At this point I am always hungry I wish I was craving healthier food.
I'm having to really think about what I'm eating
I know. I was getting back into yogurt but now that isn't appealing. I'm waiting to feel that pt were baby is so big that eating becomes uncomfortable. Maybe that'll slow my roll.
I'm trying to keep it together at work and told myself I shouldn't listen to her concession speech live but I can't help myself. My new team is going to think I'm insane. They don't know I'm pregnant so I can't explain the emotional madness.
mustloveerica aw so cute. Are you team green until the end? W maybe they showed up looking for the troublemakers who lived there before?
No it's killing me to not know the genders today haha. we are having a sex reveal party this Saturday so there is a top secret envelope that is torturing me until then. I was trying to guess thru the entire scan. But everything looks like a penis to the untrained eye.
I'm so angry at the US as a whole. She won the popular vote (as of now) but lost the damn electoral college. I have no idea how to explain this to DS1 (luckily, he's too young right now to get it). How do we explain to him and DS2 that it is NOT okay to be misogynistic, racist, or homophobic when our country just elected a leader that is all those things?
hpnegirl - I'm right there with you on the disappointment. There is a thread on Parenting about talking about it with your kids. I've seen some good thoughts shared there.
Any important questions I should ask at my first appointment tomorrow? Anything that can't wait until the next appointment? I don't want to bombard the midwife with questions about birthing or anything too far out to really be applicable.
Any important questions I should ask at my first appointment tomorrow? Anything that can't wait until the next appointment? I don't want to bombard the midwife with questions about birthing or anything too far out to really be applicable.
I'd just ask whatever is on your mind. No use stewing over it if you don't need to! Plus, I'm really awful at remembering my questions so I always kick myself after an appointment because I forgot something.
Any important questions I should ask at my first appointment tomorrow? Anything that can't wait until the next appointment? I don't want to bombard the midwife with questions about birthing or anything too far out to really be applicable.
Write down your questions btw appointments that way you remember when you actually get there.
Any important questions I should ask at my first appointment tomorrow? Anything that can't wait until the next appointment? I don't want to bombard the midwife with questions about birthing or anything too far out to really be applicable.
They gave me a huge binder of info organized by trimester at my first appointment. So I ended up not asking any questions at that one so I could go home and flip thru the binder first. But if you'd like some starter questions medications, food, exercise and whether you need any other restrictions for work or whatever would be good first tri questions. Personally I don't think it's worth starting to talk about or make a birth plan this early. First tri is really all about the life changes you need to make for the next 8 months so I'd start with asking about those things.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Nov 9, 2016 14:29:42 GMT -5
I'm here. Pretty much been moping around most of the day. Last night was rough and so was this morning. I'm sad and heartbroken. I just know that I'll be raising my baby girl and my unborn baby to be the most accepting beautiful people EVER. That's all I feel like I can really do at this point.
mustloveerica - Thanks! Those are the type of questions I had on my mind to bring up.
One question I'll be asking is how to manage weight gain since I'm starting this pregnancy already overweight. Has anyone else been in this situation? What were you advised and what worked for you?
mustloveerica - Thanks! Those are the type of questions I had on my mind to bring up.
One question I'll be asking is how to manage weight gain since I'm starting this pregnancy already overweight. Has anyone else been in this situation? What were you advised and what worked for you?
I started this pregnancy overweight by quite a bit. My midwife assured me weight gain was still acceptable and normal, just had to be more aware of my diet and exercise levels. I've done much better about weight gain this time around so I've been pretty pleased. In fact, keeping in my weight gain range has been much easier this time around.
mustloveerica - Thanks! Those are the type of questions I had on my mind to bring up.
One question I'll be asking is how to manage weight gain since I'm starting this pregnancy already overweight. Has anyone else been in this situation? What were you advised and what worked for you?
Ok so I'm EXTREMELY concerned about weight gain. See prior thread about weight. For a twin pregnancy my midwife wanted me to gain 20 pounds by 20 weeks. And per the BMI scale (which I already think is BS) I started out just slightly in the overweight range. I won't quite hit the 20 pound mark but I'll be close. At my appt today I almost cried on the scale. But I've been making a huge effort to eat better (less sweet, less eating out, more water, more protein). So I feel like I gaining good weight instead of bad. Your doctor should be able to give you a range and a rate at which they want you to gain. But even then it's still a mental hurdle.
thelittleredm & mustloveerica - I totally expect to gain weight (it's healthy and normal and needed for baby's development). Depending on what day it is and if I'm weighed with clothes on or not, I'm either in the BMI range for only 11-20 pounds gained or 15-25 pounds. I'm concerned because I haven't done a good job of losing the extra weight. Knowing I have to eat well for the baby is a huge motivator, but you can still eat too many calories worth of healthy food.
I'm planning to ask the midwife if I should be watching my calorie count (and what that should be) along with eating healthy foods and keeping up the exercise. I just know I will stress about it unless I have a clear plan to follow.
Post by mustloveerica on Nov 9, 2016 14:54:15 GMT -5
marshian all midwives are different but mine really isn't concerned about my weight at all. She only talks about it in response to when I bring it up. They gave me a list of healthy foods and I really just try to eat when I'm hungry (even if it seems like too many snacks) and eat something healthy. Hard boiled eggs are my crack right now. But I think midwives probably don't focus on weight as much as OBs. But she should still be able to advise you on a good range and how fast she wants you to gain.
Post by thelittleredm on Nov 9, 2016 15:00:12 GMT -5
marshian, Definitely seek her opinion; that's why she's there! I'd say you can overdo your calorie count, sure, but at least it's doing you some good if the food is healthy for you (aka loading up on veggies and some fruits or even slices of deli meat) because it's making sure your baby has what they need. Exercise is my biggest problem area. I'm so tired after work, I hate the thought of doing more work but it's definitely the biggest difference between this pregnancy and last and I give it full credit for keeping the weight from piling on. Side note: I'm only supposed to gain 15-20lb this time around and have put on about 15lbs. It sucks, but my MW has assured me since everything else is nice and healthy about this pregnancy, she thinks I'm just genetically disposed to putting on a lot of weight during pregnancy and there's only so much I'll be able to keep off. She's actually really happy with where I am.
mustloveerica & thelittleredm - Thank you for your thoughts. At the moment in the middle of first-tri, I haven't been eating all that well because many foods just aren't palatable, so I'm sure this is adding to my anxiety. Hopefully that ends soon and I can focus on eating all the good things!
mustloveerica, those are fabulous US pics! I'm so excited for you for your reveal--please come back and let us know the results!
I came home at lunch time to nap and figured I'd WFH for the afternoon, but now my laptop is mysteriously missing, and I can't really leave my room since DS is downstairs with the nanny and I don't want him to know I'm home haha! SoI *guess* I'll play online instead. Although the Internet is kind of depressing today.
My story: I started off with DS at a healthy weight and gained 40 lbs. I had a healthy diet pre-pregnancy and largely continued with it, though I definitely let it slip with "cheat" foods because I loved the feeling of not worrying about weight gain for the first time ever in my life.
I lost all 40 lbs by 11 weeks PP, but then didn't really ever get back on track so gained about half of it back over his first year. I had gotten serious and lost about 10 lbs earlier this year before finding out I was KU again. So this time I was starting out overweight. My only goal for myself was to try to gain less than 40 this time by making better choices. I am now 38+ weeks and have gained 33 lbs. total.
I'm at the highest weight I have ever been ATM, but in like 2 weeks that will change dramatically. I'm healthy and baby is healthy and that's all that matters.
The point: I have never in two pregnancies had anyone comment on my weight or give me a range I should gain in. I think it's perfectly fine to ask! But I would recommend against worrying too much about calorie tracking and focus on eating when you feel hungry, because more than ever this is the time when you should listen to your body on that front.
Just focus on making good choices for the majority of what you eat and don't sweat the other stuff. Pregnancy is long and hard enough without having extra crap to worry about, imo.
Thank you for sharing your experience, dashook! I really appreciate it. I tend to be a more anxious person in general so I know I need to just chill on almost all things related to this pregnancy.
mustloveerica & thelittleredm - Thank you for your thoughts. At the moment in the middle of first-tri, I haven't been eating all that well because many foods just aren't palatable, so I'm sure this is adding to my anxiety. Hopefully that ends soon and I can focus on eating all the good things!
I've had multiple people tell me that first tri is about survival. You get what you can in your stomach and you make it through.
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