I'm all messed up too but it's because I took Monday off. That and a lack of sleep. These World Series games are majorly cutting into my sleep!
With all that said, i still believe...Go Tribe!
It's ok. Tonight is Kluber and Francona was smart and didn't burn thru our good closers last night. That said...I gave up and went to bed in the 6th haha. My boyfriend Kipnis is the only one that had his shit together last night. I was pissed that they didn't pull Naquin after the first inning cluster.
I'm all messed up too but it's because I took Monday off. That and a lack of sleep. These World Series games are majorly cutting into my sleep!
With all that said, i still believe...Go Tribe!
It's ok. Tonight is Kluber and Francona was smart and didn't burn thru our good closers last night. That said...I gave up and went to bed in the 6th haha. My boyfriend Kipnis is the only one that had his shit together last night. I was pissed that they didn't pull Naquin after the first inning cluster.
Yea, I'm definitely happy to have Kluber and our strongest bullpen guys still available. We just need to get our bats moving (other than your boyfriend Kipnis who is doing just fine). Oh, and don't even get me started on Naquin. He better not be starting tonight. #InTitoWeTrust
**TW - loss mentioned** my BFF had FET a few weeks after i found out i was pregnant with DD. she initially got a positive, but it was a CP. i had no idea how to handle it and i still have regrets about it now. i ended up waiting until i was almost 16 weeks to tell her (we were going to see them in the next couple of weeks and i couldn't hide it), and wrote her a letter because i didn't want her to feel pressure to react positively. i think she ended up being more hurt that i didn't tell her right away, but really there is no good way to handle that kind of situation.
happy ending - she got pregnant with their next FET and now has 16 month old healthy twin boys!
agm04, yea, in hindsight, we should have told them sooner but I have been dealing with my own anxiety about whether the pregnancy was progressing normally and was waiting until our appointment next week to tell them. We definitely would have told them if we had known their timing but I'm sure they had their reasons for not telling us. We are definitely going to tell them soon after my appointment, when I'll be 11 weeks. I just feel like it's such terrible timing. Ugh.
I'm glad to hear your friend was able to get pregnant soon after. I really hope that ours will have success if they decide to try another cycle.
PirateCat i totally get that - i felt the same way. i was so nervous and the last thing i wanted was to drag her into our heartbreak if something bad were to happen. i'll be thinking about your friends and hoping for the best.
PirateCat, as someone who was stuck in the repeat failed cycle/loss world of IF for a while, I can tell you that I much preferred to find out via text or letter. Just not face to face, and not as part of a big exciting pregnancy announcement.
You can only do so much to protect people, though, and it's really the thought that counts. Oh and just letting them know that you don't expect them to be excited for you or want the details. Sometimes that can open up a broader conversation and let them decide how they want to react. That's all I've got!
I know you didn't ask for advice, but I'm being bossy and giving it anyway
Winnifred, I really appreciate the advice. And I have heard that from a lot of people, to give them time to process it in private. They have been incredibly strong through all of this, but I know that it is much more difficult than they let on and beyond what I can imagine. I sent her an email this morning to see how she was doing and just to let her know that we're thinking of them. I want to be delicate and honest with them but I know that it'll be hard no matter what. It just sucks so much for them and I so wish things were different.
PirateCat, it sounds like you really have their best interest at heart, which makes all the difference! On behalf of my fellow infertiles, thanks for doing what you can to soften the blow. It's a weird place to be happy for your friends but insanely jealous and ragey at the same time! I'm sure you'll find the right way to communicate!
For fellow Harry Potter fans: If you have an Android phone, you can use three voice command "spells". "Lumos" will turn on the flashlight. "Nox" turns it off. "Silencio" turns off your phone volume. I tried it and they work! Fun!
Post by thelittleredm on Nov 2, 2016 12:35:07 GMT -5
I'm sorry you're in that position PirateCat. It can't be easy. Glad there are some posters here who can give you a little guidance, though!
I'm just freaking out a little that I'm down to 10 weeks. I'm completely unprepared to bring a newborn into my house and all the financial constraints we'll be under during my maternity leave. Ugh.
Post by silvermelody on Nov 2, 2016 14:25:18 GMT -5
PirateCat having been on the infertility roller coaster I think you're handling things just fine. You don't owe them an announcement before you are ready to announce (whatever your reasons are). I think it is very sweet that you are concerned about how to tell them and I agree that not telling them face-to-face is best, and also acknowledge in the message that you understand it might be hard for them to hear the news.
What I hated the most were the random pee stick posts popping up in my facebook, especially ones where they mention they weren't even trying
I got my TDAP yesterday and my arm is so freaking sore. I remember this from being pregnant with DS but it still sucks. On a positive note, my belly check went well yesterday: measuring on-track, good heart rate, didn't mention my weight.
Work is much less crazy today but I have a few things I should get caught up on.
Thanks everyone for your advice and good thoughts for our friends. I really hope that they take the news well and that we can soon celebrate a successful pregnancy for them. I have learned so much hanging out on GKU and I am glad that I can be more sensitive and supportive.
So while my H was out of town last week, I went to the store and suddenly had the urge to buy chocolate eclairs. Except they only had packages of four and I only had one night to eat them before H came home. I managed to eat one as soon as I got home, then another before bed, then I thought I might eat another in the morning, and maybe just toss the last one before H came home. I don't know why I felt like I needed to hide it but I did. Then I forgot all about them and when H asked about them:
Me: They made me buy them. H: I hate when they do that. Was it the midwife? Me: No, the grocery store. H: I'm sorry that happened to you.
And that was the end of it. Now I still have two left in the fridge and no desire to eat them.
For fellow Harry Potter fans: If you have an Android phone, you can use three voice command "spells". "Lumos" will turn on the flashlight. "Nox" turns it off. "Silencio" turns off your phone volume. I tried it and they work! Fun!
PirateCat, good luck. All of this sounds like great advice, and it's really great that you're being so sensitive about it. I hope they have success soon.
H is greatly entertained by the random things I've been requesting/buying so far.
For fellow Harry Potter fans: If you have an Android phone, you can use three voice command "spells". "Lumos" will turn on the flashlight. "Nox" turns it off. "Silencio" turns off your phone volume. I tried it and they work! Fun!
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