To share or not to share...

[housecarder]

So H and I have begun discussing buying/building a house. We currently rent a 3 bedroom house, and DS and DD1 share a room and the girls have a shared nursery. We want to have one major house and not have to upgrade down the road. So obviously DD1 and DS would have their own rooms, but then I wonder about the twins. Should we go for a 5 bedroom and utilize the room for something else while they are young and want to share a room? Or should I just do 4 bedrooms? Also consider that DD1 will be at her dad's 1/2 the time so her room can already double as a guest room.

Do your older twins share a room? Will they continue to do so? Why or why not?

[babys2015]

Our twins are 20 months and I'm 13 weeks pregnant. We're house hunting right now, as we only have a 3 bedroom and one is used as H's office since he works from home.

We're looking for a 4 bedroom (all upstairs, so boys can have their own rooms) and a main floor office.

[nomnom]

Our plan so far is to have twins share rooms until they're maybe early elementary school. Then we may shuffle kids so they share by gender. Kind of a special case, though, with lots of kids close together.

[mustloveerica]

We have a four bedroom house with one room functioning as an office. We will always need this office so really we have 3 bedrooms. Right now the plan is to have more kids after the twins so someone will have to share no matter what. The twins will share until they are older and then we will either separate them by gender or have them continue to share if same gender.

Im one of 6 girls so I obviously shared a room as a kid and had no problem with it. My parents built my sister and I a huge bookcase that divided our two sides of the room when we were teenagers which made things much nicer.

[anakah]

My b/g twins shared a room or the first three years. Then we moved DD to her own room and now the boys share a room. It works for now since they are really only in their rooms to sleep. Ideally when we build our forever home we will be looking at the kids having their own rooms.

Anecdote: my sister and I shared a room until I was in high school (she's three years younger). We got along so much better after we had our own rooms. We were still always in each other's room but I think having the option to retreat to our own space made a big difference.

[schmella]

I think your lifestyle will play a big part in this. MH had a futon, tv, etc in his bedroom growing up- it doubled as his play space and homework area- all three kids had their own mini apartments. I shared a bedroom with my sister growing up and it was reserved for sleeping and storing toys but we did everything in the family room. It's nbd to share a room when you're just sleeping in it.
That said, my sister had some medical issues in high school that made it impossible for us to share a room. One of us slept in the family room for a few years, which is inconvenient at best.
I'm a firm believer in sharing rooms (MH was so inconsiderate when we moved in together- he had never shared a space) but I think you need a larger family space to make it work

[dke2010]

Our twins share a room right now and DD1 has her own room. Once the babies are older, we're considering having all three girls in the same room and make the other bedroom into a playroom. We only have 3 bedrooms, but some day we hope to build a house. I doubt we'll give each girl her own room. I just don't feel like it's necessary.