Just the big ones. Birth and Breastfeeding. Although the midwife told me when we met that I had great nipples... so I have that going for me.
Great nipples!? Awesome - what are the qualifications for this title??
Literally no idea. It was me and my husband in the room and she's checking out my vag and uterus and then gets up to my boobs and goes "perfect, you have great nipples for breastfeeding" and this was at my 8 week check up so it was then that I had the stark moment of clarity that everything would be very different now.
I'm majorly afraid of both of these things... I feel like if I get the epidural I'll get pushed into c-section, pitocin, episiotomy. The thought of not getting to hold baby because I'm still out of it from surgery is frightening.
Also afraid of it taking a long time as one of my friends just had a 36 hour labor.
... and NOW I'm totally afraid of pooping.
I get you! I rather have a long labor than a c/s or epi though.
Post by kristina730 on Feb 17, 2015 9:21:28 GMT -5
After reading these threads I share so many fears... but I mostly fear something terrible happening to LO. I fear early labor (I have no reason to think he might come early, but I fear it), tangled cords, blood loss, oxygen loss, etc. I fear the worst case scenario. Any time I have a lot of discharge I fear that I have ruptured, etc.
I have trouble seeing positive outcomes sometimes because of things that have happened in the past and HAVE had the worst possible outcome. The last few years have had a handful of pretty traumatic events- I was very near to the bombings at the Boston Marathon- running in the marathon, in addition to tragic/traumatic deaths in the family, etc... so I know that bad things DO happen.
I'm afraid I will always favor DD, even if it's only slightly. I already love DS so much, but DD has been my sidekick for so long and made me a mom. What if I treat her better or differently without even noticing? Adding to this fear is the fact that DS will have both his mom and dad all the time. DD never got that, it's always just been me. I'm afraid I will compensate for that guilt by letting her get away with more or treating her better.
I'm also afraid something will happen to me and DD will be sent to her dad, who she barely knows. Her entire world would be flipped upside down.
And I'm afraid that SO will favor DS because he is his baby and DD isn't. He treats her so great and has always accepted her, but how will it be when he has his "real" baby? This adds into my fear of treating DD better to make up for other things.
I have a stepdaughter whom I think is the most amazing little girl in the world. She is 11 (my SO is 10 years older than me) and the fact that she has become not just my stepdaughter but now my daughter's big sister, makes me love her even more. Just a different perspective it's normal to worry!
I'm also afraid I will love my dogs less. And the boys have been my only loves for a long time and we've been through so much together... so that's a thing.
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