HDBD + Randoms?

[Winnifred]

Is it just me or is this place kind of a ghost town lately? Where are all the pregnants? Anyone care to share a bump pic this week?

[Winnifred]

I'll go first - 38w3d, ready to get this baby out into the world:



For once I was able to take a picture in our guest bedroom without being photobombed by our pets. However, this picture feels kind of lonely without them, lol!

[marshian]

Only at 11 weeks today. FTM and no bump yet. I'll LT everyone else's cute bumps though!

[thelittleredm]

I've been thinking the same. Maybe it's just a post-holiday slump?

Here's my 34 week bump

[mustloveerica]

It's definitely been quiet around here! I hate it. I need a distraction from work. I posted this picture everywhere today haha. But I feel like I popped in the last week. Belly is looking rounder instead of just chubby.

[Winnifred]

Everyone is looking so cute!

I was wondering about the post holiday slump for sure. Or perhaps some of our more active members have had their babies recently and left us? I'll admit I'm kind of dreading moving into the Parenting group, I'm not sure how active I'll be there. It's just SO busy...

marshian, bloat bumps count, right? I had one early on, unfortunately!

[marshian]

Nov 30, 2016 15:04:58 GMT -5 Winnifred said:

marshian, bloat bumps count, right? I had one early on, unfortunately!

Some days by late afternoon/evening the bloat is so bad! Nothing that looks like a bump yet, though I'm fluffy around the middle so probably won't show too early.

[akraus2015]

Winnifred, Parenting scares me sometimes, too. I hate jumping into the middle of a thread. I feel like I need to read the whole thing first, but it IS so busy!

My blump is embarrassingly big...at 7w2d I am visibly pregnant...I can't even button my pants anymore. :/

[mustloveerica]

Nov 30, 2016 15:27:45 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Winnifred, Parenting scares me sometimes, too. I hate jumping into the middle of a thread. I feel like I need to read the whole thing first, but it IS so busy!

My blump is embarrassingly big...at 7w2d I am visibly pregnant...I can't even button my pants anymore. :/

Belly bands! Soooo much more comfortable than trying to force your pants to button. I can still wear some of my regular pants now thanks to belly bands lol.

[akraus2015]

Nov 30, 2016 15:58:11 GMT -5 mustloveerica said:

Nov 30, 2016 15:27:45 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Winnifred, Parenting scares me sometimes, too. I hate jumping into the middle of a thread. I feel like I need to read the whole thing first, but it IS so busy!

My blump is embarrassingly big...at 7w2d I am visibly pregnant...I can't even button my pants anymore. :/

Belly bands! Soooo much more comfortable than trying to force your pants to button. I can still wear some of my regular pants now thanks to belly bands lol.

Love my belly band!

[icedtea]

akraus2015, all bodies are different!

I should probably get a belly band. I think most things have been slow because of the holidays/travel.

[Winnifred]

I have to admit I never even used my belly bands to keep up normally buttoned pants. I just went full on into maternity pants! When in Rome...

[akraus2015]

Nov 30, 2016 16:56:35 GMT -5 Winnifred said:

I have to admit I never even used my belly bands to keep up normally buttoned pants. I just went full on into maternity pants! When in Rome...

I can't wear my maternity pants yet. I'm in the "inbetween" stage. Theres still way too much fabric around my butt and and crotch area...it gets all bunchy. My regular pants still button but the pressure makes my stomach hurt.

Lots of leggings happening here...can't wait until the weather warms up again and I can just stop wearing pants entirely.

[nic1231]

Nov 30, 2016 16:56:35 GMT -5 Winnifred said:

I have to admit I never even used my belly bands to keep up normally buttoned pants. I just went full on into maternity pants! When in Rome...

Right there with you! I couldn't get behind the band, my maternity pants were just so much more comfy, either that or some yoga pants!

[nic1231]

Please enjoy my work bathroom selfie lol

[notagoddess]

Nov 30, 2016 17:09:26 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Nov 30, 2016 16:56:35 GMT -5 Winnifred said:

I have to admit I never even used my belly bands to keep up normally buttoned pants. I just went full on into maternity pants! When in Rome...

I can't wear my maternity pants yet. I'm in the "inbetween" stage. Theres still way too much fabric around my butt and and crotch area...it gets all bunchy. My regular pants still button but the pressure makes my stomach hurt.

Lots of leggings happening here...can't wait until the weather warms up again and I can just stop wearing pants entirely.

I wasn't able to button my pants by 8 weeks either, even though I lost weight. I wish I had gotten a belly band, but in a pinch, the hair band trick works pretty well too.

[silvermelody]

Please enjoy MY work bathroom selfie as well! 32 weeks with baby 2

[Winnifred]

Has anyone seen this site before? spacefem.com/pregnant/charts/duedate3.php

Lots of interesting data but I'm not sure how valid it is. I keep telling myself that there's an 80% chance this baby will come on her own by 40w6...

[notagoddess]

28 weeks and feeling huge. It's hard to believe baby will double or triple her current weight still.

[akraus2015]

I'm so disappointed. I just toured a wonderful birthing center and met a midwife group that I absolutely loved and H is throwing a huge fit. He is absolutely against using a midwife. He keeps saying "they aren't trained if something were to happen". THAT DOESNT EVEN MAKE ANY SENSE!

We absolutely will not come to an agreement on this...I know him and there will be no bending. So now I either give in and do what he wants or go against his wishes and do what I'm comfortable with. Either way, I lose.

[akraus2015]

Now he's telling me he's freaking out because he has a customer whose wife died in childbirth and he thinks it could happen to me. Omg. I do not know how to reason with this.

[silvermelody]

I was high risk with DS (and again now) due to gestational diabetes and I still got to have a midwife at the hospital instead of an OB. Obviously there were still OBs on call that night but midwives are absolutely trained on what to do if things go sideways.

Maybe look up the training requirements for midwives in your state?

[akraus2015]

Nov 30, 2016 20:32:20 GMT -5 W said:

Nov 30, 2016 20:09:22 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

I'm so disappointed. I just toured a wonderful birthing center and met a midwife group that I absolutely loved and H is throwing a huge fit. He is absolutely against using a midwife. He keeps saying "they aren't trained if something were to happen". THAT DOESNT EVEN MAKE ANY SENSE!

We absolutely will not come to an agreement on this...I know him and there will be no bending. So now I either give in and do what he wants or go against his wishes and do what I'm comfortable with. Either way, I lose.

so DH was skeptical at first too, but the practice I go to has several OBs that can be there on a moments notice if something goes array. Does yours do that? Would that ease his fears?

Yep, which is why I thought it would be such a good compromise. If needed they just take you upstairs to the labor unit or whatever it's called, and your midwife gets to stay with you. There's also one of the best NICU and Children's hospitals in the area right there in the same building. He seems to think that the fact that they have the OBs available if needed is an indication that the midwives are somehow lacking in their ability to get my baby out safely. I'm so frustrated. We don't argue well, and neither of us is good at understanding the other's perspective.

[akraus2015]

Nov 30, 2016 20:33:49 GMT -5 W said:

Nov 30, 2016 20:11:45 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Now he's telling me he's freaking out because he has a customer whose wife died in childbirth and he thinks it could happen to me. Omg. I do not know how to reason with this.

honestly, it sounds like he's scared and doesn't know how to express it. Plus, there's only so much he can do now and during the pregnancy. I'm thinking (and could be wrong, I don't know) that he's just feeling protective and although he wants the best, he is nervous.

This is exactly it, but I don't know how to help him through that. I don't know how to rationalize with him.

[icedtea]

I really wanted a midwife, but it didn't work out. akraus2015, is he willing to read up on their training, the history, and how knowledgeable they are? It's not like you're saying you want a home birth.

[akraus2015]

Nov 30, 2016 20:35:21 GMT -5 silvermelody said:

I was high risk with DS (and again now) due to gestational diabetes and I still got to have a midwife at the hospital instead of an OB. Obviously there were still OBs on call that night but midwives are absolutely trained on what to do if things go sideways.

Maybe look up the training requirements for midwives in your state?

I even pulled their individual bios ahead of time and read them to him. They're all very highly qualified. We in an area with GREAT hospitals and some of the best medical schools in the country. There's definitely not a shortage of trained professionals here.

Ugh, sorry, I just get so frustrated because he and I definitely do not speak the same language when it comes to this stuff.

[akraus2015]

Nov 30, 2016 20:37:30 GMT -5 icedtea said:

I really wanted a midwife, but it didn't work out. akraus2015, is he willing to read up on their training, the history, and how knowledgeable they are? It's not like you're saying you want a home birth.

Right. It's not like I'm requesting to push the baby out onto a stack of hay in the manger...

[akraus2015]

Nov 30, 2016 20:40:24 GMT -5 W said:

Nov 30, 2016 20:36:44 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

This is exactly it, but I don't know how to help him through that. I don't know how to rationalize with him.

I would tell him to do some of his own research. Tell him you've done it on your end and feel comfortable and would like him to do some research too. Maybe that'll help?

I'm hoping that he will!

[akraus2015]

Thanks for the support friends. We seem to have diffused the situation for now. We'll pick it back up when I'm ready to try talking about it again.

[silvermelody]

It sounds like that birth center is very similar to the maternity ward I was on. I was on constant monitoring. The midwives did everything: cervix checks, placing the cervical balloon, even putting on the internal monitors after my water broke.

The OB was checking the monitors from the central station but I didn't even meet her until DS started having distress.

I think the other posters are right, our husbands don't have the exposure to all the stories and info bombardment that we do. They need to be coaxed into doing more research