? Super annoyed


Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): ttc


Diagnosis (if applicable): spontaneous miscarriage


Updates/questions: I'm currently on day 5 of either close to positive or positive OPKs. I'm so annoyed by this. Just release little egg! We've been hio everyday so we don't miss this but I just need a break today even if these things don't turn negative later. Every time I look at a new opk that turns dark I want to throw something.


Debbie downer (a place to vent): I was so excited when I started this months OPKs on sat and they were already dark. Racing the clock this cycle cause hubs has an oral procedure on Friday. But if I don't ovulate today or tomorrow, I guess our chances are slim this cycle.


QOTW: What's for dinner? He pulled out a steak so I think I'm doing pasta.. I'm not a steak eater.

Ugh that is so frustrating. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that you get a full positive before it's too late!

Thank you! Sadly I have had atleast one definite positive a day, then it goes to just a tiiiny smudge lighter. Then repeat. I feel like they're never ending and they'll never go negative.

[MsG]

Oct 26, 2016 14:22:00 GMT -5 rosey06 said:

Oct 26, 2016 11:55:02 GMT -5 MsG said:

Ugh that is so frustrating. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that you get a full positive before it's too late!

Thank you! Sadly I have had atleast one definite positive a day, then it goes to just a tiiiny smudge lighter. Then repeat. I feel like they're never ending and they'll never go negative.

That sounds terrible. I get false positives too sometimes, I think due to the fact that I have PCOS and get surges without ovulation. And my cycles are all over the map, but I think I kind of have started getting a handle on it all. Of course every time I start to think that, the next cycle throws me off again.

Do you temp at all? I've gotten the advice to do that and tried, but I wake up a lot during the night, so my temperature was all over the map, even if I tried to take it right when I woke up. It didn't work for me at all.

[akraus2015]

Oct 26, 2016 13:49:54 GMT -5 ironbaby said:

akraus2015 , I bitched about the RE consult over on 3T, but basically, the timing info that the RE gave me totally conflicts the timing info the financial counselor told me, and we have to wait another month before actively cycling with IVF. It was frustrating to be misled, and now that I have actual accurate info, I am just disappointed.

I'm sorry girl.  Seems like there's so much back and forth with this stuff, and so many differing opinions/suggestions.

[rosey06]

Oct 26, 2016 14:39:48 GMT -5 MsG said:

Oct 26, 2016 14:22:00 GMT -5 rosey06 said:

Thank you! Sadly I have had atleast one definite positive a day, then it goes to just a tiiiny smudge lighter. Then repeat. I feel like they're never ending and they'll never go negative.

That sounds terrible. I get false positives too sometimes, I think due to the fact that I have PCOS and get surges without ovulation. And my cycles are all over the map, but I think I kind of have started getting a handle on it all. Of course every time I start to think that, the next cycle throws me off again.

Do you temp at all? I've gotten the advice to do that and tried, but I wake up a lot during the night, so my temperature was all over the map, even if I tried to take it right when I woke up. It didn't work for me at all.

That's good you're kind of understanding your cycles. Even if they change each time, you might be able to predict alittle something.

Yup, I temp also. That usually goes semi smoothly for me. Except most of my temps from last week had to be discharged cause I was so sick. But comparing my temps to past cycles, i can tell it hasn't spiked yet.

Everything online says so many pos OPKs could be pcos. But I have a good year and a half of following my cycles under my belt and I've always been mostly regular. No issues. And just had 2 ultrasounds done beginning of sept with my miscarriage, figure they would have seen something if something is starting up like that? Unless that's not something that just starts up? I should do research.

[akraus2015]

Oct 26, 2016 17:39:04 GMT -5 @samrs22 said:

ironbaby, it's just for fun at work, it was a fail though since I don't have the accessories people didn't think I participated with my flower button down .. sigh 😔 I'm sorry for the screw up with your RE office

rosey06 sorry your OPk's are so annoying

MsG, your post reminds me of my experience, but my friendship didn't last. If you want to keep being friends with this person I suggest sending some reading material there way so they can stop triggering you with out you having to say it

akraus2015, heeeey your my favorite furniture

Yaaas! That needs to be a GKU award next year.

[akraus2015]

Sooo...day 2 of FW and H is too tired for sex, again. This has literally never happened in the 11 years I have known him.

Maybe I should count it as a blessing and just relax on vacation these next few days, but I'm really frustrated. It's like I'm watching the months just fly by...

[jayhawk84]

How are you doing? okay


Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): TTC


Updates/questions: nothing new for me, just trying to get through this 2WW with my sanity intact


Debbie downer (a place to vent): I'm feeling pretty out for this cycle and it is really bumming me out. I had some hope yesterday but I think I was reading the wondfo strip incorrectly and after much googling I definitely had a BFN, which was confirmed with a digital today. Now I'm just mad at myself for wasting a pricey test when I didn't even have a positive wondfo in the first place.


QOTW: What's for dinner? Chipotle leftovers

[jayhawk84]

eameselephant , I'm sorry to hear about your mom, I'm sure that is very stressful for both you and her.

I've had the same question about testing early, since my progesterone was super low with my loss as well.

[jayhawk84]

Ugh, just talked to H about my BFN and told him I was disappointed. His response was basically that I just need to relax and enjoy the process and that it'll happen when it's supposed to happen. So. Not. Helpful.

[akraus2015]

Oct 27, 2016 8:15:21 GMT -5 jayhawk84 said:

Ugh, just talked to H about my BFN and told him I was disappointed. His response was basically that I just need to relax and enjoy the process and that it'll happen when it's supposed to happen. So. Not. Helpful.

I'm so sorry girl.  It's so hard when husbands aren't on the same page as we are.  This sounds exactly like something MH would say to me.

[rangie]

jayhawk84, yargh. Mine always says with a dumb grin "we'll just have to try harder" ugh . sorry for the BFN.

[akraus2015]

Oct 27, 2016 11:15:09 GMT -5 rangie said:

jayhawk84 , yargh. Mine always says with a dumb grin "we'll just have to try harder" ugh . sorry for the BFN.

I hate when my husband says this.  I know he's trying to be funny, but do not tell me that we don't have a baby because I didn't try hard enough.

[MsG]

Oct 26, 2016 16:34:33 GMT -5 rosey06 said:

Oct 26, 2016 14:39:48 GMT -5 MsG said:

That's good you're kind of understanding your cycles. Even if they change each time, you might be able to predict alittle something.

Yup, I temp also. That usually goes semi smoothly for me. Except most of my temps from last week had to be discharged cause I was so sick. But comparing my temps to past cycles, i can tell it hasn't spiked yet.

Everything online says so many pos OPKs could be pcos. But I have a good year and a half of following my cycles under my belt and I've always been mostly regular. No issues. And just had 2 ultrasounds done beginning of sept with my miscarriage, figure they would have seen something if something is starting up like that? Unless that's not something that just starts up? I should do research.

I am not sure if it is something that just starts up or not, but I would think it would have shown up on your ultrasounds if you had it. I have always had very irregular cycles (as in I've gone  6+ months without a period), which is what prompted my doctor to consider pcos. But the way they diagnosed me was with an ultrasound which showed the cysts on my ovaries. 

Not that I'm an expert on pcos, and there is so much conflicting information out there, but my understanding from my doctor at the time was that if you have pcos, you would definitely have cysts on your ovaries. I'd definitely ask your doctor about it though just in case. Maybe if they weren't looking at your ovaries specifically, they could've missed it. Or perhaps there is another issue going on causing false spikes.

And this whole TTC thing is already frustrating enough without having all the false positives!

[MsG]

Oct 26, 2016 13:48:32 GMT -5 ironbaby said:

MsG , Welcome! I am sorry for your loss. Just as an FYI, in this check-in, please put an *OPP Trigger Warning* (meaning Other Person's Pregnancy) when discussing pregnancy, as it can be triggering for some. This is not necessary on the GKU board in general, but is a considerate thing to do in this check-in.

Thanks! I'll make sure I do that next time. There are so many rules and acronyms, I guess I'm not doing the best job keeping up with them all yet.

[MsG]

OPP trigger warning


@samrs22 Thanks. That's good advice. I definitely want to continue being friends with her, and was mostly just trying to stuff my feelings down. Which blew up on me a little the other day when she was complaining about insurance stuff, and I made some snarky comment along the lines of "Well at least you're pregnant." Not the worst thing I probably could've said, but not very productive either.

[MsG]

@samrs22 I really hope I've never said any of the rather insensitive things I'm reading in these articles I just googled! I don't think I have, but as you say, you don't know until you've gone through it. Gosh, now I'm cringing.